Bedroom banter?

Question

Ok where do i start, im female and im told im not very vocal in the bedroom (embarrassing)
But what do you say, im not into any pervy talk if you know what i mean, what do men wanna here? can only compliment them so many times on what there doing.

help needed

Answer 1

You don't have to develop a guttermouth to be sexy in the bedroom; I always find that stupid rhetorical questions i.e. "You like that?", "You want me to do that more?" get me going. On the plus side it means you assume control.

Answer 2

You don't have to talk pervy. You don't have to scream (even men know that's fake)

But if he is doing something you like and you want him to keep doing it - you gotta give him a little feed back. Just a soft moan, a catch in your breath or whispered "that feels so good" - will do it. You don't have to make noise all the time but If you don't make any sounds at all - he thinks that he is not pleasing you.

Next time you are focusing on his pleasure - notice - does he give you any feed back? If yes, what is he doing - is it something you can copy? If no - how does it make you feel.

Answer 3

hey, don't feel bad. What men want is for you to be yourself. I personally am not very vocal in the bedroom either, but I have had only compliments .. in that area. For me it is more important that your not fake about things than it is for you to be loud. However not all guys are like me, the question is what does your man like?, and if he does like for you to be vocal, then what would it hurt to say "OH GOD!" or "yeah! right there, LIKE That" or whatever. Personally I go more by her facial expressions (they are less likely to lie) than by her vocal expressions. As a matter of fact, if she yells alot and I perceive it to be fake, it is a turn off.

What it all boils down to, I think the best advice is for you to be yourself, and be happy with who you are. Don't get me wrong learning a few tricks in bed is not a bad idea, just "hoopin and hollarin" isn't much of a trick. Different movements will get you alot further.... I could say, but would rather not here.


I hope this helps, take care

Answer 4

You don't need to say anything if you don't want to. Some people love to talk dirty in the bedroom, others don't.

I think it is better to say nothing than try to talk dirty if it makes you feel uncomfortable. I think you have to let the passion of the moment do your talking for you.
Talk (shout or whisper) about what you would like to do to him and what you would like him to do to you. Say things that will encourage him to orgasm.

Although I've never made love with a 'vocalist', I imagine that liberal use of vulgar words for genitals and bodily fluids would rev my engine. I usually say things like this while telling my partner what I'm going to do to her and how she's going to get serviced. It seems to work quite well.

On the other hand, I think a lover who talks too much during lovemaking would become tiresome.

Could you ask your guy what he'd like you to say?

Hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 5

If your partner is wanting you to talk like a porn queen then you don't need them. You could talk about what you like or want from your sexual relationship. Things you have no interest in (i.e. threesomes, etc.) Ask them what they want in bed. What do they enjoy, dislike? You can talk about things outside of the bedroom in the bedroom as well. You are not a reactor in the bed, you are an actor. Take the lead and see what happens. Again, if this person wants porn, let them go elsewhere. Your better than that.

Answer 6

I don't talk much either, I find it breaks the moment. I have laughed in a lass' face before now for saying cheesy porn stuff. Couldn't help it!!!
I suppose everyone has their own way of doing the bedroom stuff, there's nowt wrong with quiet.

Answer 7

maybe it's more about compatability than any 'problem' you have - i think i'd find 'yeah baby' VERY strange from any of the women i have slept with! but i do like to know if there's anything i can do better...or more...or less...and most of the time this seems pretty obvious without detailed, verbal responses!

other than involuntary moans i don't want to hear too much...and DEFINITELY NOT compliments!!! ( i like to talk afterwards though - so maybe i'm not so representative.)

Answer 8

Based on what you've told us, I recommend keeping it low and sultry. But also, keep it for real. All you have to do is verbalize the sensations you're experiencing. A few well-placed observations are all you need.

Things like:
ummmmmmmgggg I love when you touch me there
ooooh, that gives me gooseflesh
aaaaaaaaa god that makes me shiver
mmmmm, I like the way your skin tastes
wow, our bodies fit together so well
Gahhhhhd you're really deep in there
ummmmmmm, I wanna scream
you're getting me so wet i can't stand it
let's do it right here
use your fingers!
i wanna taste you so bad
come on, really give it to me
feed me that thing baby
cmon oh god make me take that thing
oh man! yeah! right there! yes yes yes right there!
ummmmmph! yeah! do it! i'm your b.i.t.ch
that thing is yours, you own it, do whatever you want with it
cmon baby mess me up, make that thing hurt
uhhh! uhhh! come on, i can't last much longer!

. . anyway, I'm just offering these as examples. these are some of the things I've heard, ummm. . just my personal experience. .feeling a bit embarrassed now, also suspect this will get flagged, but oh well

good luck!

Answer 9

Ok, sorry, we guys generally are very visual and very turned on by sounds. So you don't have to talk as long as you will moan, groan etc. But is he doing everything right? Coaching is never a bad thing as well - like - well, you get the idea. Good luck!

Answer 10

I bet you a million dollars if you were getting broke off properly, you would make the call of the wild sound. If he knew how to get down and I mean down into to it like a real man knows how I just know in my heart of hearts that you would wake the dead