Here is my situation..awhile ago me and my friend use to get into it all the time to the point i felt we needed time apart. we still communicated but i began to understand my pattern of jumping into one relationship to another and never had time for myself. so i began to enjoy my own time and be me. now we cool but i get condemned cuz i said i was not ready for relationship cuz of newfound feeling forself. she felt like i did something wrong and it is not like i don't care but we are always in argue mode and then i felt it is very important to recognize my own identity and learn to like myself. am i wrong for feeling t hat way or should i cave in and agree to going back t o relationship
2007-08-13 13:12:59 · 6 answers · asked by sean b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, if you're looking at it as "caving in", definately don't do it. Its pretty obvious that you require time for yourself and I think it's commendable that you stepped back and focused on the situation logically. You took time for yourself and want to work on something that you feel needs improvement. Don't let her talk you into anything. It seems like she's taking things personal and her feelings are probably hurt. She might feel rejected. Really lay it out to her your reasons for avoiding a relationship. If she still can't accept that, then move on - if she truly cares about you, she will understand. If she doesn't, you're probably better off not talking. Pressure is never a good thing, it leads us to make poor choices. Good luck. It sounds like you're on the right track. Just don't give up your new independence if it's not something you completely want.
2007-08-13 13:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not wrong for feeling that way. What ever you do in life, ALWAYS be true to yourself. If you feel like you need time alone you should not feel guilty about it. The better you know yourself and what you want in life the more stable your relationships will be in the future. Maybe you just need to explain that to your friend. Do not let anyone pressure you into a relationship you don't want or are not ready for. Best wishes in the future!!
2007-08-13 20:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Evie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need some space to find yourself. But sadly your partner doesn't understand this. Mabye she feels that you have rejected her. Well there two good point to this. If you find out more about yourself you will in the future know what you want in life. Like you said yourself you tend to jump in and out relationships all the time. Don't just go back into the relationship just to please someone. That is just guilt feeling. Discover yourself. You be amaze what you learn about yourself there.
2007-08-13 20:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are right!!
you really do need to like yourself first so you can have a good relationship with another & if you loved her you would just go back anyway
all the best to you
2007-08-13 20:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that if you dont love yourself first then how are you suppose to love anyone else... being made to go back into a relationship like that will not last and she needs to respect you enough to understand....
2007-08-13 20:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get back into a relationship because you feel you are being guilted into it. Only get into a relationship because you want to be with that person and can't stand to not be with them. She is going to be upset but you have to stand your ground.
2007-08-13 20:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋