Ladies,(not girls) how do want a gentleman to treat you if truly loves you?

Question

Here it is, (other gents need not answer) I am deeply in Love with some one I once was friends with and I don't want to rush anything or make her feel uncomfortable,alas I also want to show her how much I care and be able to spend more time with her alone wihtout drawing too much attention. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Another signifigant detail is that we live quite a ways from eachother.

Respect is not an issue in our relationship. I would never make any ininvited advances.

Answer 1

What is her interest? What does she enjoy doing?
If I were in her shoes, I would be very happy if I were invited for a small yet unique event of my interests (I like music and movie) in town.

For example, this guy friend of mine invited me to this small concert. In this concert, first, the audience listened to the live music and later we were invited to volunteer to play the musical instruments along with the professional musicians and play the same live music they performed. It was a small, unique and very special concert for me.

After taking her to an event, take a small walk (if she wants to) and ask her questions about what she thought about the event and listen attentively to what she says. That way you are showing that you care about her without being too "obvious." Then invite her for coffee to continue the conversation. But please do not spend too much time with her. That way she won't feel "pressured" or "rushed." Gentlemen are always ought to keep courtesy.

Here is the summary of my answer:

1. Invite her to an event of her interests (if it is something small and unique, that would be special).
2. Make sure to ask her what she thought of the event. You don't need to familiar with her field of interest but make sure you listen to her attentively and ask her questions. The point you wanted to get across is you want to get to know her and interested in what she likes.
3. Take her for a small walk or coffee for a change.

I hope this helps. Good luck with your friend!

Answer 2

Respect, you can't love without respect. I always like a guy who opens a door for me, stor door or car door, I don't say anything, if a guy automatically does it (especially a car door) I'm more interested. It shows he's a gentleman.
It's not hard to be a gentleman, just listen and have some patiance. If you show her respect then respect should also be given, if not then there's something wrong with her.
Do little things like pick a flower just for her, even those flowers that you can blow and supposedly make a wish, I think it's really a weed though.
Walk a woman to her front door and instead of honking the horn go up to the door... the little things mean a lot, trust me.

Answer 3

Treating me with respect if the most important thing. It's great if you love me - but if you don't treat me with respect - I'll show you the door.

So what is treating a girl with respect? It's simple stuff really - for example:

when your out with her - don't be girl watching. Sure, your male and not dead - so I know your going to be looking at other women (I look at men) just don't do it when your with me. And really don't point out other women to me. I don't care that she has great knockers. Save that for when your with the boys.

Be considerate of my feelings. If you went out with the boys the night before - How about giving me a phone call the next morning. I'm not your momma so I don't tell you what to do and you don't have to ask permission. But if I know your out partying with the guys and 2:00 the next day rolls around and I have not heard from you - I really do get worried that your dead in a ditch somewhere. If you can't call - at least shoot me a text message that lets me know your home safe. (you'd want me to do the same if I was out with the girls, right?)

If I look pretty - tell me. What you don't know, is that I probably spent a lot of time getting dressed to see you. I changed my shirt 4 times before I finally decided on this one.

As far as your situation goes - take is slow. Some of the best relationships started as friends.

Answer 4

Well I'll tell you what I would expect. I would want to notice him trying to get to know me, asking me personal questions as silly as what is my favorite color, favorite foods...etc. Anytime she looks bummed out throw a joke at her and show your concern.

Just keep hanging out like you usually did as friends, of course just you two together. I would initiate the hold of hand before anything ;) Perhaps compliment her once in awhile too.

That's all I can think of for now...but there are some basics for you. In time, the more you guys are together, and once the hand holding connection is established, you guys will get closer beyond the friendship...perhaps smoochy smooch next.

Best Wishes

Answer 5

TIME, buddie! All that will help is time and patience. Do nice things. Be there when she needs you. Lunch dates, workout dates, cards or flowers every now and then are some things that she might like and not find uncomfy. Spread them out though of course. Talk to her most of all. Dont be to desperate or serious either.

Answer 6

Make her feel comfortable. I'm sure if she's feeling the same way, she won't mind any gentle advances. She'll let u know if she does. Why don't u just ask her to go to a more intimate setting? Talk to her, and she'll let u know...or just take her somewhere nice where u guys can be alone together...and see where it goes.

Answer 7

Show her respect, above all things. Without respect, there can be no love.

Answer 8

respect me, love me for who i am, not who you want me to be, and hold the damn door open for once....luckily i married a guy like this. he even helps me on with my coat if i need to.

Answer 9

treat her real nice=]]