ok me and this girl were like.. having sex
she didnt say she hated it she said she loved it BUT she said it couldnt get out to public that she lost her virginity to ME
i was asking her wats wrong with me and stuff
then she said if it would get out she would tel lthe police it was rape.... wat do i do ppl
seriously....
2007-08-13 12:52:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her about it again...only this time have a mini tape recorder with you that you keep hidden so you have proof of what she said if she turns on you. She sounds pretty immature and disturbed...you should probably try to stay away from her. At the same time,she probably just doesnt want you discussing her sex life to other people...its supposed to be a personal thing meant to be shared and dicussed by the people involved only.
2007-08-13 12:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
. Are you 18 or older and Is she under 18? Do you know if she really was a virgin ? The "first time" for a girl is not usually good. Don't say anything and do stay away from her.I would maybe talk this over with a consulor , without mentioning any names,in case the girl does holler "rape". If you don't have a ( school ) consulor talk to a lawyer ( find one where you get the first hour free ,you ask when you call. When the secretary asks what it's about say you need advice) Minister, or even a police officer make sure they write things down so they'll be a record of what you said and get a copy. Tell whoever you talk to everything , what she said, what she threatened you with etc. That way if she does make trouble for you ,you will have someone ,outside of your family, who knows the girl had threatened you about this.
2007-08-13 13:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by SandyO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if the woman seems willing at the time but later changes her story, the act can be considered rape. You really need to "know" the person you're having sex with nowadays or you can be in big trouble. You may want to invest in a long-term relationship next time. Sorry, but the law and media are stacked against guys these days. You can thank the Feminazis of the 70's for that.
2007-08-13 12:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had her consent, then it is not considered rape. This girl sounds as though she has a few issues and personality traits that are a bit unsavoury.
Saying that she loves sex and then telling you not to tell anyone sounds a bit manipulative. If she didn't want anyone to know that she lost her virginity to you then it sounds as though she was just using you (sorry, I don't mean to be harsh in saying that, I am sure you are a lovely guy)
Steer clear of her and as long as you know in your heart that you didn't force her to do something she didn't want to, then there should be no problem. If people ask, then all you have to do is say 'No, I didn't sleep with her...'
This way, you are pertaining to her wishes that she doesn't want anyone else to know. That make sense?
Hope this helps and have a great day/night!!!
x K
2007-08-13 13:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? As long as there is no weird age thing going on, then I don't think you have anything to worry about if she was willing.
But, she sounds a bit weird. I wouldn't go around bragging about it. I personally don't believe that sex matters should be discussed outside of the two who slept together anyway. She probably has an innocent reputation to uphold and does not want to be labeled as a "slut" or whatever. So she threatened you as a mean to keep your mouth shut.
2007-08-13 12:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by January 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.. just the fact that you are asking means you are too young to be having sex. You are not mature enough for the responsibilities that come with it.
That being said. As long as you keep your mouth shut, I don't see what the problem is. The girl obviously does not want to be labeled as easy or worse, and if you have an ounce of decency or integrity you would respect that.
2007-08-13 12:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by sage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't rape if she didn't tell you no and you didn't force yourself on her. Depending on your age, it might be considered statutory rape. She might be able to get away with claiming rape, but I doubt it. There are ways to find out. Anyway, it would be better if you didn't tell anyone about it, because she might be able to get you into trouble. Not saying you did anything wrong, but she's looking for a way to keep herself out of trouble. Also, don't see her again. She's using you. You're better off finding someone else.
2007-08-13 13:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's rape, but what i think does not matter if she goes to the police and says that it was.
She just does not want her parents to find out she is sleeping with you.
i would NOT tell ANYONE about this! give it some time, and then dump this crazy girl! There are plenty of other delicious babes out there that don't care if people think they are
s!uts.
2007-08-13 14:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by sportguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are still in school tell a guidance counselor or your parents. In any case it would be your word against hers....... She can tell the police whatever she wants, but then she has to prove it. But if she did tell the police that, be prepared to be arrested and go through the whole court scenario which could take months.
2007-08-13 12:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by weapon_30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok its not rape if she willingly did it. but if u are over 18 and she is under aged then i would have something to worry about the worst that could happen is a restraining order made by the parents to protect their "innocent baby"
2007-08-13 13:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Chardonnay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋