Ladies how did you get over a breakup??

Question

I'ved been in a relationship for 2 years and it was pretty intense i was wondering how did you move on??I broke up 2 weeks ago... don't have a lot of friends (2) and i see them occasionally because they boyfriends and we have different schedules.Did you joined the gym? Did move to a another city? What did you do??(it's hard not to call or e_mail him)

Answer 1

First I hold an all out pity party. - 1st - set a time limit for your pity party. Know that on Monday morning when you wake up - it's over.

Then go for an all out pity party. Take a night or a whole weekend if you need it - and eat what ever you want - drink - smoke cigs if that's your pleasure - stomp, cuss,yell, scream, throw pillows - drink adult beverages - and cry. Cry until you can't cry any more. Once you think you have no more tears - force your self to cry again. You have to get as much of the tears out as you can. Force those little buggers out. I usually end up wearing myself out and falling asleep.

Then wake up and move on. You have had your pity party and now it's time to start healing and moving forward. You will still have that hole inside -but over time it does close up.

If your not happy with the way things are - then make changes. If you think your fat - join weight watchers. Need a new look -buy a box of hair color and give it a try.

You don't have a life - get one. After my last brake up - I signed up for swing dancing lessons and belly dancing lessons (after all - as a full figured gal - I got plenty of belly - might as well teach it to do something!). I am considering getting involved in volunteer work.

So far, I have not really made any friends that I hang out with after class - but for 2 nights a week I have somewhere to go. I'm not sitting at home fully aware that I'm alone.

Besides when you do meet new fellas - it makes for great conversation when they ask what kind of things you do for fun and you tell them you're learning to belly dance!

Answer 2

I recently got out of a 5 year relationship (it was on and off). I went through the stage where I was very lonely and lost, that lasted a couple of weeks. What has helped me is going out and meeting new people. I don't mean dating right away, unless you're ready. I kept my head held high and was open minded about meeting new people. A couple of weeks later I met a guy who I'm having a wonderful time getting to know.

I would also suggest finding a new hobby. Go to the gym, join a book club, take a yoga class, etc. Whether you're making friends or meeting potential love interests, just have fun. This is your chance to be single and try to make the most of it. Good luck.

Answer 3

I listened to sad songs the first 2 or 3 days after, then moved on to funny songs and happy-ish music. I stayed in my room and cried but ((thanks to my sis' and I's friends)) I finally got out of the house and got my life back on track. Go out for a coffee or make a movie or something. I make up a cartoon character and made an actual animated cartoon =) Good luck and feel better soon!!!

Answer 4

Best thing to do is take him out of everything, your cell phone, your house phone, your address book, EVERYTHING. Know that you dont want him back, make yourself believe he wasnt the guy for you. Go out for a few drinks with close people. Make sure you dont date for a little bit. Make sure your comfortable with who you are and your actions. Don't let him feel like your the reason they broke up. Because its not. I wish you luck =)

Answer 5

well what i do to get over a break up is just do what all of us girls do best is cry allot and then just look over the realationship and then when were ready then we just try to get back on your feet and maybe start dating

Answer 6

you will never get over it even if u are with someone else its really hard but thats the way of life it u really do like him then get back together with him