my grandmother whom ive never seen eye to eye with has not told my husband and i congrats since our wedding in march. she knew however that we were having a simple outdoor wedding and not in a church because it was against my beliefs(im buddhist). my mother was very upset that she did not send us a card or anything after we sent her our wedding photos. well today we recieved our gift. first i should tell you that all she gives as gifts usually is a check. well our gift was a holy bible. i was furious and im trying to see the good in this or trying to think that she was trying to be nice but its hard after meeting this woman. im deeply offended. do i just send a thank you note and bite my tongue?
2007-08-13 11:55:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
also i was bapitsed christian and please respect that i do know the religion and it was not for me
she knows how i feel about this
2007-08-13 12:07:46 · update #1
Bite your tongue. And send a thank you gift. She obviously cares about your soul....very much.
2007-08-13 11:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Did you or your mother call to make sure she receive the photos?, your mother was up set maybe she should talk to her mother about there on problems without including you! I don't know what Buddhist beliefs are but most religion say turn the other cheek, call, extend you hand to her and say Thank You instead of a thank you card!!!! Some one needs to open the door I have little family left, and it would be a waist to lose a Grandmother or you mother lose her Mom. Good Luck
2007-08-13 19:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should all be respectful of each others beliefs, so bite your tongue, and send her a thank you note. Then on her next birthday, send her a Buddha statue and a copy of the Pali Canon.
2007-08-13 19:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a little rude and insensitive, but this is an old woman who sent you a gift and who you should not assume meant any offense by the gesture. Hold onto it with pride, bite your tongue, it will do not good to make enemies here.
2007-08-13 19:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well, as tactless as the gift is...it would show you had more backbone if you sent her a brief thank you note rather than getting angry and insolent.
a gift is a gift. You get 3 gravy bowls but you still gotta thank each person lol.
2007-08-13 19:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you do anything other than sending a thank you note, I'm afraid it wouldn't be the right thing to do according to your religion.
Remember: she is your grandmother--regardless if you like her or not.
2007-08-13 19:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She obviously is concerned about your eternal soul and wants you to consider what she believes will happen to you if you don't trust in Jesus for your salvation.
Now I'm not saying that she was a model of diplomacy and tact, but instead of getting angry about it why not see that she at least is concerned about you and forgive her for not showing it in a way that makes you feel grateful?
2007-08-13 19:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Send a thank you note and keep trying to see the good.PEACE
2007-08-13 19:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by grace 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why not accept it graciously and try reading it?
There is some value to be found in the Bible.
Wouldn't you like to read it, and have a better understanding of it then she does?
And then just be humble about your knowledge.
2007-08-13 19:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mystine G 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
send it back if you are that offended. she is just trying to manipulate your thinking. biting your tounge only makes it bleed.
2007-08-13 19:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋