Should I let myself meet somebody?

Question

I have been widowed for over three years now. I feel like I am ready to meet somebody but not commitment wise. I like to have friends that I go out with but not rush into anythng too soon. At times, I feel guilty when I think about somebody I might like or if something might come of it I back out. I have a six year-old daughter I am raising on my own. I have a lot to consider is why I am not rushing into it but I don't want to make the wrong decision and opportunity has presented itself lately to where I could have made the wrong decision but got wise to it. It is hard to let go of things. I could never forget myself; he was my life but I know he is not coming back. So, I have to go on with my life. I know he would want that for me.

Answer 1

First off, you should be proud of yourself. You are now strong enough to move on with your life after such a tragedy. Start slow, go out on a date or two and see what happens. You don't have to committ early..just be friends and see what develops. Don't allow some overbearing man to force you into a relationship too quick. You have to let down your guard part way if you are ever going to meet somebody, but remember you are always in control on how fast your relationship moves. I know it is difficult, but you have to believe it is the best thing for you and your daughter. Trust you instincts, they will tell you whether it feels like a good situation or not. I am sure it is hard to let go, but you need to in order to continue living a healthy life. Put him in your shoes for a minute..if you would have passed away and he was a single father, wouldn't you have wanted him to move on his life and find a new companion to make him happy? I know it is hard because you loved him so much and I am sure he loved you just as much. You will always have a place in your heart for him. I am sure if he could talk to you right now, he would say he would want you to be happy and live the best life you could. You deserve to be happy and find someone to help take care of you and your daughter. Don't feel guilty when you know deep down inside you that is what he would really want for you....to continue a life full of happiness..... I hope this helps : )

Answer 2

first of all, let me say that I am so sorry for the loss and impact this had on your family. If you feel like it is time to move on, then go ahead. there is no time limit on how long you should wait - you need to do what feels right to you. I know some people who moved on in about a yr and some who have not moved on at all yet - one who never moved on & its been 8 yrs. Be careful (which it sounds like you are) and do not feel guilty. Unless you and your husband had a talk saying neither of you would ever move on in this situation you should not feel guilty and even if you did you should realize that until this happens to you it is hard to make that promise - You owe it to yourself and your daughter to be happy. good luck.

Answer 3

Hi Sweet Pea, I am so sorry for your lose. Yes you do have to be careful about who you meet anymore,specially when you a 6 year old daughter to think about. I know if I was in your shoes I would just date and have a little fun without getting serious right now. I hope this helps you.
A Friend.
poppy1

Answer 4

If you meet the right man, he will be understanding enough to go slow with the relationship and if your right for him, then he will take the time to wait until your ready.
Hope you still say hello to the man that has left your life, as they are still there spiritually.

Answer 5

You are never suppose to forget your love one, the only live in your heart. So keep him in your heart and find another man in your life.

Answer 6

So what's the question, seems like you already know what to do.