How would you handle this?..10pts. to best answer!.?...?

Question

I've been friends with this girl since 05. She is graduatig rom college this year and I'm a sophomore. The reason we became friends in the first place was because I was looking to go to her school, & met through a friend. We have never met in person, as it was a college visit. We only chatted online ..aim; text message; email and snail mail. Our friendship within a year went from really good to something I questioned. She considered me her friend before I considered her mine, and we even exchanged gifts ..just for fun and even xmas cards. After something she questioned me about that she did not apologize for, she became different towards me. At first it was like no big deal, maybe she didn't she offended me & then I felt like I was the one alwasy making the talk and not her. I felt like it's pulling teeth to get her to talk. I basically stopped talking to her since December. Now, I never told her I was mad at her & why.I assumed she knew

*should I finally tell her how I felt and why I stopped talking to her..and depending on her reaction, cut her off completely?.., she might of thought I've been busy or whatever. I don't think she'd purposely hurt me, What do you think?..I'm fine with letting her go, but I feel bad for not having talked to her about my problem, like friends do, like I should've done.

Answer 1

Well...I would try and get ahold of her...then try and explain to her how she hurt you and how you feel, and if she reacts badly, then at least you can say that you tried. If she understands, apologizes, and gives you a good reason on why she wasn't talkin' that much, then you two are golden. Other than that I can't really give you any advice....you should have told her that she offended you as soon as she said it...or at the next time you guys talked...but it's not a big deal, I hope your friendship works out!

Answer 2

Some people of course disagree, but I'm a believer in closure of any relationship. Been there, and every now and then throughout the years I wonder what happened. Nowadays, too, so easy to drop a line and just say hi, how are you, I'm about to (go to school, etc.) and what are you up to? And if she doesn't answer at all, then go ahead and ask what happened to stop the friendship, and if she ever wants to talk, give you a ring. At least you've made the effort and will feel a little relief and she may give you an answer or want to retain the friendship. Good luck!

Answer 3

Did she send you an invite to her graduation? Is there any reason for you to believe that she wants to continue the friendship? I don't think I would want to continue putting so much effort into an unrewarding friendship. You haven't spoken since December. Has she made any effort to communicate with you? If not, leave it alone. If so, and if you feel the friendship is worth saving. then by all means speak to her about your feelings. If you are not certain, just send her a congratulatory card on her graduation.

Answer 4

I guess I would just look at what's important to you. If mending the friendship is important, I would talk to her. If it's just about getting it off of your chest and you have no interest in continuing the friendship, I would just let it go for now. It sounds like you two have already drifted, and unfortunately that sometimes happens in friendships. I wouldn't write her off completely, but I would just kind of let it go. If she gets in touch with you in the future, it's fine for polite pleasantries, but have that be all.

Answer 5

you're not telling us enough. You write, "After something she questioned me about that she did not apologize for, she became different towards me." This could be major or minor, but it feels like you are glossing something over here.

In any case, she drifted away from you; you can't force her to be your friend. If you really need to, write her a long letter explaining your concerns, and leave it in her court to decide whether to resume contact.

good luck!

Answer 6

Are you sure you are just friends in both her and your perspectives? This sounds like there's something deeper to this story that your not willing to be made known. Just elaborate more, and follow your heart.