My husband went from wanting sex 3-4 times in a row to nothing for months now. There isn't another woman, so what else could it be?? We have been married for 10+ years and we are in our upper 30's.
2007-08-13 11:27:08 · 26 answers · asked by ecl12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can you be so sure its not another woman? It could be a ton of things.
2007-08-13 11:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation. Except I am not married and have not been in a relationship as long as you. My boyfriend used to always want to have sex and now I have to almost beg him. I forced him to talk to me about it and he has admitted that he feels he has too much of a good thing. Maybe this is your husbands case, maybe not but you should talk to him. He may not want to talk about it(like my boyfriend) but stress to him how important is. A loss of libido can be considered a sexual dyfunction. Has he started any new medications? That could have caused it. Let him know that it may not be his fault and that may open him up. Also don't start the conversation with "You do this" tell him how you feel first and that because you love him so much you want to fix the problem. Good Luck!
2007-08-13 18:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by AuroraOz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are drifting apart emotionally and physically. And don't be too sure there isn't another woman. Men don't go this long without ANYTHING, okay. He may be online hooking up or having a fling at work. Don't expect him to fess up about it. Get a book on re-kindling your passion. You need to examine the relationship to identify what the problem is. Sex is a reflection of the state of the emotional relationship rather than the problem in and of itself.
2007-08-13 18:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Stevie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY strange, as I'm in the same boat with you, but in my situation its my wife. I do admit our sex life was never 3-4 times daily, but it was 2-3X a week. Now, its like once every 3-4 mos (and its not fun at all). Its very disappointing and has me thinking, do I want to stay in this marriage.
I'm 36 now, she's 37, been married 12 yrs.
2007-08-13 18:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest I wouldn't rule out the other woman thing!!
I was going to say that not all men are sex mad, that's doesn’t make them gay, there just not your stereotypical man!! but when I heard he wanted it 3-4 times in a row it kinda threw that one right out the window!!
well as men get older there libido decreases, its normal for a man to experience a lack of sexual urges but he’s not that old so I don’t think it could be that unless he has a very bad diet!!!
The best thing to do is to simply ask him, he shouldn’t mind sharing it with his wife!!!
Good luck!
2007-08-13 18:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure there is no one else? If there really isn't. Then does he have a medical condition? Some medical conditions will hinder sexual drive. Has he been under a lot of stress? Lots of things can change this. That is definitely a big change in sexual behavior. I hope you find out what it is.
2007-08-13 18:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by chiclett35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression problems sometimes made the same un-need for sex...you should go to a counselor because you're right,It is very weird in a man GOSH!very RARE WOW!
2007-08-13 18:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Rute A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can't get it up no more and feels like he'll let you down. Try talking with him and try new things in bedroom cause i've been with my guy for 10 yrs and sex does get boring after awhile if you don't spice things up
2007-08-13 18:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to HIM. Misinfo from a bunch of strangers will not actually help, and may even give you wrong base info. Again, Ask your husband. Marriages are not based on public opinion.
2007-08-13 18:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds weird.
It is more often that the wife doesn't want sex for months or years at a time.
Doc
2007-08-13 18:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋