keep your gf of a year and half away from meeting your parents, altho they're nice people? does it mean she's not a serious relationship?
2007-08-13 11:15:07 · 11 answers · asked by Tia 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even if his parents are very nice people, meeting parents is a big thing. From that point on, his parents are probably going to be asking about you on a regular basis. Maybe he doesn't want his parents involved in your life together right now. Although I introduced my future wife to my parents after only a couple months of dating, I didn't bring her around our home much because my parents always seemed to make it awkward. My parents are great, but sometimes they don't know what to do with someone from outside the family.
Whether or not you have a serious relationship depends on a lot of other factors, such as how much time you spend together, how you handle holidays, and how you view little personal anniversaries (6 months dating, our first Christmas, etc.). Basically, as with all relationship issues that come at your stage of involvement, the best thing to do is to bring it up to him lightly. Do NOT sit him down with the "We need to talk" line. Start lightly and try to persist without nagging. Or, ask him to take you to meet his parents as a birthday/anniversary gift. It will show him how important this meeting is to you.
Some things to consider: Are you his first serious girlfriend? Has he been badly burned in the past? We know his parents are nice, but does he have a close, healthy relationship with them? Is he the oldest child? (As the oldest, this is the first time his parents would be exposed to the rules and ways of dating in this generation, which may be something he's not comfortable diving into just yet.)
Summary: Don't sweat it too much. Bring it up without sounding combative. If he continues to flat out deny you, then you may want to think about whether he truly is putting your wants and needs ahead of his own (as he should).
2007-08-13 11:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would see it as an insecurity issue. He may have embarrassing parents or there he may be afraid to show her off. Or you if your the gf. However, I would say that I know my parents can be embarrassing but regardless they are a big part of my life and if I meet someone who I am really liking or wanting to get serious then they meet my parents. If they can have fun and enjoy my parents then she is someone who I want to explore more options with. If I am not serious then I will not bring her around because she will not be there very long.
2007-08-13 18:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not done that, but am always nervous. The parents always freak out if I bring a girl home, or indicate that I am dating and am in a very close relationship.
They jump into unrealistic things, say really off-the-wall and goofball things, wonder if I am sleeping with her or if we are living together and having "inappropriate relations," etc.
This behavior was fine when my sister brought her boyfriend (now husband) home, because she is their only daughter, and they are traditionally responsible for the wedding, etc. But the behavior is completely blown out of proportion when I bring a girl home. It is not like I have to ask their permission to marry, and yet suddenly they become a bunch of Quakers and the gossip flies all across the world to relatives around the world.
It is almost like subjecting her to The Inquisition-my parents' reaction is so totally absurd. My gf says she thinks they are nice people, but to me, it is too much like taking her to the zoo, but with long lasting consequences from the Monkey exhibit. My parents just totally overreact and embarrass me. They act as if they are about to marry my gf.
This does not mean the relationship with you is serious. It only means that your bf is putting off the inevitable as long as he can and is a little embarrassed by the hell his own parents are about to put him through.
2007-08-13 18:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of three things:
1 - The girlfriend embarrasses him, or might embarass the parents.
2 - He is afraid the parents will embarrass him.
3 - He doesn't get along with his parents and wants to keep his girlfriend away from them so they won't offend her.
Doc
2007-08-13 18:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you are crazy or his parents are.
I think you need to talk to him about this, no one else can really guess his motives.
After a year and a half of not meeting his rents, I'd be moving on if I was you.
2007-08-13 18:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by LifeLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means a guy has embarrassing parents. If his dad is a former convict and his mom was a road stop whore, would you want to meet them so badly?
He has good reasons. If you trust him, then trust that he's right on this one.
2007-08-13 18:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Takfam 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents are crazy or girlfriend is crazy..and he sees it a big no-no if they all met. I met my boyfriends family within a few months..
2007-08-13 18:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt keep my gf from my parents but if i did itd b because im afriad they wont like her
2007-08-13 18:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by zack_attack. so original right? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he's embarrased of them or of you....he probably worries that you'll think his parents are dorky or they'll think that you are trampy or something like that....
2007-08-13 18:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but ur parents may be embarassing
2007-08-13 18:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by confused20077 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋