Do you think good manners?

Question

Do you think good manners have started to dissapear in our society?

and i don't just mean young people, some old people are the worst..

Answer 1

Yes. . .when you say something like thank you or hold the door for someone they look at you like you are crazy. I especially like a man with manners. . .very HOT!

Answer 2

I do believe that manners are not being taught any more !! Young punks on a bus that won't give up their seat to a little old lady are the worst to me!! I am finding that some young people feel the world owes them a favour and they don't have to be nice because that's not cool!! Peer pressure !! I have also noticed that some older people believe it's OK to swear around children what are they teaching the kids that it's OK to be obnoxious !! It seems to be getting worse !! I don't know what can be done about it other than courses on good manners !! It's becoming a world wide problem!!

Answer 3

I think unless you have children who are brought up through life to have good manners, be polite and respect their elders- which unfortunately are very few and far between these days- then the level of good manners in this country is awful.

Particularly in the towns, all this crime and hatred is awful, too much PC as well, i'm starting to hate living here. Gang talk, gun culture, low education levels and behaviour of children making the newspapers.

If you go to smaller towns and countryside villages- where people are better off- there is alot of 'old money' where the people have had gracious childhoods and not been allowed to drop their manners. The again by a majority of the population these people are regarded as stuck up 'toffs' and not at all respected for their manners and goodwill.

I think all children/ teenagers should have some form of compulsory national service or similar to get then used to organising themselves, respecting others and getting used to being disciplined. Too many children these days do what they want... i certainly hope our son does not grow up that way.

Answer 4

No - but I think that popular culture has a why of making it seem that way. I think in many ways good manners - at least here in the US - are on the rise. I look at the simple fact that although the media likes to report about crimes and other poor behaviors more there is actually a significant decrease in crime and as much as people criticize PC behavior people are more understanding of each other. The removal of instituational discrimination has led to a general more respectful society.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Yes, especially here in the US. Not all people are rude, and I mean no offense, but when I was in Germany and Austria two years ago, I could spot 98% of all Americans with my eyes closed! (We are a loud bunch!).

Manners, as well as respect, must be taught at a young age. It seems society as a whole is, indeed, slipping away from that.

Great question. Have a star!

Answer 6

Yes, they have!

Thank you for mentioning the young people, they are good examples of poor manners and behavior. Most young people learn from their parents, but some learn manners out of compassion and caring of another person's feelings.

Too many times, I have had to wait for a young person to walk in front of me, or cut in front of me in public and they haven't a clue how rude or ignorant they were to an elder. Respect for elders? What's that?

Too many people walk on the left side of the sidewalk, aisle or mall and just expect you to move out of thier way. Hopefully, they don't drive on the left side of the road!

And yes, some older people have given up and just do what they please. There is no time for politeness, common courtesy, holding the door, greeting someone that you make eye contact with at work or church, etc. Are people just giving up on living already?

Yes, good manners are starting to disappear...just not in my life.

Answer 7

I assume you mean the USA? From what I have seen, yes. Some other cultures are hanging in there a little better, but we are definitely in the dark ages when it comes to etiquette. I think however, the younger generation is starting to push a bit against this, and actually wants a return to a bit of formality, in both manners and dress. Bring it on! I'm sick of all these people who are rude AND you can't even tell whether or not they are wearing their pyjamas...

Answer 8

I hope not - good manners are are all about respect. (You would never be rude to someone whom you respect.)

I was taught 'respect' through fear - if I disrespected my parents I got a good crack round the earhole; but you reach an age where you realise you are being polite through fear more than respect.

I have tried to instill respect in my Granddaughter by asking her how SHE'D feel if someone did or said 'whatever' to HER.

I suppose I'm trying to instill a feeling of empathy within her - I did that with my son and it seems to have worked out well; everyone always says what a kind, thoughtful, (trustworthy) young man he is.

I'm very proud of my son - who also has perfect table manners.... shall I curtsey now... or wait until you throw flowers?

Answer 9

I think you already know the answer to this question.
Unfortunately, i was "nailed" by a client the other day for wearing my hat to the dinner table.
I had been working all day... forgot it was on!
Yet... NO excuse for wearing the hat, inside!

Kids these days... don't have the FEAR anymore.
I remember... swearing as little kids... but made DAMN sure NO (adults) one heard us doing so!

We knew... if it ever got back to our parents/teachers neighbors... somebody was going to get hurt!

Today... kids have NO reprercussions. Teachers/ parents are a lot softer than they were 15 years ago. What will this do to our society?
Well.. i know for sure... the product will be less respect (to self and to others) Dependency rates will increase... our next generation (lost) generation will be just that! Lost... no drive to do better... to be better and to do better. They are just numbers... of which will be dependent on services that our economies will be so reliant on! Coincidence?
NOPE... if this does not happen... then what will our society do? The service industry will crumble!
(DEPENDENT PEOPLE NEED TO GROW IN SIZE for us to prosper)

just my thought

Answer 10

Certain places still demand it such as at school or in court
I think alot of people do not see the point of being polite to people they don't like - but it is a necessary skill in life to get along with everyone
such people as Simon Cowell and Ann (weakest link) are bad role models
Quite honestly, I think that if you have good manners you can get away with almost anything!

Answer 11

Absolutly and completly! Especially with the youth of today! When was the last time you heard a youth say, excuse me if bumping into you or walking in front of you? Or say please and thankyou? Or holding the door open for others? Our kids are learning from thier piers what is "cool" behavior, and the parents of today don't expect respect from thier own kids.
It is sad to see how it is unusual to see good manners, not only from youth but even adults! Our society has become so self absorbed that thinking of the others around him/her just doesn't happen anymore. It is very sad.