if you love each other what is wrong with sex?

Question

i know the bible says not to but what is the exact difference between sex in marriage or premarital sex. is there something magical about the paper the state gives you or is another load of bs if your commited to your partner what is the real difference

disneyland fan is definetly lying

Answer 1

Beats me.

Answer 2

If you have any respect for the Word of God, *everything* is wrong with it! Besides being the most precious gift you can give your new spouse, your virginity is also a gift you can only give once! That's a gift my wife of almost 43 years gave me on our wedding night! She was almost 22 when we were married.

Any number of things can happen if you have sex outside of marriage, not the least of which, these days, is an STD! If you disobey God's law, not only are you disrespecting God - you are also disrespecting your current sexual partner and your future spouse! Even if that sexual partner becomes your spouse, what's so special about your wedding night or your honeymoon? Engaged couples have sometime lost their intended before the wedding; then what happens if the woman got pregnant? Abortion may be an "easy" solution; but it's not a moral one!

As someone else has said already, perhaps you should "take matters into your own hand" instead of engaging in fornication. And if you do not personally know "disneyland fan', who said she was a virgin when she got married, you shouldn't be "dissing" her - come to think of it, you shouldn't be doing it even if you *do* know her!

If this matter weren't so important to God, why do you think there are such strong teachings about it in the Bible?

Answer 3

Well, if you really are that much in love with each other, then you have to ask yourself what is causing you two to put off the marriage? If marriage is really "just a piece of paper", then what is stopping you from getting this little piece of paper? You can go down to the Justice of the Peace and get your marriage license right now; you can always have the formal ceremony later for your friends and family if it is so expensive that you cannot afford it now.

The real reason for putting off marriage, be honest, is that marriage is a legally binding contract that is difficult and expensive to get out of. People put off marriage because deep down inside they know that they really aren't that much in love, and they really aren't all that committed yet. Whatever excuse that you are using to put off the marriage is the same excuse that you can use to put off the sex until later.

If it makes you feel any better, keep in mind that in Biblical times, people were often legally committed (betrothed) to each other long before they were married, or allowed to have sex. Now days, people have sex the very night after they are committed (married), instead of waiting months to consummate the commitment, so modern people already have it better than your Biblical counterparts (and you get to choose your own spouse, rather than having your parents do it). You already have it better than they did.

Answer 4

Sex outside the bonds of marriage is an abomination, its fornication and a sin. Surely you know this if you've read the Bible. The Bible says that you are to not defile the marriage bed. I think you just want to defy God and have sex and have no commitment to your g/f. The Bible is clear, you just don't like what God says. The "magical" part is that God is in a marriage and the difference is this: sex in marriage is holy and wonderful, sex outside marriage is SIN.

Answer 5

People get hurt when they are cheated on
Kids may not know who their father is.
Single parent homes living (many times) on one minimum wage income.Have to live in slum areas.Kids have little chance of going to college and a good chance they will continue the cycle.(People today that grow up as a "have" think their being born with everything was somehow by their abilities and talent).
welfare
Only one man and one women having "normal" sex can procreate.
HIV and other diseases
PC telling people they can't appose sexual sin (not freedom of speech).

God designed men and women and they have the "tools" that only fit right when it is a man and woman.A nation that has marriages (only between a man and woman are more stable).
When a man and woman are married and faithful to each other for 50 or 60 years have no need to worry about disease.Their children know who their parents are.They have a better chance at a stable home and a better chance of working together to own a home (if their not born rich).

Answer 6

Premarital sex is fornication; you are taking something from someone that doesn't belong to you. Marriage is the true test of whether you are prepared to love someone for the rest of their life; it requires sacrifice on your part. If you just "shack up" with someone, what are you sacrificing? You can leave as soon as the relationship gets "boring" or some other problem comes up, leaving your spouse to raise the children that you created. If you really "loved" a person, then you would marry them.
"For this reason, a man will leave his mother and father, and cleave to his wife, and they shall become ONE FLESH." Two people living together are not "one flesh". They have not made any commitments to each other or to God. They are simply stealing sex from each other, and the person who suffers is that man or woman's future spouse. They get the baggage that you created.

Answer 7

The papers are meaningless. Did Adam and Eve have papers? There is nothing wrong with sex if the love is there, but we all would admit there is no need for sex in heaven.Having said that,it must mean we spiritually progress to a point where we don't need the pleasures of the flesh. That should be our goal.

Answer 8

I see the whole marriage thing as more of an insurance. I believe it was created so you wouldn't have sex, then the female has a child, and then the father leaves. This would probably make it hard on both the child and the mother.

Answer 9

In biblical times, there was no way to detect an early pregnancy or conclusively determine the paternity of a child, and so men had make sure that their wives were a virgins lest they be cuckold into raising another man's offspring. Fathers kept their daughters chaste so that they could collect high dowries from potential suitors, and the punishments for adultery were very harsh. These customs were codified into the Jewish laws which we have today as the Bible.

Answer 10

Your initial Q, answer would be nothing, it is beautiful and God given!
Your next statement is it can be good outside marriage, but that is sin, whether we like it or not.
And the piece of paper, as you so coldly put it is way more than that, so obviously you've never been there, otherwise you would know the reality of the depth and difference!

Answer 11

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