This guy I know from college just invited me to his wedding. I can't really say that I am friends with him, because I don't see him much. I might see him once every 2 or 3 years, and that's only because we sometimes have group gatherings with old friends from college.
I'd have to drive wake up early and drive an hour to get to this wedding, for a guy who I'm not really friends with. But I don't have a legitimate excuse to get out of it.
What would you do?
2007-08-13 09:43:27 · 26 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't go! You're aware, of course, that on the RSVP card, it doesn't have an essay section where you're required to say why you won't be attending. You RSVP with your regrets, and if you feel like it, you send a card.
2007-08-13 09:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 11⤊ 0⤋
The beauty of RSVP cards is you don't need a legitimate excuse not to go. If the couple asks if you are able to go, all you have to say is "I'm sorry, I can't make it." If they ask why just tell them a version of the truth: you aren't in a position to travel to the wedding. I wouldn't worry to much about it, I hope you don't take offense to this, but maybe in the same way you feel obligated to go because you have mutual friends, perhaps he felt obligated to invite you. If that's the case, once you send in the RSVP or tell him you can't go, no further questions will be asked.
But in any case, if don't want to go, don't go.
2007-08-13 16:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
RSVP that you cannot attend. If at a later time someone asks about why you cannot make it, tell them that you have previous plans. If you get pressed for details, tell people that it's a personal matter you have to attend to. Most people are polite enough to drop it after that. No one needs to know that those plans are with your own pillow. ;) If you like the guy enough to send a card, send a card but I wouldn't feel obligated to even do that. If the guy is really stressing about why you aren't coming to his wedding during this time with so many details to work out, he's got issues and you should stay away from him anyway.
2007-08-13 17:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by REN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just send your RSVP card back declining. It's not like they put a lot of extra space on those things demanding an explanation. It's no big deal, they may just invited you because they invited the whole group and felt a bit obligated to not leave you feeling left out anyway.
2007-08-13 17:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by az 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you haven't already told him you were going to be there, find an excuse... or really, you don't even have to give one. Send a congrats card and move on.
Couple who are getting married within weeks find themselves all giddy and excited, so they tend to invite everyone and their dog by mouth. Did you get a real invitation? Send the RSVP back to him saying you can't come. Really, you don't need an excuse.
2007-08-13 16:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simply decline the invitation, it isn't neccessary to give a reason. If he asks make something up or explain to him what u explained to us. You never know, he may have invited you b/c he invited the rest of the group that you gather with and didn;t want you to feel left out or have any hurt feelings.
2007-08-13 17:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make something up, what he doesn't know won't hurt him. People like to invite as many guests as they can to their weddings for the gifts, not saying thats the only reason he invited you, but I really don't think the guy will be crushed if you can't make it if your not that close anyways. Good luck!
2007-08-13 16:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by sweetkizzes6918 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think that people send invitations to as many people as they can just so they can tell you where they are registered in hopes that there will be someone like you that doesn't want to go and feels guilty so they send a present on their behalf. I wouldn't go nor would I feel obligated to send a gift.
2007-08-13 16:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by peacharc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to give them a reason why you are not going, it really is none of their business anyways. Just a polite inability card and you will be fine.
I never understand why people invite so many long lost buddies and 10 time removed cousins to weddings.
Why not just invite the nearest and dearest to your heart.
Ah well, to each their own I suppose.
I wouldnt go anyways.
2007-08-13 16:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go, send the RSVP card back with the cannot attend. Tell him you are sorry but you have a prior commitment and then buy him and fiancee a nice present
2007-08-13 17:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by Molly SH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋