should i let my daughter wear make up and get her nose pierced she is 12?

Question

i told her she could get it done if she gets good greads

Answer 1

yes for the make-up just mascara and lip gloss
no for the nose job i think u should wait until she's 16 and i don't think the skool will approve either

Answer 2

I started wearing makeup when I was 12, and I had no clue how to do it. I think if you sit down with her and show her different make-up styles and techniques, and agree on just a couple of more natural looks she could go for, the makeup would be a fine idea.

Go with her to Wal-Mart [or wherever you want to get her makeup at] and help her pick out lip colors and eye colors that will complement her skin tone. Don't let her get any base/foundation/cover-up. That will make her skin more likely to break-out, and when she's older, she'll get wrinkles quicker.

Sit down with her again in front of a mirror, and talk her through the application process. Walk her through it the first couple of times, then just tell her if she has any questions she can ask you, and don't be afraid to answer them.

Also, don't be afraid to tell her if it looks too deep, or doesn't look good on her. She might be upset when you make her take the makeup off, but someday she'll thank you. My mother never did that - I would go to school with raccoon eyes, and my skin broke out early, and I now have lots of complexion issues even though I'm a very clean person because it came early.

As for the nose piercing - my answer would be no. How many times does she have her ears pierced? Maybe you could let her get a 2nd set, or her cartilage done instead. But any piercings that aren't on the ears should wait until she's 16 [if you're very casual and completely at ease letting her get it done] or tell her she can't until she's over 18 and you can no longer prevent it.

That's just my personal view on things I'm 14 and going to be a freshman this year. And whenever I see people at my school with too many piercings on their ears, or piercings anywhere else, I usually think they're trying too hard to stand out or fit in, and it's nothing that makes me think any better of them.

I hope that you and your daughter can come to an agreement on what's acceptable. Maybe you should tell her if she lets her grades fall too much, you'll remove a makeup item. Like, for every grade she loses an item. Eyeshadow, then liner, then lipgloss, then mascara, or whatever order you might want.

That way she won't raise her grades for the makeup, then let them fall again.

Answer 3

Hey =) I say no to the nose piercing, just because she is still quite young. Maybe let her know that you've been thinking about it and that you think it would be wise to wait a bit (say until she graduates to highschool) just to make sure it's something she really wants. If she feels like she needs a nose ring then maybe the two of you could go out and buy a fake one or some body jewels that can be placed on her nose so that she appears to be pierced. I say yes to the makeup. Just be sure to teach her how to put it on and how to be sensible with her $. You two could go out and look at shades of makeup that would complement her features. Explain to her that makeup is a way to enhance beauty and not a way to cover up what's already there. Remember that she is only 12 so it may be good to limit the amount of makeup (just a few shades, or maybe just maskara, or lip gloss) and have fun with it. This will be something that you share together. Best wishes!! <3

Answer 4

Makeup, yes. Nose piercing, no!!!! She's 12 years old! I wasn't even allowed to get my ears pierced until I was 13. As for the makeup, she should be allowed to only wear a little- maybe a tinted moisturizer, blush, natural-color eyeliner on the top lid only, a little mascara on the top lashes only, and a nude or pale pink lip gloss. Any more than that and she'll probably get sent home from school. Lots of schools these days have strict dress-code policies on too much makeup. Not to mention she'll look rather tarty, don't you think? If you do decide to let her pierce her nose, I guess that's still less permanent than a tattoo, but it's important you know that many schools also have a dress-code policy against body piercings, as they deem those "distracting." And before you ask, they tend to frown upon unnatural hair colors like pink as well.

Answer 5

Judging by the other answers, I guess I'm old fashioned. I think 12 is too young for both. Make-up, I think, should be allowed gradually... starting in 8th grade, a little eye shadow and then in high school, mascara, eye liner and lip gloss, eyebrows - no foundation (do her a favor and take her to someplace to have it done right, so she can see how it supposed to be applied - and that's not thick and cakey).

I think the nose piercing should wait until she's 18. The reason for the piercings are for the "I'm different" value. There's a lot of other ways to show individuality when your an under aged teen without spearing your nostrils. I also think she should pay for it herself too.

Answer 6

No I dont think you should let her get her nose periced.. Im 14 and when I was 11 I went through a time where I wanted to get my nose and eyebrow periced, but Im glad I didnt. Ive changed my mind about this a million times and probably will keep on changing it.. The thing is that I keep thinking that when Im an adult ill be glad I didnt or if I still want one then I can get one then..

Now with make up I think you should let her go for it, just tell her no heavy makeup, just mascara lipgloss as standered and mabey eyeshadow on a special occation.
Mabey even bring her to a department store where they can show her what makeup will look good on her and what wont, just take the makeup artist aside and ask her not to use very much because shes looking for a look for school.

Thing is you have already told her she could do it if she gets good grades, so she might not take to kindly to your changing your mind.. so be nice

PS. sorry about my spelling mistakes

Answer 7

No way. If she wears make-up now, she may get attached and used to putting it on, and when she gets older she will look bad because the chemicals in make-up is sometimes very bad for your skin, so as she gets older her skin will look older and older. Tell her that if she wants her nose pierced, she should wait until she's 16 and then ask her again is she wants it pierced. I remeber when I was 14 I wanted to get my belly button and nose pierced, and now I am 16 and I find that a nose piercing makes some girls look trashy, and getting my belly button pierced would make look like almost every other teenage girl nowadays.

Answer 8

It is very important for a 12 year old to feel socially accepted. If you're questioning the make up, just tell her she can wear it as long as you are allowed to help her with it. Show her how not to look gawdy. I was not allowed to wear make up at that age and I still endedup pregnant before finishing junior high.

I would also go along with the nose peircing. I think it will allow her to feel mature. A nose peircing in not permanent, so I would let her go for it. If you don't she may end up doing it any way. She could get hurt doing it herself or having one of her friends do it.
good luck

Answer 9

make up - yes.
nose piercing - no.

make up is just a temporary thing, it can be taken off whenever you like.
but a nose piercing is permanent, painful, and can get infected.
usually, at 12, most kids haven't developed that awareness, and won't take care of it properly.

p.s. if this is really her mother, and not the 12 year old, it's GRADES not greads.

Answer 10

Ultimately, it should be your choice. But she should understand that the piercing is permanent in 1 of 2 ways. Either, the stud is permanent or the scar will be if she decides to let it close up. Either way, is she willing to have a mark like that for the rest of her life. I agree with everyone else, a small amount of makeup is okay if it's okay with you. But kids now days do tend to go heavy on the makeup and look a lot older than they actually are. Good luck!

Answer 11

i think its up to you

sorry if thats not much help, personally i wouldnt let her have the nose piercing until shes a few years older (but maybe thats just me)

as for the makeup, hmmmm. i think if you explain your reasons for wanting her not to maybe she will change her mind,(maybe you could come to an agreement about where to wear it and when etc so there are restrictions)

if not, only let her wear a little to start with becauase shes still quite young. show her how much and if she exceeds that let her know!

you need to make sure she knows that you have the authority to stop her putting it on so that she keeps up her work and doesnt think she can do/get whatever she wants.

then again, its you call! i hope this helps! let us know your decision because im interested lol.

good luck :)

xoxoxo