i just found out that my best friend is going out with a girl i hate oh so much. should i be mad? i mean i got a life, a man, and everything i need but, i hate her since middle and we still have problems. we still fight when we see each other. should i be feeling the way i am right now?
2007-08-13 08:51:48 · 34 answers · asked by TrACeY T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys i like what you think.
2007-08-13 09:00:23 · update #1
unfortunately you can be mad all you want but the truth is that you're in the middle of a girl game right now. just make sure that you tell him how glad you are that he's found someone. hope and pray it wont last but if he's really your friend do your best to make the experience pleasant for him. dont EVER let him see how much you despise her. and i'd even go so far as to let him see that you're trying to be her friend so that when he comes to you for advise he'll still trust your opinion. its kinda a race to see who can last the longest between the two of you girls now. sorry :(
2007-08-13 09:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Summerae Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your best friend how you feel. This new relationship can jeopardize the relationship you have with your buddy. You will want to hang out less with your bud if your bud is with the person you hate so much. Or you will have to limit the time you see your bud to times when the buddy can get out and see you alone without the Satan Child tagging along. There is nothing else you can do.. If your bud loves this person, you can't change your friends feelings. your friedns will probably shake this person off within 2 months. Don't sweat it! :)
2007-08-13 08:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, the fact that you and this girl cant get along even for brief meetings tells me there is something more there.You guys obviously care about each-other or have some sexual tension going on other wise you would care less what she says vise versa. I think you should look deeper into why the two of you are fighting and try to fix that!! Good Luck!!
2007-08-13 08:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by avonwithjulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are jealous. 9 times out of 10 if you dislike somebody that much, it is YOU who has something wrong. Do you have any deep down feelings for your friend? You need to be his friend and learn to get along with his new girlfriend. You don't have to like her, but be polite and the situation will be better for everyone including yourself. You may end up losing your friend over this otherwise.
2007-08-13 08:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by thedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've had the exact same problem, many times.
All I can say is how you feel is valid but you need to try and get over how you feel towards this girl and concentrate on your friend.
They most likely want to hear something positive about her somtimes so just try it.
Besides, even though they might be dating, it most likely won't last forever. Just because they are dating you don't always have to hangout with her too.
2007-08-13 09:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put your personal feelings aside. If he's really your BEST friend then respect his choices. It does not mean you have to like her....just try to be civil. Not only you, she should also respect that you are his friend and by dating him she accepts his friendship with you. I don't think people should have to choose between friends and their significant other, girls/boy friends come and go but friendships are forever. If you both care about him you should not put him in a situation where he's caught in the middle.
2007-08-13 09:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how u feel. u love him but like a brother and ur just trying to protect him, but it's his life u don't have love him going out with her. u just need to give her a chance, even though u don't want to. she could have a change of heart. just tell him how u feel about her and maybe he'll see how she can act. i'm soooo sry about how u best friend's gf and u always fight and hope this is of some help!!!
-a friend- :)) :]
2007-08-13 09:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sarahsomeone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. Your best friend has a life to lead too even if it doesn't include people who you like. Be happy with your life and your man, if she's that evil it probably won't last long any way.
2007-08-13 08:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, i just have one question, why are you still best friends w/ the person? fighting doesn't help, and if you really cared about your friend then you would know that it only matters of what they think of the person, you're not the one going out w/ the girl
2007-08-13 08:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Cute as a Button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your best friend's life, not yours. If he's going out with her, you should at least not get in the way. He's dating her, not you, and if it makes him happy you should be happy for him that he found someone. Try to ignore the fact that it's her.
2007-08-13 08:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋