is this... bad?

Question

i am tall, blonde, and athletic but i am only 15.
there is this guy that i see when i go to church, and he is 19.
i always thought he was pretty cute, but you know, it was just one of those passing glance things were you go 'oh they're hot' and move on with your life. lol.
recently though, i have begun to notice alot more stares comming from his end, stares from afar and quick glances if we are near. and at first i was like cool, but then it got to the point where it's just awkward.
i'm wondering, is this ok? should i try to get to know him anyway, or should i kinda casually stay away?

Answer 1

Of course... I'm sure since he is a church going 19 year old male he has only the best intentions when he starts eye balling a 15 year old.... Surely he wouldn't try anything he shouldn't right?

WRONG....

Do yourself a favor, hang out with guys your own age. Getting mixed up with an ADULT when you not even old enough to drive is simply stupid. And don't think your love will last forever, because once your knocked up and your parents are pressing charges for statutory rape your love will vanish pretty darn quick.... and you'll just be an unwed mother that was victimized.

Answer 2

Its not bad. Many couples have huge age gaps between then and they work out just fine. The problem herein lies with the boy.

Boys at that age are really just trying to have sex. Even if he goes to church. If you decide to get to know him, do so with caution. Don't hop into a relationship until you have known him for a long time.
Yes he may be cute and all that nonsense, but older guys are somewhat attracted to younger girls and as the younger girl (and the minor) you have to protect yourself from being the prey of an older male.
What you feel is normal. Boys are far cuter when they get older. Boys in your same age group are still awkward and immature. But beware, boys at 19 can be just as immature.
Keep looking at him - you are not doing anything wrong. But if his looks make you feel uncomfortable then you should look less and with more discretion.

Answer 3

I don't know, I read many answers before I decided to try my hand. I see that many people are thinking nothing of this. To me it seems just a bit creepy. He could be cool, you never can tell just from glances. But I get the feeling you are getting "stalker" vibes from him.

Best advice I can think of, ask around your friends from church. See if anybody has had more than a quick, polite church "hi" with this guy and find out their feelings on the guy. If many of your friends get a weird feeling from him, I would stay away. If nobody else seems to know him at all, stay far away. If you have friends that say, oh yeah I have hung with him a few times, he's a really cool guy, then ask for an intro if you want. Just don't go anywhere with him alone until you are sure he is just acting weird because he is shy or acting weird because he is weird.

Just remember, you don't have to feel badly about keeping your distance from anybody that makes you feel uncomfortable, and you don't have to explain yourself. Just keep yourself safe.

Answer 4

You can talk to him if you want. However, it's not really fair to him because it sends the wrong message if you are too flirty or suggestive. Now, he should have enough common sense not be involved sexually with a minor.... but this stuff does happen and he could end up in jail.

I've never walked around giving 15 yr old girls' "the eye" but maybe he doesn't even know how old you are. You can talk to him but make sure he knows you are 15.

In general... the whole thing is probably bad news if you decide to go instigate something.

Answer 5

I'm not saying you are immature, but the life changes and situations you will go through from the time you are 15- 19 are huge. Any 19yr old that looks at a 15yr old in any kind of way is a freaking wierdo. I mean what would you guys do together, or have in common? And the fact that it's in church and he's looking at younger girls is just plain scary1 Stay away for your own good.

Answer 6

well seeing as you are a minor in this I think staying away for now would be a good idea but I hate when people always make a comment on age. I don't see a thing wrong with age at all my BF is actually 16 years older than I am. We are so compatable it is scary sometimes. But as long as you are over 18 but until then I would remain friends and get to know him but just keep it friends until you are older

Answer 7

15? You must be hot. Go for the 19 year old. My advice is that the two of you can sneak into the confessional and get "religious."

Afterwards you should tell your parents and have him sent to jail for statutory rape. That guy is a pervert and everyone in town should know this. Stop going to church. You may be giving him the wrong idea.

Answer 8

this is bad wait till ur like 17 or 18 nd be like 21 22 try 4 some 1 ur age i mean its like a 4 year old dating a new born

Answer 9

Stay away - you are considered a minor and you don't want that trouble. True he is only 4 years older but it really isn't worth the trouble. Find someone under 18 and if the 2 of you are still interested by the time you're 17 & 1/2 I say go for it then.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

You said it yourself...you're tall, blonde and athletic. You know he's staring at you cause he thinks you're cute. Why not get to know him?? He's probably just shy! He may be one of the nicest guys you've ever met! If you avoid every guy that stares at you cause he thinks you're beautiful...you're gonna look like a bi+ch and nobody is gonna have the nerve to talk to you. Go say hi to him. It never hurt to be nice to someone. Besides...he's in church...I doubt he's an ax murderer.