i have a first date w/ someone i have known for quite awhile and am very attracted to but am concerned that his perception of me will change depending on how far i let things go on our first date. does it really matter when u do it?
2007-08-13 07:23:59 · 44 answers · asked by cecee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i wouldn't commit. first impressions are everything. let him work for it. if you waited this long whats a few more days or weeks?
2007-08-13 07:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Giving it up on the first date is NEVER a good idea. And you're right, his perception of you WILL change. He'll think you're an easy whore and he could get up and leave you alone right after that. Then you would've given it to him for no reason you wouldn't even be able to say you got a good relationship and good times outta him.
Its always good to make sure you're in LOVE with the person before all that occurs. Attraction is just the superficial but having sex goes much deeper. I gave it to a dude after 2 years and that was STILL too soon. LOL But it depends on the dude if he's a kepper or if he's trash. If he's a keeper he won't do it on the first date anyway.
2007-08-13 07:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would if we continued dating and grew stronger and we had a really healthy relationship and new that our bond was tight. I mean.. if it's like one date and they want it from u and u give it to them they might think ur easy so i would make them wait a little longer. To make sure for urself that they dont just want ur junk. But if it's a true connection and love at first site and u both feel that way and u think things will move past date one.. then why not.. have at it.
Although that's a very hard thing to tell and predict on the very first date so.. no id wait a little longer then date one. So in the end if something does happen where ur not seeing eachother u have enough respect to give to urself cuz u know ur not easy.=)
good luck on the date
2007-08-13 07:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot that goes into that question. The chances are one of two things will happen if you give it up on the first date. One is that there will not be a second date. Some guys feel if I got her on the first date and that is what I wanted why do I have to date her again. Second is that he will continue to date you but only because he thinks you are easy and that he is going to get lucky every time you two are together.
There is a remote chance that the guy you will be with wont think either of those two things but I wouldnt bet my life or relationship on it.
2007-08-13 07:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
However far you go, is how far he will also likely go - so whats the difference? If he has a problem with it, he has only to look in the mirror. I'm not advocating sleeping around by any means, mostly I'm trying to address the double standard. That said, I know a couple who had a 1 night stand thats lasted 10 years - 3 dating and 7 married - and still going strong.
2007-08-13 07:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by slushpile reader 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's funny, I've did that but when I did that for the first time I said DAMM what the hell came over me..I was a beast good golly oh mighty.. A sinner indeed..Then it was like a gateway drug, GOOD way of seducing a brainless person but not a good idea...I don't think that most people would take you seriously that's if they know or really don't know you......
I say why stress off the hot mess, it happend. Now if your thinking about commitment then obviously you were seduced or felt there was a slight connection, maybe you thought WOW, this one is a keeper. Who knows you like this person, why don't you ask? I mean if this is your question what makes you think he/she is not thinking the same thing...?
2007-08-13 07:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with you youngsters of today . Why always in a hurry to have sex,why not wait until you "think " its love . The trouble is ,and always will be ,in the end a fella does not want to settle down with a slag ,think about it ,ask around how many girls have been dumped after the bloke finds out she has slept around.Sorry but you will only realize this in about 10years time . OK i know I'm an old poop but i have never had diseases like "some " of to-days youngsters
2007-08-13 07:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only if it feels right. Because if you've known the person for awhile and have a previous connection with them. Then you might be willing to go further than you usually would. Go with what you feel. If you at all doubt it then stop, he should respect that, and it shouldn't change how he thinks of you.
2007-08-13 07:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've known him for a while you may think that you really know him, but you don't. Remember when you thought you knew say a friend or a relative, and then when you spent more time with them you either liked them more or were so disappointed by them?
Well until you spend quality, "alone" time with him you don't really know him. Take it slow you deserve to grow into a relationship. If you look at him as a one night stand then that's up to you. But if you really think he is special then wait and let it develop into something special.
Good luck!
2007-08-13 07:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by mutualmuse2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have know him for a long time i dont think it matters if you give it up on the first date. I personally (as a man) being truthful would suggest you do not put out the first date cause then you are setting yourself up to feel obligated to put out everytime.
lol good luck, i think if women want the D then they should let it be known.
2007-08-13 07:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by jthagreat04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does wanting to have sex with him make you a bad person? I don't think so. So, forget about what kind of person having sex on the first date makes you. And then think about wether this is something you want to do or not, wether you think this is best for your relationship. I'm not saying either way is right. It's your decision, and you're a great person no matter what you decide.
2007-08-13 07:33:02 · answer #11 · answered by LG 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋