My boyfriend and I Fight over stupid things. How can we stop????

Answer 1

Talk more about things that bother you/him. Discuss your day, things that happened, people u saw or w/e. Just talk. Communication is the key. If u fight over stupid stuff like me and my bf try and bite ur tongue.. I know it sucks but it will help. I dont like always letting them win so i always fight back.. but once u try and stop and be more mature then they are.. the fights stop. Someone has to do it right? certainly not them so we must step up.
If the fights are REALLY stupid try changing the subject to something u both like or agree on before u feel them getting bigger. That way it's avoided and u feel like ur both on the same level.
Hope it stop =)

Answer 2

First, it depends on what you call stupid, how long you've been with him, and how heated these arguments get. Arguments come from lack of communication. Work on being more open and honest in your relationship. Using tack and thinking before you speak is also a great way to break the ice and get talking. Fighting can be healthy because it airs out some things that may not have surfaced otherwise. If you are getting tired of the fights, try looking at what the problems are in your relationship and finding ways to solve them together. Good luck and be open minded because this may not be an easy habit to break!

Answer 3

Well, initially realize what you're arguing over is "stupid" and don't start the argument in the first place.

It's hard to answer this question without knowing what you consider "stupid". Or if your boyfriend would agree with you. We're all different, with our own set of beliefs and ideas.

If there are underlying, more important issues that you avoid or cover up by nitpicking about "stupid" things, then it's time you and your boyfriend got real about what's truly buggin you. And spend some constructive time "arguing" about that. Ha!

Answer 4

Believe me, I know how easy it is to totally fly off the handle at something rather insignificant, just because it feels like such a big deal at the time. However, over time, a bunch of little fights over stupid things can really cause a breakdown in communication, which will eventually lead to the two of you breaking up. Here are some communication-based techniques I've learned to use when my boyfriend and I are starting to get into a fight:
1. Walk away for a minute. It sounds so simple, but it can really help sometimes to extricate yourself from the argument by saying something like, "I need to cool off before this gets to be a big deal." Make sure you don't storm out or slam the door or anything, because then the last thing he'll remember is an image of you being mad. Just take a calming walk around the block, or maybe go to the grocery store or something. While you're out, ask yourself, "Is this worth getting into a big fight over?" More likely than not, you'll find that it really isn't worth a huge argument.
2. If you find that it IS something you feel is a big enough deal to talk about, make sure you calm yourself down completely before returning to your boyfriend. Once you get there, start off calmly and rationally by explaining the situation from your point of view. Try to avoid using phrases like "you always..." or "you never...", and try to focus it on finding a solution rather than just running him down. Avoid name-calling at all costs, and NEVER bring his family or friends into it unless you want an all-out war. Also, you should never stray from the topic at hand. If you're talking about needing him to help more around the house, for instance, don't veer off into left-field and bring up how mad he made you at his friend's barbecue 3 years ago or something like that.
3. Allow him to explain his side of the situation without interrupting him or making snide remarks. If you hear his interpretation of things, sometimes you can start to see things from his perspective and that will help you understand why he did what he did.

Relationships are never easy, but sticking to these "rules of combat" should help! Best of luck!!

Answer 5

There are three good ways:

1. Just do it. If it is a stupid thing, then don't fight over it. Talk things over calmly and agree to disagree.

2. If you can't do that, get some couples' counseling.

3. Break up.

All three ways are tried and true. Good luck!

Answer 6

The moment you guys start getting into an arguement, try walking away from it and chill. Then, try to find the root of all this. But, if you sense danger before you guys even get into a fight, then, try talking about it before. But, of course, I have no idea what you guys are fighting about, it might have come from something bigger. But, he might not want to, or know how to clear it up, so he is picking on little things. You guys might want to clear the big problem up. If there is one.

Answer 7

You both have to come to realize that you cannot agree on everything. No couple ever does. Most fights do happen over stupid things. Just agree to disagree and respect each others opinions.

Answer 8

When it comes to guys and girls, guys are very oblivious. Girls naturally get angry over very small, petty things, and if they get mad at their boyfriends over these very small, petty things, the guys try to shrink away to avoid a fight. However, you really shouldn't be fighting over things that aren't that big of a deal in the first place. For example, if he blows you off one evening to spend time with his friends, let him! This thing is not really important. BUT if he constantly flirts with other girls in front of you, is inattentive and indifferent towards you, I would consider breaking off the relationship. Good luck!

Answer 9

if you want to save the relationship then you have to be the first to stop. when ever you see that you r (or him) gettin a tad bit annoyed,then the next thing he saya aggree with, but not rudly but like "youu have a point there," take a deep breath then say"your right". but to avoid even that, agree to every thing he does, anything that you two would fight over. And make him feel like a loved big baby. ( In a good way) cause guys like looking smart infront of their girlfriends, and wives.

Answer 10

I personally feel that there are some things worth fighting over... however "stupid"-things certainly aren't worth it.

Grow up a little, gain a little maturity, and pick your battles - this goes for BOTH of you... (and only choose those which you REALLY feel are worth it). Otherwise, you're just adding drama to your life.