actually i gotta debate so i need 2 noe about the disadvantages of a join family
2007-08-13 07:12:33 · 12 answers · asked by Ryan D'souza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The inevitable conflict of joining two households - 2 different parenting styles, kids that were raised differently, kids who have different "other" parents (the ones who are not part of the household), possibly new style of living, sharing bedrooms, sharing bathrooms, etc.
2007-08-13 07:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by oj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have less privacy. Answerable to lot of people. Have to think about viewpoint of many persons. Have to take permission from elders for even petty things. Always have to on your toes 24X7.
If you are assertive, then you will get advantages from joint family and if you are docile and meek, then you are in disadvantage
2007-08-15 23:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jumping Sun 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
01 No privacy
02 You have no opinion
03 Food habit not as per choice
04 Social gathering is recomended although you do not like
05 Going out for outing or holidays takes a long time.
06 Meeting friends is restricted
07 All friends are not welcome in family
08 Your own relatives may not be welcomed
09 You can not buy a choiced garment or any thing
10 Person who earns more has to take care other who earn less
11 House wife may not act as per their capacity
12 Cleaness of house may not be performed correctly
2007-08-13 17:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by Gobinda Lal T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.,
dis-adv? when u were in home with ur wife/husband, at that time u can't able to talk freely.
if ur with r family then u have to sacrifice a lot for ur mom dad sis, brothers.
u dont have time to spend with ur wife/husband
u have to face a critical situation, such as a great fight between ur wife and mom., if c does't care or treat ur mom na then it'll become a great problem.
mom feel jealous on ur wife,till marriage mom cares a lot after marriage wife being wit u c used to care so some times it may cause a misunderstanding.
2007-08-13 17:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is so many like when one gets in a argument then they all want the others to pick sides or face their wrath. my inlaws are made to fight and they have tried to turn all their sons wives into fighting ninjas against each other but we wised up and we bonded and they hate that and try to drive wedges into our marriages and relationships so be careful and dont take sides no matter what as it gets ugly pretty quick...
2007-08-13 12:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By "joint family," I assume you're talking about a Brady Bunch-style family where both spouses have children from previous marriages/relationships. Well, when I was 7, my dad married a woman he had dated for over 3 years (read: since about 4 months after my mom's divorce from him was final.) As his child, I felt like I was constantly getting the shaft, because suddenly instead of spending time with just him when I'd go there on the weekends, I had to spend time with him AND his new girlfriend/wife. Not only that, but she had two children approximately the same age as my brother and me, and she was constantly comparing us to them, sort of pitting us against them in terms of accomplishments, activities, you name it. It's like she was trying to fuel competition between us and her own kids. If I came over with really exciting news that I had just been skipped up one grade, SHE had to chime in with, "Well, my daughter just made first chair in band." Also, she really truly acted like the evil stepmother. She'd do things like purposely make sure her daughter invited a friend over to spend the night when I was there, and then not let me play with them. Or she'd take her daughter shopping or something and make me stay behind and clean the bathroom. I remember on several occasions she hit me for not finishing my dinner or for "back-sassing" her, as she so eloquently put it- things I felt she had no right to do as a person who was not my real parent. Bottom line- one day when I was 12 or so, I'm pretty sure as a result of a direct ultimatum from her, my father suddenly decided that neither my brother nor I had to come on our court-ordered weekend visits anymore. At first I felt happy because I was always so miserable there, but in later years as I thought about it, I felt like he'd chosen her over us,and it kind of hurt. I am now 27 and just yesterday they celebrated their 20-year anniversary by renewing their vows. I didn't go. I guess the points you can make for your debate are these:
Joint families can cause unfair competition and rivalry among step-siblings.
If both parents rush into a relationship too quickly, the children can feel like precious quality time with their parent is being taken from them.
Step-parents can take too many liberties with punishment that they maybe shouldn't be allowed to take.
Good luck on your debate.
2007-08-13 07:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
joints hurt
2007-08-13 07:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by OnlyHumor RAJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No privacy.
Too many suggesstions.
2007-08-16 05:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by panneerselvam s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL HAVE TO OBEY YOUR ELDERS. FOR SOME IT IS ADVANTAGE AND FOR SOME IT IS DISADVANTAGE.
2007-08-14 03:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are always going to hear crap like "you're not my mom or dad, you can't tell me what to do".
2007-08-13 07:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋