My husband has a dog. The dog loves him. I love cats. He got me a kitten over a week ago and I love her so much. I got her on a Friday afternoon so I spent all weekend with her trying to bond with her. We have 16 and 4 year old daughters. The 4 year old doesn't care too much about the kitty, but the older child never wanted a cat in the house. Now she wants to hold the kitten constantly. Even when I get home from work I never had the time the kids have with her. The kitty was following me around everywhere for that first weekend... now she would rather be with my older daughter and even my husband over me.
Does this sound ridiculous? I had a very loyal, loving persian cat that I lost before my husband and I got married and I was really looking forward to that companionship again. Should I be worried that the kitten doesn't look to me? I feed her and clean her litterbox, take her to the vet, etc. I'm glad she gets along with everyone, but I'd like her to be my kitty.
2007-08-13 06:46:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
well Tolouze is my cat, and he follows me more than anyone, even though he sleeps in my kids room at night and through the day, he still seeks me out, yes he as a relationship with everyone in our family, he sleeps on alternate kids bunk beds at night its so cute finding him curled up with one of my kids and they are both asleep, he as to share me with my dog so he does make sure he gets his time..he is quite crafty...but let him bond with other people , what if your ill and someone as to help with feeding and litter duty? better to be another family member who he knows and likes. If you are his/her number one person ,,it will be obvious..if your not that is down to the cats choices like everyone said, they wont be forced to love you, they are quite obnoxious and even ignorant at times... let him/her love you all...you are all his family...
2007-08-13 07:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bit of a similar problem. I got my older cat when me and my fiance moved in together figuring he would be my cat, but it didn't happen that way. He's my fiances cat and he didn't even want him. But the one thing that I do know is that he knows who cleans his litterbox and who feeds him. He looks to me for more food and he complains directly to me when he doesn't like the looks of his litterbox. They do know who takes care of them more. I'm sure the kitten knows that you're the one that really takes care of him, not your daughter. My new kitten wants nothing to do with me and just wants to be with my older cat, but he has learned that if he wants food, he has to come to me. Otherwise my fiance won't feed him (not his animals, not his responsibility).
Animals know who their caregivers are. They're smarter than what you may think. Just give your kitten a little extra attention each day. I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
2007-08-13 07:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please know that cats are very independent. Cats choose their people, people do not choose their cats. If the cat doesn't want to be with you, it will most certainly find a way to leave. If the cat likes you, but prefers someone else in the house more than you, she will more likely go to them more often unless they're not home. Best thing to do is to keep taking care of her and give her plenty of attention to try to win her over. The cat's personality also plays a big role. Be in tune with what makes your cat happy. If your cat is very loving, give her a lot of attention; however if she prefers to be alone a lot, do not force her to spend time with you. She'll come to you when she's ready.
2007-08-13 06:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completley understand how you feel! I recently got another kitten as my old one passed away. At first he seemed like I was his world as I spent every waking moment with him but I have had to go to work whilst my boyfriend is on a work holiday...(he is still at home though) So now he spends all day with my kitten and my kitten seems to prefer him to me now. I actually feel a little betrayed and jelous!!! But now I tell my Boyfriend to do some things while I'm at work (like go shopping or clean the house or just go out with his mates for a while during the day) this way he doesn't spend as much time with my kitten. (I know I am being a little mishevous!!) But when I get home I just try and play with my kitten as much as possible and do everything for him...also I have found that when they go to sleep pick them up and put them on your lap...I don't know why but it worked brilliantly with me and now I am starting to build up that relationship with him again! It sounds awful that we still act like this over kittens etc. at our ages (well me anyway!)
Hope this has helped...and get your kitty back!
2007-08-13 07:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Danta* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one feeding her and cleaning the box, she knows you are "the mum". She loves you, but as you realise kittens will also like to play with their "sister" (your daughter). After all, they are both kids. But it sounds a bit immature to be jealous of your own daughter for having a relationship with the cat!
2007-08-13 07:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try playing with the kitty before and after taking the kitty to the vet and stuff like that and why dont you let her see you clean her litterbox, etc
2007-08-13 06:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋