I've been dating my bf for almost 2 yrs now and coming down to the last days you know the part where we know ech other to a T it starts to get screwed up. He stops calling, he don't even care anymore and i'm really fustrated bcuz i got so accustom to him always being there it is like he changed completly, is this suppose to happen? I mean i've dated many guys already but i really check for this particular boy what can i do?
2007-08-13 06:43:44 · 15 answers · asked by nells 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he makes you feel like crap then why are you still there. Have a talk with him about how you are feeling. If that doesnt work move on
2007-08-13 06:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. We have had our ups and downs and everyday can be a delightful or crappy day. In a relationship, you bring out the best and worst of each other. You can't expect everything to always be la-di-da! What kind of relationship would that be? Sometimes to get the best, you have to go through the worst. If you take him for what he is, and what he can be... he'll likely get over this phase, and ya'll will move on and become closer. Plus, I'm sure you have faults too! Everyone does! Just take this as a stage, and it may take a long time, it may take a short time. Either way you'll appreciate the wait when it's over.
2007-08-13 06:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by .:*:.mommy 2 joe-joe.:*:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For young men it's the "thrill of the hunt" something that is ingrained in us since birth. We want to win, accomplish, conquer.
For young ladies it's "We want what we can't have" There might be 50 good guys out there and one "bad boy" and you will go for him every time.
I've been the good guy and I've been the bad boy, as you get older the good guy takes control, because even thought he bad boy is fun it's not really life sustaining. We let him out on weekends only, other than that.... lol, you get the picture.
Similarly, the taste of the ladies change as they get older too. They want mature responsible men more and more and bad boys less and less. Every lady no matter how independent she is wants to feel secure and protected.
It's the natural cycle of things.
2007-08-13 06:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by nremtohio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's up; it may not be that he does not care, but rather that he is scared of being so close to someone and just needs some time to "screw his head on straight" before moving to the next level.
Guys tend to deal with things differently than women do, and - as such - we tend to misinterpret their actions. After all, just because "we" (i.e., women) react to something a certain way does not mean that "they" (i.e., guys) react to it in the same way. We therefore cannot project how we would feel, react, etc. on to them when they are doing something "weird".
The only thing we can do is ask, and then give them their time and space to respond.
2007-08-13 06:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my ex used to meet me at my car after work when we first got together. We used to spend all afternoon together for a while, then later in the relationship I could barely find him. When I reminded him of how he used to be he said "You didn't think it would always be that way did you?" I still felt the same way about him, but eh assumed that since he had me as his gf he didn't need to try hard to keep me. Sounds like he taking you for granted and it may be time to move on.
2007-08-13 06:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. it seems to me, that you are attached to this boy. i could be wrong, but attachment is really hard to deal with. what you need to do is stop calling him. it's gonna be really tough but find something to occupy your time, like read a book or go to the movies with your family or friends, or lay out in the sun. try this just for a day, or two. see if he calls you.. if he doesn't, then it means he just needs some space, he doesn't want to lose you, cuz if he did, he would have dumped you, but just give him some space. and act busy, he'll realize how awsome you are, and then start to call you and stuff, right now it's just that he's taking you for granted and you need to let him know, that you are a really awsome girl that he needs to hold on to, cuz if he doesn't then he'll lose you! you got to be confident!! k? :)
2007-08-13 06:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by kyky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his just comfortable and happy and doesnt need to call you 24/7 because he trusts and loves you...Yes men do tend to pull away alittle as time goes on i wouldnt think this is anything to worry about.Im sure he does care and your just reading into things abit too much...just sit back and let him come to you and tell him how you feel.If he doesnt listen or pay any attention then maybe you have both just grown apart with out you even realising it.Goodluck
2007-08-13 06:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your exact situation, but to answer your main question. He makes you feel like that because, well, you LOVE him the most. Sometimes we feel like the person we love should be the last person to ever hurt us, but nobody is perfect. So while he might be doing something to hurt you, talk with him a little, don't fight, just find out what he feels. If you feel negelect, tell him that, if he loves you he will change.
2007-08-13 06:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya there you are, you are saying you dated many guys.Why to date many guys for what?.If you really love one guy he is sufficient for your whole lfe,to take care about you n make you happy.I think dating dont work like love.So find your loved one be with him till end of your life.When love dont exist between people break ups will take a chance.Good Luck.
2007-08-13 06:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your too clingy, give him some room to breath. Guys hate being toooo close to anyone, we need our space.
2007-08-13 06:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋