I have a weekly night out with the unmarried co-workers.....including some very attractive girls....we all hang out, drink and have a good time....and of course talk about sex and girl and guy stuff
One of the girls said something to the effect of guys never acting how she wants.....I asked her about the guy ever being able to be himself....
She said something to the effect of having an image of the guy she wants and trying to find a good looking smart enough guy that she can make act like how she imagined......I was like damn are you serious......Then SHE says thats why girls always seem upset or partially bothered because their man never fully gets his role right....the role that the girl has in her head....then she added that the role can change from day to day
I told her that she is going to make somebody miserable one day.....and she laughed and agreed
So girls Do you have the perfect guy in your head and just trying to find a guy that can be molded to fit the role?
2007-08-13 06:43:14 · 17 answers · asked by dick_ache 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no one is perfect. There is a guy out there for every girl, vice versa, but girls are the ones who try to search for that dream guy more than guys do.....
2007-08-13 06:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jay P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha, there is no such thing as a perfect guy. all females want to think that. but yes i even had some specialities of a guy in my head. but good luck trying to find them right? even if i go out on a date with a guy, i see if he comes close to what i want. if so and if he wants to go out again i'll give it another try. but if not and i look beyond that and he still is a good guy or seems to be then i will still give it another try. if there is no chemistry there then you might as well forget about it. if don't have an attraction of some sort about the other person and you at least gave it a try them you move on.
anybodys role can change from day to day! depends on how work went or other activities that happened during the day.
2007-08-13 07:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by LUCY JO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We ALL have preferences. So if you prefer blonds, your ideal guy is going to be blond. No one is perfect, but i think we would all like to imagine that someone out there is. If you meet a girl that has some but not all of the qualities you like, you should just give it a try. Sure, she might have a laugh that is really high pitched or you notice that she wears too much make up, but we should all give people a chance.
I have a boyfriend that is far from perfect, but i really like him, so i see past all of his not-so-great qualities.
If i wasn't dating someone else and i met another guy that was OK, i wouldn't try to change him so i would like him better. I think that if you are really looking for someone to go out with, you should like them for who they already are. Trying to change people will make them wonder, "Am i not good enough for her/him? Why don't they like me for who i am?"
Hey,...some people are just picky!
2007-08-13 07:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Gingerbread...not Wonderbread!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever going to be molded into what we want just as we will never be molded into someone's perfect girl either. You see the true person and decide if they are at least most of the traits not every single one of them. Your friend will be many times disappointed if that's how she thinks.
2007-08-13 06:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did have a perfect guy in my head. i stopped thinkin about it then later on realized that my boyfriend was my dream guy and so much better. so yeah maybe some of us does. but dont mold guys to be what we want them to be..thats not love if u want to change a person with no good reason. maybe ur friend just havent found someone she really loves.
2007-08-13 06:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by swit_babyangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figure you can't 'mold' someone, and if you try to, you don't truly love them. Perfection is a fickle thing.. I think that my 'mr right' will be perfect for me, but not necessarily perfect, if that makes sense. All girls dream of the 'perfect' guy, i guess, as i'm guessing guys do, it doesn't mean its going to be a reality.
2007-08-13 06:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Libra ♎ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a dream guy in my head and yeah, if I'm going out with someone I'm always comparing him to my ideal guy in my head. Sometime the real guy is better and I adjust "in my head guy" to be more like him. But other times he loses and "in my head guy" wins. Then I either accept the guy for his faults or move on- I can't really expect any guy to change to be more like "in my head guy." He's the dream but I'm looking for something a bit more real.
2007-08-13 06:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, that's never been me nor have I ever heard that discussed among my female friends. Would be a sure fire way to NEVER have a successful relationship with a man, if you could even find one that came close to your idea of what he should be.
2007-08-13 06:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have one in mind but I have a few essential personality characterisitics that I look for. What is the point of loving someone if you are constantly trying to change them? To me, that isn't love.
2007-08-13 06:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think about what my PERFECT guy would be like. but i would never waste my life looking for him because hes FAKE. i think you look for what matters most &roll with it. dont waste your life looking for something that isnt real. or could never be real. guys can be molded but you cant DESIGN them the way you want them to be. you just have to find an ALMOST match. yanno?
2007-08-13 06:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋