My sister is getting married next month. Her fiancé's sister is slow because of something very similar to fetal alcohol syndrome. She is not a bridesmaid and is very aware that my other sister and I are. She is not competent enough to read something and has no musical talents. My sister really wants go give her a job, and one that is visible for others to see. Nothing like the guest-book or anything. Any ideas? Anything is appreciated!
2007-08-13 06:39:46 · 18 answers · asked by holly golightly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A lot of people have suggested that she be a bridesmaid. Sorry, I didn't clarify this before. My sister did suggest she be a bridesmaid, but she is also quite a bit older than both the bride and groom. She expressed that she would be uncomfortable doing it.
2007-08-13 07:08:04 · update #1
Why not ask her to escort the groom down the aisle. Nothing dicatates that he has to walk alone.
I am sure that "traditions" can be bent for this occasion.
2007-08-13 06:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was totally gonna suggest bridesmaid, I was maid of honor in a wedding where the grooms little sis had Down's Syndrome, and she was a bridesmaid and it worked out fine, but since shes not wild about that idea, I REALLY like the idea of maybe her walkin her brother down the aisle. She could get to the front with him, give him a kiss on the cheek and be seated with her parents at that point....it would be a VERY special way to have her included, without making her uncomfortable. Hope it helps!
Special note: If she does decide to include her in the wedding party, make sure to keep the ceremony on the short side. The down's syndrome girl I referred to earlier had a very difficult time with being patient through the 5 songs my friend played at their wedding. (but then so did I!, haha!) Any reasonable amount of time should be fine tho!
2007-08-13 10:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very nice that she is trying to include her future sister-in-law in her wedding. Like others are suggesting, she can certainly take an active part in the wedding. She can be:
~ an honor attendant, and stand on her brother's side as part of his party
~ a junior bridesmaid and stand with you and your other sister, but not have any lines to read or play any music. She should be able to hold a bouquet of flowers and look nice during the ceremony, right?
~ an usher as someone else suggested and have her pass out programs
~ a flower girl/lady/maiden and have her spread the petals
~ a ring bearer
As long as she is comfortable and the bride and groom are comfortable, she will be ok.
Good luck!
2007-08-13 06:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by tangshengyee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
in many situations conversing the groom's sister has no substantial place until eventually the bride asks her to be a bridesmaid. such as you in the service to do a examining is great. Your speech on the reception (which you will could compose your self or get somebody to help with it) could be easy hearted comments and reminiscences of your brother becoming up and finding love along with his new bride. you will additionally be required to need them happiness and you will even grant a toast. so a methods as your clothing are in contact, you are able to placed on something it somewhat is applicable and would not conflict with the marriage occasion's colorings. despite if it is a night wedding ceremony, then a night length gown could be suited. regardless of the undeniable fact that, you won't be able to pass incorrect in case you placed on a gown it somewhat is knee length. you does no longer want 2 clothing, yet once you're donning some thing with a jacket, then on the reception, you're able to shed the jacket.
2016-10-02 06:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guest book, taking the gifts from the guests at the wedding and putting them on a gift table, reception help. If she is detail oriented, how about keeping track of the time and have a schedule of events for her to follow and then remind the bride of what needs to be done next. If the reception is not cattered, how about helping out there with the food.
2007-08-16 01:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe make her a hostess & have her hand out programs at the wedding when people come in. That is a very visible job & a good way to include her. Make sure your sister includes a thank you to he rin the program!
2007-08-13 07:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jen J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest some of the same things as the others above me say. Give her programs to give out, direct people to the guest book or there tables, or even give her the favors to hand out to people.
2007-08-13 07:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that she would be fine as a bridesmaid. During the ceremony she will just have to stand and watch, that is not hard.....just a thought. Plus there will be you and some other girls up there to help her and make sure that she is okay.
2007-08-13 06:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by NewlyMarried&LovingIt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could hand out the programs at the wedding, with someone else. She could hold a candle during the religious reading.
2007-08-13 09:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should be a bridesmaid...but if that isn't a possibility...she CAN do a reading...help her to memorize 1 or 2 lines that are fitting to the ceremony...
If you start now, she will feel very comfortable saying her lines- not to mention how happy it will make her to be a part of her brother's wedding.
2007-08-13 06:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋