serious answers please!?

Question

I have a 4 year old son. I sleep naked and sometimes he crawls in bed with me at night so i get him a separate blanket.
we sometimes still take baths together. I sometimes walk around naked or get dressed when he is around. when should i stop? should i have already stopped? he never says anything about my body parts or anything. But im so use to being naked whenever i want that im not sure if its wrong. please answer seriously.

Answer 1

i have a 5 year old and a 3 year old, both boys. I sleep naked and do the same thing, i either put them back in their own bed or get them a seperate blanket. My boys still see me naked when they come into the bathroom while i am bathing or such. I believe that there is nothing wrong with my body and i don't believe that i am causing any harm to them by allowing them to see me naked. My mom used to walk from the shower to her bathroom with nothing but a towell on her head, even when my brother was a teenager. The only response she ever got was "mommmmmm" in a stop it sort of tone. it made him a little uncomfortable and so he would look away, same as me, but it didn't do either of us any harm. Human beings happen to be naked under our clothes and i think that insisting that nakedness hurts anyone ever, all by itself is silly. Naked does NOT equal sex and therefore isn't inappropriate for children. If Sex is involved, then hell yes keep it away from your kids but naked is just naked. It happens.

Answer 2

How wonderful that you are so comfortable with your body. And your son has learned that the human body is nothing to be ashamed of. I wish we all had that attitude.

Now, having said that: He is 4 and will soon notice that there are differences between his body and yours. Maybe it is time he learned that we should not be naked often in front of other people.

Decide if you want to stop letting him sleep with you, or if you want to stop sleeping nude. I am going to bet that you would rather allow him to sleep with you. If that is the case, you should probably begin sleeping with p-js. Bathing together? Now is a good time to stop that, as well. Washing "certain parts" of your anatomy should not be shared with a child, when that child is aware of those "certain parts", and at 4 - he'll soon be at that stage (if he isn't already).

In all your efforts here, try not to relay any messages that imply nakedness is bad, or being near someone else who is naked is bad. This is a good time to begin teaching privacy issues. When I was drying my 6 year old granddaughter off after her bath the other evening, she asked me for some privacy to dry her own "private parts". She had been taught that her body is her own, and not for everyone else to touch or be near.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I have to say i find nothing wrong in this at all, he is your child..But.... i have to say now should be the time at school age to stop being naked if your son goes to school and started talking about mum being naked in bed and walking around the house naked who knows what people may read or think to much in to it, my son is nine and has autism and i am having to dress him all the time else he would walk around naked and if someone came to the house im not sure id want everyone to see him that way..

Answer 4

Nudity between children and parents is problematic only if there is a malaise from one or the other part.

If it's natural and both of you feel nice, you can continue, there is no age to stop.
(At a certain age, children want to take their bath alone, no because they refuse their parents' nudity, but because they consider they are not babies any longer).

The problem is not nudity (you know, a lot of families are naked at home, even when the children are 15 or more), but the attitude.
If there is nothing ambiguous, don't create a problem where there is none. (Often, taking care of avoiding nudity creates big sexual and mental problems to children).

Be natural, and first of all, before taking in consideration what a psychologist could say, look first at his or her children !!!

A lot of children, and after, adults, are seriously sexually and psychologically disturbed because nudity was a taboo or something problematic in the family.

Answer 5

My son is 3 1/2 and gets in the bath with me. He has recently asked what my breasts are I have told him they are boobies they belong to mommy and not to touch. I am also pregnant and he has asked about my expanding stomach and I just be honest with him. Now he has asked me about my breasts I dont allow him to see them unless I am in the bath. All children will be interested in body parts and I feel this is all part of growing up and perfectly a natural reaction. I understand your concern especially the way people are in this day and age. You as a mother will know best for your boy.

Answer 6

I think now is about the time to stop. When my son turned four I stopped letting him see my naked. He is now old enough to know the difference about boys and girls and to learn some modesty. I think that modesty (and knowing about private parts) is really important when your children are almost school age and are going to be out in a world you can't control so much. Just my opinion.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with family nudity at any age it would help everyone if nudism were more normal in families that way the parents and kids wouldn't have to worry about anyone else teaching their kids about the human body and how beautiful the human body is.

Answer 8

There is NOTHING wrong with family nudity. Nudity does not equal sex as many uninformed thick headed people believe. The book "Growing Up Without Shame" deals with adults raised in nudist households. These children grow up more confident and caring than textile counter parts. Also, the awkward of adolescents is lessen greatly.
"As nature intended"

Answer 9

i've read that you should stop being naked around the opposite sex of your child when they start getting curious about your private parts and that's usually after age 2. but if he doesn't try to touch you or anything then i would say it's fine for you to be comfortable being naked. little kids should know the difference in boy and girl parts and he will learn that you shouldn't be ashamed of your body.

Answer 10

There's no reason for you to stop being nude around your son. You're giving him a wonderful gift, by showing him the naturalness of the human body. Since you've gone nude around him for so long, it's totally normal and natural for him to see you nude. He will ask you questions at some point, but just give him reasonable, plain English answers.

We raised both of our kids nude, and they have terrific body images, and have thanked us for giving that freedom.

Barefoot-n-Nude in Texas!