The man I'm marrying has a 14 year old son and it's only right for him to be the best man. My daughter is also 14 and she is going to be my matron of honor. We don't want to leave my son out so I was going to ask him to give me away. But then he wouldn't be up in front during the ceremony and therefore wouldn't be in those pictures. I think that would make him feel left out when he looked and the photos. So is he too old to be the ring bearer? That way he can stand up front the whole time.
2007-08-13 05:54:00 · 27 answers · asked by Someday Soon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
13 is too old to be a ring bearer. Ring bearers are traditionally under age 8. However, there is no reason why your son couldn't walk you down the aisle, and give you away, or be a groomsman or usher.
Side note: The #1 bridesmaid is called the Matron of Honor if she is married. I doubt your 14 year old is married, so she would be called a "Maid of Honor".
2007-08-13 06:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wow, what a tough crowd. 13 is old for a ring bearer...however, I have never seen a 14 year old maid of honor and best man either! I think an usher/groomsman would be a good role, but it is your wedding. If that makes things uneven, then have him be the ring bearer. If you wanted him to walk you down the aisle, he could still stand up front once he does that. Not to mention that he would be involved in one of the most important pictures, walking you down the aisle! I think its nice that you are having your kids in the wedding and you can do whatever you choose during the ceremony. Good luck!
2007-08-13 06:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by thedude 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want him to give you away let him. After he does that have him go to the side with the men and stand up there during the ceremony. That is what my son will be doing when I get married he is 8 and him and my dad will be giving me away. If it come down to it he can stand beside me during the ceremony when pictures. I don't think 13 is to old. I don't think it will look right if he is holding a pillow though. Find something more of he age for the rings...
2007-08-13 06:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be a groomsman. Anyone over the age of 7 shouldn't be a ring bearer. He can still give you away too. He can walk you down the aisle and then take his place among the groomsmen. My brother did this at my wedding. It was one of his many jobs that day. He had to help my dad maneuver his wheelchair down the aisle, and after he was done with that he took his place with the groomsmen. No one thought anything was wrong with it.
2007-08-13 06:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think he's too old to be the "ring bearer", but you could certianly have him be in charge of the rings and stand with the groomsmen. i just don't think you want him to be walking down the asile before you do by himself, it would look a little odd. there are plenty of ways to get him involved. he can be a junior groomsman and walk your daughter down the asile, since the best man is supposed to already be up there with the groom.
he could do a reading during the ceremony and stand off to the side duing the ceremony.
2007-08-13 06:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Erica S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that he is too old to be a ring-bearer, and he may be embarressed to do that.
If the other children are standing up as attendants, why not have him stand up with his sister? He could be a "man of honor" or a "bride's attendant" instead of a bridesmaid. There's no rule stating that you can't have guys on the bride's side!
If you really don't feel comfortable with that, he could always stand on the groom's side. Either way, he should be an attendant with his other siblings so as to not leave him out.
2007-08-13 06:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by elsie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ring bearers can be whatever age you want them to be!
Just because most weddings have those who are under the age of 6 does NOT mean that you have to go by that "rule" as well.
If your son is comfortable with it (heck if I were the son and I were asked this I'd happily say yes!) then go for it!
2007-08-13 07:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be better suited for a jr. Groomsman or perhaps an usher. Ring bearers are usually between 4 and 10, I think.
2007-08-13 07:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason why he can't stay up there after giving you away (very nice gesture). The style of the wedding is yours. Make it as you want it. He can simply stand by the other boy during the wedding. He doesn't have to hold a pillow. This might make him feel very self conscious.
I have seen weddings where the bride also says "vows" to her future husband's children and the groom does the same with the bride's kids. Special vows of being a good parent and being there for them, etc. You might want to incorporate that into your wedding too.
Good luck.
2007-08-13 06:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he walk you down the aisle and then walk over and stand next to the last groomsmen. Not to mention that pictures taken during the ceremony never have the wedding party in them anyway.
2007-08-13 06:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋