Chris and i are getting married on our 2 year mark, and since my family is not every well off, we are paying for the whole event our selfs, everyone is telling me that i a stupid for getting married, at 20 and for planning it so far ahead of time, and for acuatly buying the things that i need for the wedding,
Am i doing the right thing to buy everything while it is on sale, and before the wedding so we dont have to spend all themoney as once?
2007-08-13 05:45:54 · 16 answers · asked by rebecca j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't say you were stupid but most people at 20 were not ready to be married and are probably just sharing with you their concerns. You are going to change dramatically over the next 5 to 10 years and what you want in a partner might change along with that. That's why getting married young is discouraged. You've been with him through some pivotal moments in your life I'm sure but you have tons of those ahead of you and 16 months into a relationship that could greatly ebb and flow before the wedding. If you haven't considered it, get some premarital counseling to discuss some things you might not have considered up to this point. Good luck.
2007-08-13 06:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I got married in April and I'm only 22. my mom was 19 when she got married and has been happily married to my dad for over 35 years. so age doesn't really matter.
the first thing you need to do is set your budget. www.theknot.com has a good budget tool that tells you what % of your total should go towards each thing - don't go shopping until you figure out what you can spend! theknot.com seriously saved my sanity when i was planning my wedding and attending class full time.
remember that about 1/2 the budget will go towards locations and food, the rest will be decorations, clothes, the photographer, the DJ, etc.
as far as decorations go, YES it is fine to buy things on sale way ahead of time. to save money for my wedding I used silk flowers instead of real, so I was able to make the bouquets 3 months before the wedding.
2007-08-13 13:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Erica S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great idea to me. I bought all my things almost 7 montsh before the wedding so I could space things out. My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves also and we didn't want the wedding to interfere w/ the bills. My wedding is now only 3 weeks away and I am done and ready to go!! Makes those few weeks beofre the wedding less stressful when you already have the main stuff done.
2007-08-13 14:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in such a rush to marry? You are only 20! Two years isn't that long to be with someone, especially at your age. Why does it have to be now? Are you really ready? Financially stable? Have a career ahead of you?
If you really feel like April has to be the time for you, then yes, you are doing everything right. Planning ahead is a very smart thing to do, though. If you buy a little at a time, you can finance easier and spread out expenses so as not to stress yourself financially. Start saving money every month, the most expensive part will be the reception.
2007-08-13 12:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes, you are doing the right thing. It's very good to plan ahead, it makes for alot less stress in the end. Don't let people get you down, what matters is you and your fiancee's love for each other, not your age, not your financial status, and not what anyone thinks a wedding ceremony should be. Have fun, and best wishes.
2007-08-13 12:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't booked your location yet, then it's too soon to buy anything because your location determines how you decorate. What if you change your mind? I bought my dress really early, and now that it's getting closer to my wedding, I think I want a different style dress.
The most expensive things will be catering, venue and dress. So instead of buying stuff, save up for these big money items. All the smaller things you're buying tend to always be on sale, so don't worry too much about that.
2007-08-13 12:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you have a place to store it until then you should be fine. Also, hopefully styles wont change or you change your mind on something between now and then.
Some imported wedding dresses are made in limited numbers anyway - so if you wanted a particular dress, you'd have to order it like 9 months before the wedding and hope to get it in time for the ceremony.
2007-08-13 12:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 is pretty young, hon. I'm 26, and I have changed immensely from 20 to 26....I would recommend having a longer engagement...but that is your call, of course. At the very least, seek pre-marital counseling to make sure you both are on the same track, long term...
As for the wedding planning: I'm getting married April 12th, and I already have the majority of the stuff purchased too, based on sales, to keep my wedding on budget. You are merely being a smart shopping bride! Don't worry about it!!
The only thing I would caution you on is the wedding dress...I already have mine, and I probably should have waited. I'm working on losing weight, so I should have waited until closer to the wedding date, to minimize the alterations.
Good luck!
Kat
2007-08-13 12:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes planning ahead is always smart, but you seem to have not planned ahead for other things besides the wedding.
How about education, jobs, a home, getting financial secure so you can stay home with the kids you will have some day.
The problem with buying things so far in advance, you are forcing yourselves to go through with it even if you end up having doubts.
2007-08-13 12:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is GREAT you are prepared and planning ahead of time. My fiance and I have been planning for 1 1/2 years for our June 2008 wedding. This will actually help alleviate some of the stress that you would come upon closer to your day!
Ignore all the naysayers and tell them to keep their opinions to themselves. You are doing a great job!
2007-08-13 12:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋