I invited my cousin and her son to my daughters 1st birthday party. She now wants to bring along her kids father and his god son (who I only seen once) know nothing about. to the party. Well-meaning I have to make another speical trip just for 1 more goodie bag. And restart the head count, I think its rude-she has done this before in the past. Any ideas on how to tell her no and what would you do?
2007-08-13 05:38:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I only have a certain amount of money to spend and this is coming out of my pocket only. Even if its $3.00 for a extra goodie bag $3.00 is $3.00- I dont even know how I pulled this party off in the first place.
2007-08-13 05:56:37 · update #1
Tell her that you have everything planned out, exact headcount, exact budget, and you can't make changes anymore. Tell her that you won't be able to add anymore guest. Honestly, there would be no better way not to offend her, but it's your kid's party. You pay for it, you make your rules.
2007-08-13 05:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of saying "I'm sorry everying's already been planned and I have limited space . ." and so on. Or, you could try the other side and say, "that'd be great, my daughter would love to get more gifts, so the more the merrier. Should I send him a gift list, or can you share yours?" I know, it sounds rude, but not any worse than what she is asking. If she is expecting you to shell out additional money for two more people, then your daughter should get something in return right?
2007-08-13 11:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell her no, u didnt include this kid in the head count and u have already made goody bags, it would not be nice for him not to get one. but on the bright side ur daughter would get an extra gift for shelling out a measely 3.00. take the good with the bad.
2007-08-13 05:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her you're sorry, but the guest list is short because that's how you planned it. Maybe suggest that at another time you can get together with her kids' dad and godson, but this wouldn't be a good time for that. I wouldn't apologize anymore than one I'm sorry, cause YOU didn't do anything wrong or rude...she did by inviting more people without asking you first.
2007-08-13 05:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell your cousin "as much as i would like to be accomodating, i really dont have the time or budget to add any more guests now." since you mention she has made a habit of inviting others to your special gatherings, let her know that if she had mentioned the extra guests in advance, you might have been able to make the changes. this way she'll get the message, and hopefully be more polite about it next time.
2007-08-13 11:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by paixfille08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pat is being irrelevant and looks to sense like she would be able to "pull rank." settle for her apology, yet do no longer invite her interior the destiny in case you could help it. She knows of she screwed up. She for sure can not take the two an instantaneous hint or an oblique hint. a minimum of she apologized this time. tell her which you take exhilaration in the apology very plenty, yet interior the destiny she particularly needs to admire your and different peoples' needs. If she needs to sense sorry for folk like "Vivian", enable her do some thing large for "Vivian" on her very own time.
2016-10-10 03:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very basic etiquette dictates that the only person that should attend a party is the person who was invited. Your cousin has bad manners.
I would tell her plainly that I'm working with a limited budget and cannot afford to accommodate any people other than who she invited, which is her and her son.
2007-08-13 08:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by thesweetestgift 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One diplomatic way about going about it is by saying that having too many children at the party could be over stimulating for your daughter and you wouldn't want her cranky on the big day.
2007-08-13 18:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for this time, you are kinda stuck unless you are gonna un-invite everyone. Maybe you can ask your cousin to bring some ice cream or something to help defray the costs.
For next time, pull your cousin aside before you invite her and tell her that you only want her and her son there. Period.
2007-08-13 06:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is extremely rude to invite extra people to someone else's party. Tell her you simply cannot acomodate any more people.
2007-08-13 06:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋