My boss accused me of coming in an 1 1/2 late, while she was away on business bc I didn't return her messages right away bc I was busy taking care of some work that was priority that she left me the day before she left. Anyway, after I proved myself about coming in 15 mins. late with an email that I sent out, she apologized to me. Since she's been back she been acting really weird and I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. I'm also mad I had to prove myself to her about me coming in way before she thought I did. I want to approach her bc I can't work under these circumstances. How do I begin to tell her how I feel?
Thanks
2007-08-13 05:38:00 · 8 answers · asked by svictor24 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You guys all have great answers, and thanks for sharing your advice with me, but I think I really should talk to her bc maybe there's things that I'm doing wrong and she don't know how to approach me about it, so this should be a good time for us to talk about what's going on.
2007-08-13 05:48:43 · update #1
Maybe you can let this blow over. I don't know if talking to her about it is the best idea, because it seems like she's being unreasonable right now. Perhaps the reason she's acting weird, is because she's embarrassed that you proved her wrong on the being late thing. Not very professional behavior on her part, but it might explain it nonetheless. I say give it time and just try to do your job as normally as possible. I understand your frustration.
2007-08-13 05:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Labradoodle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a sticky one. . .it sounds like your boss has problems. My first response would be to find other work but there are bosses like this everywhere and it is a catch-22. Meaning if you do this that could happen and if you do that this could happen. These types love placing you in no win situations. I would not approach just verbally. I would discuss it verbally and then follow up with a letter thanking her for her time to clear up you arrival work time while she was away and copy your proof. However, this can backfire and she get upset with you because you are covering your A _ _. This could create more pressure for you however, if you don't CYA and she pulls a fast one you have NO proof if you need it. Also keep a daily journal of these incidents and how you handled it. This may be your safest route due to the other open covering yourself could fuel the fire with her because then she knows you are very bright and onto her. Without causing you paranoia on your job be very careful with this type boss. Also make certain nothing you do in writing can be twisted and used against you later.
2007-08-13 05:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by flowernthesnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her when you are not mad. Try to keep your pesonal feelings away from this conversation because it is just work.
And then tell her how you feel about "specific things" she does that is provoking an unconfortable situation for you... (whatever you think about it).
Tell her how you would like to work in a relaxed confortable atmosphere and just want to put all your thoughts in the table for her.
maybe it is nothing and after what happened you are just to concerned about whatever she does or doesnt do.
hope all works out!!! best of luck.
2007-08-13 05:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Salmon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight up. As a boss I always appreciate when my employees are direct and honest with me. Just remember to approach her in a non-threatening way.
2007-08-13 05:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dax-A-Lish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd be wise to just let this go.
Bottom line: you work for her. You were late (whether it was 1.5 hours or 15 minutes). She apologized for her error.
If you approach her about it, you set yourself up for reprimand on the tardiness issue alone.
Just let it go.
2007-08-13 06:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by michele 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not be afraid of her. What you are feeling is fear....perhaps fear of losing your job? You can talk to her without getting emotional.......and hope and pray that all goes well for yourself. If she continues to be this way perhaps you ought to seek a different job.
2007-08-13 05:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could ask her for a meeting at her convenience.
let her know you feel there are trust issues between the two of you, and you'd like to make things better. ask her what you could do in order to see this through
see what happens from there.
2007-08-13 05:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try not being late at all ya slacker!
2007-08-13 05:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋