What stops a woman from going up to a man and saying, I want to have sex, are you game?

Answer 1

Haha. Stigma. Otherwise we would be asking guys left and right. I have and it is refreshing.

Answer 2

Wow, and you call yourself a "reverend".

There so many types of women. Some are bolder than others. Most are not. I don't know of any woman with a brain who's going to make that kind of inquiry unless she's (1) certain that's what she wants (2) certain its YOU she wants it with and (3) certain YOU'RE not some sort of freak.

Unless she knows you well, you're probably not just going to hear that from some chick in the regular every day world. Now, an inebriated chick might be different, but still, women operate on a different instinctive, intuitive level than men. I've been a little tanked and kissed a few strange guys in bars, but never ones I felt would take advantage of the harmless flirting/interaction or would try to use my debilitated state against me, coercing me into sex I didn't on a real gut level want. But that's me; I trust my instincts, I know my limits with intoxicants (or lack thereof), and I don't normally put myself in situations I know I can't get out of.

There are about as many exceptions to the rule as there are women in the world. Judgment is a fool's game. I wish there were times when I was younger that I felt bold enough to just grab someone after a long day and get the boots polished to a high shine, but in the end, that's just never been me. I have a male friend who said that a woman who walks into a bar at any given moment and asks the questions you propose, would have at least ten guys ready to do the do. I never believed that. I'd like to think that men are just discriminating about their sexual liaisons as women tend to be, but that could just be wishful thinking.

Answer 3

There's (typically, in the U.S.) still too much of a social stigma against women expressing their sexuality in THAT blatant a manner. Instead she must play this subtle game of hints and half-answers when it comes to expressing her sexual desire.

On the other hand - the same holds true for men... if a man were to just walk up to a woman and say "I want to have sex, are you game?" - I would guess 99.99999999% of the time... he'd get looked upon as some sort of degenerate (or at the very least, a pervert or scumbag). Although it seems to be an implied "common knowledge" that most men - upon approaching a woman is looking for sex... he's just not allowed to come right out and say so.

So - he's not allowed to outwardly say he wants sex ... and neither can she... it's amazing that we (as a society) manage to express our sexual desires at all with all the games we play and the beating around the bushes the way we do.

Depending on your social circles - you MAY find a rare woman (or man) with enough chutzpah to just walk up to a man (or woman) & make it known s/he wants sex (and wants you to have it with) ... but let's face it - this is rare at best.

Answer 4

Some girls do, actually.

For every rule there is an exception, or group of them. But the main thing is, they don't because they don't out and out want sex for sex. Sometimes, sure urges need to be met, but they have other urges too, buddy. They need a mental connection to really get the fires going.

Think of it that way in fact, for a woman, sex is like a match, it burns for a little while, and you get the heat of the moment. An emotional connection is like having logs to set ablaze. Now it doesn't work all the time, much like matches simply don't work too well on their own. A deep bond, a deep passion, more tinder. Eventually, with the right match, the perfect timing, you could ROCK her world.

It's finesse, it's chutzpas, it's the essence of perfection. Now, go get that essence man!

Answer 5

Because she don't want to sound fast and easy. Perhaps she did do that? The man says yes, then they go have sex. Then the man goes back and tells all of his friends about this girl he had sex with. Then what? Everybody knows, and then she is labeled as the town whore.

Answer 6

Afraid of what people would think of them. They want to say it- to the right guy of course. But they're also afraid and insecure. They fear both the guys reaction and what he'll think as well as everyone else. Their friends family even people they don't like. "what will people say about them if they admit that sometimes they want sex?"

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I love how this is getting wrapped up in a "respect" security blanket. This has little or nothing to do with respect. It's 100% societal norms pressures and self imposed insecurities.


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Answer 7

I believe it is time to break all of the past social norms and stereos. Women are just as smart as men and are demanding equal rights, so it is time for them to step up in the area of relationship. If she likes or wants someone, then she should let her feelings be known. If there is rejections, so be it, it is much better than going around in life hoping for something that may never come.

Answer 8

Social expectations. A woman that did that would be "labelled" terms associated with loose and promiscuous women.

Answer 9

Either a fear of being rejected, or sex actually meaning something. Women don't just walk up to random people and ask for sex.

Answer 10

Nothing, I've had it happen. I suspect that I've missed a lot of sexual partners because I make it a rule not to have sex with women who won't admit to themselves and out loud to me that they want to have sex. I suspect I've also missed a lot of false accusations and hurt feelings from women who confuse sex with a proposal of marriage. It has worked out pretty well.

Answer 11

Dignity, and most women like to play the game of getting a man rather than cut to the chase.