i think im starting to fall in love with my bf. we have been dating for a year. but im scared out of my mind. im only in highschool. i dont want to fall in love just yet. i dont even know what advice ppl can give, but if u have any ideas or w.e im open to almost anything. thanks!
2007-08-13 04:43:37 · 21 answers · asked by DCMitch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to answer some of ppls questions. we were best friends before we started dating. and dated because we liked each other. but now my feelings for him have grown past like. i dont believe u fall in love then date. sry, that doesnt make sense to me. and im not planning on having sex with him. so ppl can stop saying to be careful and not end up pregnatnt. i was just one who never believed that u could fall in love at such a young age. im a practical thinker. and having these feelings have just confused me. but thank u all for ur help.
2007-08-13 05:01:00 · update #1
also, i dont plan on breaking up with him, that didnt even cross through my mind. even if we did we'd always be friends. and im not afraid of the commitment. i can handle that. i just dont want to get hurt.
2007-08-13 05:03:07 · update #2
High school is a difficult time, figuring out who you are, learning to trust friends, having you're trust broken, and then there's boys. Loving someone and being in love are two totally different things. You can love someone and not be in love with them. Make sure you know what you're feeling and thinking. Relationship aren't always easy, but if you've been in this for a year you know that. Maybe you are in high school and I know you're scared, but you're going to fall in love sooner or later. Ask yourself, is this guy worth it? If it doesn't work out will I regret feeling so much for him? Good luck!
2007-08-13 04:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Old Gregg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say......explore your feelings with him for a while.You may just find out that it was love, or maybe that it wasnt love at all. Love can be very dangerous when your that young because your just barely begining to start planning the rest of your life. Your priorities should be college, a part time job, and fun. College.....for an education that will secure your financial stability for life. A part time job.... to support your self during the years you are transforming from a kid to an adult. AND FUN!!!!......... because you need to meet lots of new people and try new things to find out who you are. If you can find a boyfriend who is ok with being like the 4th or 5th priority in your life...then go for it. But trust me...concentrate on YOURSELF for now. If you dont, your gonna regret all the things you could have done or should have done. A boyfriend can distract you from your dreams without even knowing it. And please dont have any children till your through with college and have your own house. I hope you really take this advice i am giving you because its real advice from real experience.
2007-08-13 12:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a verb, it is feeling connected to someone, and being able to talk openly about your hopes and dreams; as well as support each other in achieving them, even if they change.
Love is scarey, and it makes you vulnerable to being hurt; but, it is also something which grows and grows with time. And as long as two people are moving in the same general direction it will endure.
Love is not something we fall easily into and out of, and even if this relationship ends it will live forever somewhere within your mind. It is not diminished by love in the past or future.
Love IS NOT about sex though; and, "falling in love" is never a good excuse to begin engaging in sexual activity with someone, at any age.
2007-08-13 12:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by MWFSAHM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats a crazy situation, well, if you think you love him, that you probably do, so on that, you really have a couple option, stay together and see how its works or separate, and don't worry about it. Also, i can understand where your coming form, love is a really big commitment, and your in high school, so everything is pretty simple rate now, but after you graduate, you guys might be going off to different school, or getting jobs, or whatever else, and getting hurt really sucks to. So, all in all, i would say if your are really this worked up about it, just sit and think about it, collect yourself and have a chat with some one close to you, your mom, or dad maybe, and after that talk about it with your BF, see where you guys stand, and what your plans are for after High school.
2007-08-13 11:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Swansen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really know if you love a person till you have lived with them.This kind of love is like no other.
Love is unconditional.
Im not sure what your goals are but a loving commitment rules over everything else.
You might here if you really love me you will do it.
Whatever it may be.....
It could make or break a already great start of arelationship.
You can clearly love someone but not capitalize on it at this time.
2007-08-13 15:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shilo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doing with a boyfriend if you don't love him? That's pretty dumb right there. I hate to be mean, but this is like saying "I don't want to get wet, but I'm white water rafting!" If you don't want to fall in love, then dump him and stay away. Otherwise, that is what happens when you have a boyfriend. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
2007-08-13 11:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't stop love.
if you really cared about him, it wouldn't matter. sounds to me like your just afraid of the commitment and afraid that you wont have fun even though your in a serious relationship. well thats not the deal. with or without a boyfriend htings will be the same, cept your life will be much sweeter, if he loves you, and you love him; you can't stop the chemistry even if you wanted to.
so i say GO FOR IT ! <3
2007-08-13 11:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by dudeemelissaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about falling in love, you almost have no control over it. Let it happen, don't care who it happens with, and just let events play themselves out. Life it too short to try to plan and control everything.
In this game, love, the dominoes set themselves up, and eventually you choose when to knock em down.
2007-08-13 11:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Zee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no limits. Love doesnt care how old you are. And you cannot help who you love and who you don't love. If you think you are in love with this guy, let yourself love him. There is nothing wrong with it, but you better figure it out before you wait too long and lose him forever!
2007-08-13 11:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your mind over your heart. take it slow. too many high school girls have thought they were in love but come to find out it wasent and then they are stuck with a baby. just be smart about it. im not saying your not but you might be. a lot of my friends found there match allready durring high school and have a baby with them and now there out of high school and are stiill together. so just take it slow and make sure he is your one and only true love :-)
2007-08-13 11:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋