she called today and i had to talk to her gasping for air the whole time,i used the excuse to go and make a cuppa to escape but she followed me.I cant stand it anymore,even her son has an odd aroma and i am not going to mention her husband PHEW would you tell her?Or should i keep on buying her gift packs of deodorant and soap?Keeping in mind this hasnt helped so far?
2007-08-13 04:39:17 · 35 answers · asked by babscabs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Gill i believe her washing is left on the line for days and days,when she brings it in she just puts in the cupboard (gulp)
2007-08-13 04:45:28 · update #1
Pretentioususer: She is prone to boils,she was going to show me one the other day but the phone rang and i was saved by the bell as it were!
2007-08-13 05:07:44 · update #2
i think maybe you are to hard on her and should give her a break and maybe its you who smells eh!!
2007-08-14 00:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most definitely. I mean, If it's THAT bad that you end up gasping for air, you should def. say something.
-If you do say something, firstly do it in a jokingly manner [she might get offended if you say it bluntly] she might take notice [hopefully!] won't get offended and have a laugh along with you at the same time.
-If she doesn't do anything about it after that, I think you should sit her down, and have a good honest chat. It'd be better coming from you, than some stranger and it'd be appreciated more. Mention things like it's unhealthy, she can end up having boils , blocked sweat glands, [and other skin diseases] etc..that you don't want her or her family to end up with said health problems, you know??
IMHO, there's no point in buying her deodorant & soap, you are just wasting your money & time. Do yourself and most importantly herself & her family a favour, and speak up!!
Good luck!!
2007-08-13 05:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by pretentious username 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think you should tell her but make sure you tell her that you want to tell her something and that the only reason you can tell her is because she is your sister and tell her if she is open to hear what you have to say with out her thinking that you are being mean. If she says yes then tell her that she has an Oder and that it is bad and that you just want her to know like this she can make sure she takes care of it before someone else has to tell her.. Do not under any circumstances tell her anything about her son or husband. Many times people can take criticism about them but not about someone they love. If she takes care of her Oder, then she will start to smell that Oder of her son and husband. You make sure you always smell good so that she can't say what about you.
2007-08-13 04:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I( think you should sit down and talk to her about it, it could be the washing powder she uses or just encourage her to shower more often and clean her house throughly.
All you can do is talk to her, even if she might get offended but at the end of the day you're only trying to help her so try and make her see that.
2007-08-13 04:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell her.You are probably the closest thing to her, besides her husband, and because of this,she shouldn't be too embarrased. Try to bring her into a quiet area and tell her polietly. Make sure your sound as serious and as concerned as possible. I'm sure she would rather hear this from you than from a friend or coworker. Or worse... having her finding out herself from the expressions of people walking by...
Hope I helped
2007-08-13 04:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by moJo Jojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship you have with your sister. If you get on ok then sit her down and tell her gently that she has a problem. She can take it two ways either be really grateful as she didn't know there was a problem or hate you for telling her. If you don't get on then don't mention anything.
2007-08-13 04:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Different 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, but as the gifts of deodorant and soap haven't worked you really are going to have to tell her, just bear in mind she might be offended but if it is as bad as you say then she is offending everyone around her.
2007-08-13 04:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her shes family therefore you both know you have an unconditional love for each other and therefore she won't take it too personally. It's better that it comes from you rather than someone else and it can help her to recognize and fix her problem which might be having an adverse effect on personal and professional life
2007-08-13 04:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by bet bet bet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personal hygiene is well personal cos its such a sensitive and private issue. This means that anyone can get offended if someone points out someone smells. But there is no excuse for smelling badly. It can be down to poor diet, unclean clothes and not showering daily. It would be nice if you can get her on her own and sublty break it to her gently because she is your sister after all and all you want is for her to look after herself properly.
2007-08-13 04:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a chat with her, making out that YOU are having a problem and can she suggest anything.
Other than that, I dont really know, but she does need to be told somehow.
Is she getting her washing out quickly or leaving it to a few days later ??
2007-08-13 04:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you absolutely should tell her. If your complaining than imagine what the neighbors are saying. Her son is probably in school. Do you want him to be the smelly kid in class?
Do them all a favor and find away to tell them without offending them.
2007-08-13 04:55:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋