My ex-boyfriend and I hung out a while back strictly as friends. Well, his current g/f recently found out and is of course extremely angry and has been sending me heated messages. I responded back and let her know that he and I are just friends and that aside from the one time we barely speak much less see each other. She responds back with another angry message so now I am at a loss. I have to the town where she lives next weekend for a friend's birthday and this happens to be a mutual friend we share...thus, she will be there. I don't want any drama, but this girl will not calm down. I don't know how else to explain to her that I do not want to get back with my ex and that we are just friends...help!
2007-08-13 04:20:43 · 18 answers · asked by Girl drama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I could see this coming in the first sentence. You dove face first into this drama and should have seen it coming a mile away. Why are you hanging out with her bf if you're not looking for and in some way enjoying the drama?
Sorry but you get no sympathy.
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2007-08-13 04:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
very common reaction among the girls... Fighting or aruing over a bf is never easy. All you can do really is walk away or ask your ex to explain it to her. Also tell her if he didn't want to hang out he wouldn't and you are not to blame but him since he's in a relatioship with her. Ask her to leave you alone and stop harassing you. Ignore her comments and messages and have a good time at the party. Worst case just call the cops and make a report. You can get tro against her as well. Good luck and try to avoid situation like that, because some people are just to ignorant and dumb to understand freindship between exs :)
Good luck girl
2007-08-13 04:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Joanna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters you 2 had no business being together if he is in another relationship! Yea she is pissed and do you blame her? Put your self in her shoes and see how you feel! You wanted to avoid drama well too bad you are creating it thus allowing it to happen by hanging out with the ex. Stop and think once in a while before acting out. You helped create this mess so its your problem now, deal with the party issue by not going if you want to avoid a sh!t storm and remember just what it was you did with your ex (for future reference) that put you in this situation. It doesn't matter if anything happened or not with you and your ex that caused this, in his g/f eyes its cheating plain and simple! Hope you learned something from this, careful of the situations you and your ex get into with each other especially if new partners are involved.
2007-08-13 04:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just let her act like the insecure idiot she is and you just be an adult and stay calm. People will see her for her true colors and if your friend cares about your friendship then he will tell her to calm down or leave if she does start something. If you did nothing wrong when you were hanging then you shouldn't have to deal with her, he should. Block her on your IM and Emails and let him be a man and deal with her craziness.
Just be a Friend and an adult at the Birthday and you will be fine.
2007-08-13 07:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by BLUE EYED ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is angry over the lack of respect you have for her. Its true, the guy is at fault to because i bet he has not talked to her about this, because if he did he would prioritize who he wants to be with. If you, then he would dump her and be friends with you... If her then he would stop seing you. So it is totally his fault. But if you want to be the stronger of you two then so be it. Be blunt with her over the net before the party. Nobody wants a seen at a party! Talk to her and tell her that you do have respect for her wishes. Tell her that nothing will happen, be honest. If you do think something will happen, then you still like this guy and fight for him back! If not then tell her there is no way something will happen, and tell her it matter to you that she is upset, and ask her what you could do right now that could help. If she has no suggestions or suggests not to see the guy again, well then you have to make a decision to see if its worth all this bullshit to be friends with this guy... and unfortunatly ask him to make a choice. If she is for it then problem solved! Damn i am good!
2007-08-13 04:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by shubba008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's all about drama it's going to be hard to avoid. She is obviously a very insecure person. Your ex should be handling this and making sure she doesn't create a scene. You may get lucky and she'll get cling to him all day and give you dirty looks. Nothing you say to her is going to change her mind so just ignore her the best you can and don't reply to any messages.
2007-08-13 04:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore her. Go about your life as if she doesn't exist. She is looking for a fight for some reason. You never know, he may be telling her white lies to enhance her jealousy of him - some people are like that. Do not let her chaos drag you into the fire. Ignore her, never discuss her, delete her messages. They cannot bother you if you do not read them. Good Luck!
2007-08-13 04:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Wrong number 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you spend time with someone's boyfriend in the first place?
you were setting yourself up for this...
and why did you respond to her first angry message? you don't have to give her an "excuse" or be nice...
i think the entire "drama" is your own fault...
2007-08-13 04:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a reason to be worried just tell her this and just don't act too friendly around him. Meaning no hugs and no talkin on the phone for more than 1 hour
2007-08-13 04:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the ex to calm her down. If that doesn't work you may have to fight her... no, I'm just kidding. Don't fight her but do stand your ground. Be firm and tell her to her face that you do not want him back.
2007-08-13 04:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋