What are up with Guys moms these days? They are so mean to there sons wife, isn’t it the girl father that should give the men a hard time?
My mother in law really hates me. She will ignore me or just walk away when I am talking to her. When she comes to visit she only greats my husband not me, she even tried to turn my own brother and friends against me, we both try every thing. Talking to her to find out what the problem is and how we can sort it out, my husband even told her if she does not stop this she will not set foot in our house. Every time she will be sorry and she will not do it again and she will try harder, but every time she comes to visit it is the same thing over again. We found out that she told her friends that she doesn’t understand why I don’t warm up to her. But how can I if she treats me worse then a dog. What should I do and how should I handle her.
2007-08-13 04:19:42 · 12 answers · asked by Azul 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am in the same situation...
ignore her, dont let the things she does get to you, because in the end, she will be alone, everyone will realize the kind of person she is and it will suck for you. She most likely is a control freak and doesnt want to accept the fact that you are number 1 now.
I still to this day have to deal with my fiance's mom.
She is the main reason why I am trying to convince my fiance to move 932702357 miles away from her (illinois to Cali)
Have you hunny talk to her.
Sit her down and tell her that she needs to let him go, and enjoy the addition that she has to the family.
2007-08-13 12:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed. If I was in your shoes, I would be the biggest A-hole to her too. That is ridiculous. She's an adult and treating you like that. How pathetic of a person, seriously. When she comes over, ignore her completely. And do other things like serve everyone else food, but skip her so she has to get it herself. What a douchebag, seriously.
I'd just do the same thing she is doing and see how she likes it. If my mom was doing that to my wife/girlfriend I would put her on the spot and bring it up in front of everyone and call her out. It's not an acceptable way to treat anyone.
2007-08-13 11:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously very jealous of you-I would not put up with being ignored in my own home-how rude of her.
I think it is great that your husband is on your side and that his mother knows this-he must carry out his threat.Do not let her in to your house.If she doesn't have the courtesy to speak to you then she is the one with the problem-it sounds like you have pretty much done all you can to resolve the situation.Good luck!
2007-08-13 11:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just do what she has done to you she will soon learn you have tried being an adult over it, so now its time to give it her back. i had the same trouble but now we can hold a conversation even tho i know she still hates me. it could be that you have taken her son away from her and he doesn't need to rely on her anymore, i found out that's why my fiances mom was playing her face. take care hope everything sorts itself out soon x
2007-08-13 11:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by tanya_is_an_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is comfortable with it, don't invite her over. If he's not, while she is there kill her with kindness. Be the sweetest thing in the world to her no matter what she does. It will be tough at first but just remember while you are being nice to her it's most likely bugging the **** out of her.
2007-08-13 11:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you have left yourself wide open to this sort of treatment.....
first of all, don't initiate conversations with her...
second of all, IGNORE her.
third, dont' have her over to visit anymore....
lastly, set up some personal boundaries. you can learn all about t his if you do a search for PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.
just because she's your mother in law doesn't mean you have to "warm up to" her.....
you might be spending too much time worrying about HER and too little time taking care of YOU.
2007-08-13 11:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either don't invite her around no more or treat her the same way
2007-08-13 11:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by KLM 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't invite her over any more she has a problem u don't need u have tried now leave her alone maybe growing old alone will change her nasty ways
2007-08-13 11:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by pugs5678 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its time for some action
don't let her in your house any more
let her taste her own bitterness for a whole so she can learn a good lesson
2007-08-13 12:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that you and your husband have exhausted all attempts at resolving your motherinlaw's hostilities towards you. only thing left is to ban her from being around you...or....professional family counseling.
2007-08-13 11:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by booooooooooooby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋