I am 30 years old and single. I have never really been involved in a serious relationship and am not comfortable dating and meeting men. I have always battled with being overweight and recently have lost about 40 lbs. I thought that if I lost the weight that I would feel more self confident and would be able to handle attention from men. I still don't feel comfortable. I'm constantly letting other friends take the spot light and I hide behind them. In the meantime, all of my friends are getting married, moving away and I'm feeling alone and in a rut. Would a therapist be a good step for me?
2007-08-13 04:13:40 · 11 answers · asked by jenkmarcan 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
That would be a good start
2007-08-13 04:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a therapist can help you get over your problems of being uncomfortable around members of the opposite sex. Being extremly shy can cause this, and from experience, it doesnt get better with age, you will just have to not think about how uncomfortable you are, and forget your fears, and just do it. You will learn how to become more comfortable in time.
A shrink can help determine what it is that you fear or have issues with making you feel uncomfortable.....
Dont feel down and in a rut because your friends are getting married and moving, just because they are married doesnt mean that they cant still be your friends. There is someone out there for you, that you will feel comfortable around, but just have not met them yet... dont give up hope just because you dont have it now.....be patient and it will come to you....
2007-08-13 04:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by SWT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. There is nothing wrong with your weight or the fact you are shy, but the fact that you don't feel self-confident is the problem. A therapist can help you "like yourself" better and figure out how to be more confident around everyone.
2007-08-13 04:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by riptide_71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were once over weight you mind has not caught up with you NEW body..Go get a make over..New hair do, new clothes..Listen to what people are saying. I use to be shy so fake it until it comes easy..Start talking to people..Start with women in the elevator say I like you shoes or blouse, hair something..Tell the clerk at the grocery store something..then carry on a conversation..after a while it will become naturally..You may need some counseling..If you were over weight because of abuse then get counseling..Look around you..most people don't have perfect bodies..Look at what is good about you..Walk tall..smile and people will want to talk to you...
GOOD LUCK
congratulations on your weight loss
2007-08-13 04:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by ddcc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if you feel a therapist might help, by all means give it a try. most clinics have "intake interviews" and they will take your information, ask questions and then decide what therapist may be best to help you with issues.
it takes several sessions to get to know the therapist and to start working toward some sort of recovery. but you might be happy with it... just do the work and it usually helps!
meanwhile you could look up SELF-ESTEEM SELF HELP, SELF IMPROVEMENTS, HOW TO DEVELOP CONFIDENCE on the web. lots of good information on the internet if you take the time to check it out...
sending best wishes!
2007-08-13 05:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a good one, although hard to find. I suggest going to the book store and finding a book that speaks to you. IN the self help section. You just need to step outside your comfort zone. Change your mind set, Know you are worth greatness even if you dont feel it.
2007-08-13 04:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by J Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a make-over. Get a new, modern hair style, change the color of your hair. Buy some make-up, change your fragrance. Get a new wardrobe. Go on a vacation to a place where you'll meet lots of young, eligible men.
If all that doesn't help, so for therapy.
2007-08-13 04:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
EVERYONE can benefit from a therapist - you may need someone to reassure you and give you a gentle push in the right direction
2007-08-13 04:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Filmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. not that staying single is wrong, but i think a therapist can help you become comfortable with who you are and how you feel and why.
2007-08-13 04:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by ohiojeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if u have someone one to talk to and sense u have such low confident in ur self l think it would be a good idea everyone has problems.
2007-08-13 04:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would probably help you just to be able to talk to someone who might be able to help, but perhaps you should try talking to a friend first?
2007-08-13 05:12:21 · answer #11 · answered by Spirit Messenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋