i am in big trouble......?

Question

i live with my step family . it's a long history . well my mom wasn't able to raise me so she passed me to her sister[ who is evil] . i don't get along with my step parents . i rarely talk to them . my step mom hates me cause i am more pretty[ please mind me ] them her two daughters . people intend to like me better[ my relatives] . i get passed on clothes worn by my step sisters . also have to do dirty chores , basically i get picked on a lot . my step sister is really moody . sometimes she is helpful and other times a jerk . i don't know what to do . living in the dark here ,please some suggestions.

Answer 1

I've been in some very negative states of mind and emotion and I know it's not easy. Sometimes we think that the light at the end of the tunnel has been turned off, especially when we don't have money to pay the bills, school fees, homework, family problem

Rather than being annoyed, be amused.
Instead of getting angry, become curious.
In place of envy, feel admiration.
In place of worry, take action.
In place of doubt, have faith.
Negative energy is just positive energy that's flowing in the opposite direction.
There's no need to fight or run away from that negative energy.
All you need to do is change its direction.
The more negative you are, the more positive you can be.
An automobile that can travel 70 miles per hour to the east can also travel just as fast
when going west. But first, someone must turn it around.
When you sense yourself becoming negative, stop and consider
what it would mean to apply that negative energy in the opposite direction.
Turn your sadness into caring.
Transform your complaints into useful suggestions.
Change your bitterness into determination.
The energy is already there.
All you need to do is change its direction.

If it's something that lightens your mood and doesn't hurt anyone, yes. some very simple things can calm you down and put you in a better frame of mind. Simple, but very soothing and it took me a long time to learn that I didn't need to let my thoughts and emotions control me. It's normal to worry a bit, sometimes we do have to spend a few minutes worrying or on the pity pot - as long as we don't stay there.

Maybe what you can think about working on is just taking a baby step toward what you want

You can make a start by being grateful for the things you already have: Food in your stomach, a roof over your head, clothes on your back, and internet access!

Then you can start using daily affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror several times a day and tell yourself how great you are! Everybody has something they're good at, remind yourself of those things. Start researching a subject you've always been curious about and expand your knowledge.

Eliminate negative words from your vocabulary: Instead of can't, CAN! Instead of "I don't have enough money" say "The money for that item is coming!" Just a few things to get you started.

Prayer man. There is always an oppurtunity in everything. BUt I just pray and let the spirit lead me man. Let God work it out. Turn your stress and anxiety over to him. Let Him deal with it

How heroes use this problem and turn it around and face life

So what you can do is write down all the things you DON'T want (the way your problem is) and then write down the exact opposite...

The point is always in ACTION. Thinking about it is the first step... the second step is believing in it... the third step is acting like you believe in it... and the fourth is in being in a place where you can receive it.

Check all these desires of yours against those steps.

When things get tough, do something that makes you happy. Listen to some good music. Meditate. Watch a funny tv show or movie. Read a good book. Play cards with a friend. Whatever works for you to reduce your stress and make you more joyful

Sometimes you are where you are supposed to be for a reason. Perhaps it isn't time for you to move on. Don't give up on your dream. Work a little at a time to prepare yourself for the time when you have the success that you want.

Get things in order. Use this time wisely as you may become very busy soon and feel overwhelmed if you don't have your home and affairs in order.

It sounds like you have decided upon one path to take. Often life presents more than one way to reach your goal. I believe opportunites will come and you must be open to new experiences. Even if you think it isn't your chosen path this new occurance may lead to other opportunities in ways that you may not recognize at first.

As long as you keep your eyes on your goal and keep moving forward success will come to you

I believe that toxic people can make you sick, even shorten your life. The best thing to do is to do something for yourself, leave so you can live by yourself and go after what you want in life. The more you stay with the same people, the more your life will stay the same.

Also, every time you catch yourself saying something negative, keep changing it around. You're seeing how it works to some degree... just intensify it

Another one is Thinking positive thoughts

Thought is the only power that can produce tangeble riches from the formless substance. The stuff from which all things are made, is a substance which thinks. A thought of form in this substance produces the form. Original substance moves according to its thoughts. Every form and process you see in nature is the visible expression of a thought in the original substance. As it thinks of a form it takes that form. As it thinks of motion, it makes that motion. That is the way all things are created. We live in a thought world. And this world is part of a thought universe. The original thought of a moving universe, first extended throughout the formless substance. The thinking stuff resulting from that thought, took the form of systems of planets. And continues to maintain that form. thinking substance takes the form of its thought and moves according to the thought.

I think it is important to be surrounded by positive and supportive people. that is a first step. finding a group like this one can be the beginning. Toxic people are all around, energy suckers.. i just can not afford and want to be around people like this.. you need to be around people that love you and support you, that want the best for you.

You can also meditate to find that peace within..and take time for yourself in nature.
A friend of mine and coach also recommended to have on a bathroom mirror " I am lovable and totally deserving"

If you can build an image in your mind and hold it, you will attract all that is required for the manifestation of it.

Look at it this way, Your hand is made of energy. It's a mass of molecues at a very high speed of vibration. What's a glass made of? Energy. What's water made of? Energy. Now if you take and boil that water that water is not called water any more it will be called steam. It's the same energy, just moving at a different speed. What's the glass made from? Energy. Use to be sand. what we've done is alter the molecular structure of the energy and we've turned the sand into glass. Still the same form of stuff. Thought and energy is one. Thought waves are cosmic waves that penetrate all time and space. There is one original formless substance, and which all things are made. Where does everything start? it starts in thought and whats thought? Thoughts energy.

Thought in substance produces shapes. A human being is a thinking center, capable of original thought. So you are a thinking center. You're the center of thought. Thoughts are on the present, thought energy is everywhere. And this energy moves in to your conciousness. And you can think anything that you want to think.

If anyone of us can communicate our thought to original substance, we can cause the creation or formation of the thing we think about. That's a Huge Idea

So.....begin right now to calm your mind. Bring yourself to a place of peace and be open to loving direction. Keep in mind that the direction or help offered may not be what you thought it would be. It is important that you not dictate. When I say submission....I mean submission. Also, in order to receive miracles and blessings, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO ACCEPT THEM! Be on the lookout for small things offered. Give thanks and receive the gift. (Even if it is something as small as advice). Be aware. Search

When inspired with guidance...now, you must pick yourself up and take action. Swift action. You'll know if it is divine revelation. If the guidance is life affirming, (either to you or someone else)...get up and just do it! Don't wait. Yes, it is possible for something to be handed to you; but taking action on guidance should be just as much of a miracle to be realized

Everybody's journey will be different and unique to their own personal experience although what I've suggested here is the beginning foundation necessary.

After you've worked yourself out of an immediate crisis; a few important questions should arise for your consideration. How do you move forward and close the gate behind? What are you going to do to build a better life? I don't think you want to come back to this horrible wretched place again...right?

Well; to build anything, you must start on a firm foundation. You've started your building process by changing the way you think. You've planted the good seeds. Now, the good seeds must be fed and nurtured to grow. But what about all those weeds? The weeds must be pulled up, one at a time or they will over run the good seeds of your garden again. There is still more work to be done for a good foundation

I know some are thinking they already have a good foundation in place and want to start moving forward on their journey. I suggest they ask themselves a question before beginning; Look at your surroundings right now....what do you see?

If your life is in chaos, your surroundings are a mess, (literally and figuratively), your health is substandard, have addictions or a number of spirit killing situations....then you need to work on yourself FIRST. Remember...God is not the author of chaos.

This is also true for those who have asked for advice, paid for programs and/or coaches and nothing seems to work. If the advice received is good and nothing is working; then something of a higher priority should be attended to. If you are in bad health or physical pain...your body is trying to tell you something. Listen to the alarms going off! Your state of mind has manifested EVERYTHING you are experiencing right now.

Working on yourself first before starting any new venture, or relationship is absolutely necessary because it is YOU holding you back

The traditional way is to gather a group that has an interest in what is being "stormed." Go around the table and each person may present an idea. Only one at a time. Someone must act as "secretary" and record the ideas on a large tablet that everyone can read. Only one or two ideas to a page. Keep going around the room until no one has anything further to offer. No idea or comment is off limits doing this. Once everyone is done the moderator of the group goes back over each idea. Some will need to be discounted as not being practical, others will have merit to consider further. The refined list then goes to management who will decide which ideas are implemented

Focus on quantity
No criticism
Unusual ideas are welcome
Combine and improve ideas

Set the problem
Determine and specify the problem which needs a solution. Every participant must know the problem.

Generate ideas
Generate as many ideas as possible. Keep in mind the four basic brainstorm rules and record the good ideas. Continue for five to fifteen minutes.

Select best idea
Select the most appropriated idea from the suggested ideas

I have tried to get you to see that the power to change is within you. That when you focus on others and see yourself as a victim, that you will give that power to them and forever remain a victim.

The key is in knowing clearly what you want, and focusing on THAT not what stops you. Then let go and let God. Allow ideas to come to you, have faith that people WILL help you (if you don't trust them, as you don't trust anyone in Singapore, then you will reject God's attempts at sending you helpers)

Finally be ready to take action when the moment arrives and don't fear what comes next... go forth boldly. This is what I came into your life to tell you. Now it's up to you to make it happen

There's a book called "Great Failures of the Extremely Successful". It describes how failures happen to everyone, only the successful people never give up. They understand that failure is part of the process, so when things go wrong, or people try to stop them, they just keep going until they succeed

Somehow...someway...you got to where you are now because of how you think. I'm going to make a suggestion Please take the time to read a very short book, - You can also go to any bookstore in the "classic" section and buy it. It's called, "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen and was written in the 1800's. This book is deep and every single sentence has wisdom; so it is something that has to be read and studied slowly. I highly recommend this little book, because it changed many life in a profound way.

After reading, "As A Man Thinketh" and ABSORBING what it says...you will begin to understand why I am sending you in this direction before starting your journey

My idea - "How to win friends and influence people" is an awesome book and I highly recommend you pick it up. The book goes into detail on how to be more of a selfless, encouraging, and humble person and those attributes we'll attract people to you. One of my favorite lines of the book says that 'you can make more friends in two weeks by taking an interest in others then you can in two years trying to tell others about yourself'.

My suggestion to a book it’s a book called the conversations with God. There are 3 in the series. You may want to read them and see where that takes you as a start to getting your life on track. You can go on the web and search Neale Donald Walsh as he is the author and has several very good sites

Life can always be difficult at times. The key is to realize that there is another Law called the Law of Polarity. For every negative, there is a positive. For every up, there is a down. We tend to stay focused on the negative, but the sight should be on the fact that there is a positive in direct proportion to the negative. Always keep your focus on your dream and possibility, and never on your current situation. CREATE what you DO want in your mind, and ignore what you DON'T want. And don't let the present situation that you don't like be your focus, againfocus on what you DO like and want. Then TRUST and BELIEVE. If you do not, then your situation cannot change.

I'm wishing you well and sending love your way. Hope this helps, Warm Regards, and thank you for your question

Answer 2

i'm sure your step mother doesn't "hate" you... and just because you might be pretty isn't a reason for dislike.

your step mother has issues, which have nothing to do with you... but she is taking things out on you, which is entirely unfair.

perhaps you could let your step mom know how you feel? ask her if you can talk. be calme. tell her you've been feeling miserable and you feel you are disliked. let her know you'd like to have a better relationship with everyone at home... ask her what you can do to make things better?

maybe this will give her some food for thought and she might come to her senses?

sometimes the kids have to act like the adults in order to get some results.

it's worth a try, and if your step mother has any compassion she will take your thoughts into consideration.

i hope you get some good answers here. hugs

Answer 3

Basically you're Cinderalla (not trying to make fun of your situation). I think that the only people you can trust now is your friends, I mean, good friends, not friends who agree with everything you say, true friends as in they're willing to correct you and help you when you make a mistake. True family wouldn't e harmful to you. Have you tried called child services or some program like that? maybe you should record on a small camera how your step mom treats you and show it to the police, maybe they can do something about it? About you sister, i think she's bi-polar, you should stay away from her, they can be quite unstable.

Answer 4

Is there any other reletives tht u cud stay wiv as u sed u get on? You dont say how old you are, you may be able to move out or go to uni. why not talk to your step parents and tell them how you feel. it cant do much harm as you say you're living in the dark. If you dont like second hand clothes, get a job and you may be able to buy more. I am 13 and i dont get much pocket money so i walk dogs and baby sit for friends.

Answer 5

Sweetheart,
Until you stop habouring malice, [clear your mind of all evil thoughts and intentions toward them] and seek to cease every oppotunity to get on happily with them, you won't know peace your self. you must live wiyh them any way. What you can not avoid, welcome gladly; So ancient Greek proverb goes. Understand that we live in a universe that is sensitive to our most preoccupying thoughts. And that we get just about what we give. So give good and good will come to you.

I have been there many times, but I survived it and am now on my own happily and still having them as allies.

Good luck.

Answer 6

confused....you're aunt is also you're stepmother? so, your dad married your mom's sister after divorcing your mom?
In any event, I'm pretty sure your 'stepmom/aunt' isn't jealous of your 'beauty' LOL...she's an adult.
I think instead of focusing on what you DONT have, you should take a minute to think about what you do have - a roof over your head, food on the table, and something to wear.
all women are moody. deal with it.

Answer 7

start thinking of leaving the place. frankly i don't think you have a future there at all.

ask a close friend to help you get a job elsewhere so you can start a new life.

faster the better. don't waste time.

lastly try to forget the bad times you had with them. life is too precious to waste on hating them.

good luck.

Answer 8

Be strong and survive. Grow up. Study. Go for a career and move out.
Once you have moved out and you stand on your own feet, don´t give a damn anymore for these people, as they are not really worth it to be called "family"-

Answer 9

well if your not able to live on your own you either go some where eles and live or grin and bear it thats a same some people are so horable if it is to much you must find another place to live get a job get away

Answer 10

Your life story parallels "Cinderella."
- evil stepmother
- stepdaughters
- cleaning and chores
That's spooky.

I would recommend just trying to get along with your step family.
Since you have to live with them [unless you run away], it would be better to live on their good side rather than their bad.

Answer 11

If you are over 18 move. If under 18 bear with it.