Yesterday i went for my photo shoot for my tattoo's. It was held at my tattoo artist's shop, him and I are great friends too.
Well, there was lots of alcohol (I think I was only sober one) and my tattoo artist got really drunk. Later on in the day, I was standing in the doorway of the shop and I guess I was in his way but he grabbed me as to move me out of his way but instead he kissed me. I was in shock so I said I had to go and got in my car and left. I also have a boyfriend, so of course I told him the situation. Now I don't know what to do. He's a great friend and I know he was drunk. I'm very sure if it was any girl in the doorway, he would of kissed her. Should I just act like nothing happened knowing he probably doesn't remember, or should I just stop talking to him? I'm confused!
2007-08-13 04:03:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the first thing you need to do is address the situation. you go up to him and ask him what he remembers about that night. if he knows what he did, and apologizes for it, accept the apology and tell him that that's unacceptable and you won't allow it to happen again. if he doesn't remember, remind him lightly and see if he apologizes. if, in either situation, he does not apologize for his actions, even after you tell him how you feel, then you need to say, "I'm flattered that you have these feelings for me, but if this is how you're going to deal with them, knowing that i have a boyfriend, then i'm afraid i can't be around you anymore. i'm not willing to put my relationship on the line."
it's a tough situation. good luck!
2007-08-13 04:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if this guy is such a really great friend, you need to mention it to him in a friendly manner. Good friends can do that, and it is OK. Tell him how it made you feel. Be honest, and open with him. If he doesn't know, you should probably mention your boyfriend, too. Don't sugar coat anything, just lay it out for him. Tell him you understand he was drunk, what you said about any girl. You have the ability to diffuse this situation, or ignite it. It is up to you how you handle it.
Good luck, and I hope you two can remain friends....
Stevo.
2007-08-13 04:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop talking to him... he was drunk and he probably does like you. I wouldn't have told the boyfriend because he may want to kick this guy's butt now. Just remind your friend you have a boyfriend and that you aren't upset because you know he was drunk, but that if shouldn't try something like that ever again.
2007-08-13 04:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would address my friend because if it made you feel uneasy he should know that you felt very uncomfortable with his actions and that you are aware fo the fact that he was under the influence but that really made you feel uncomfortable, and you wanted to know what was that about how does your boyfriend feel about the situation does he have a problem with you two remaining friends? If you guys are truly friends he won't have a problem apologizing and giving a explanation
2007-08-13 04:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by craving cash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you, have a talk with him, and see if he remembers. If he doesn't, then probably he is really drunk. But he will be apologise if he doesnt know the thing happens
2007-08-13 05:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ashlyn Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u said that if it was any girl in the door he would have kissed her.. so there is the aswer so u do not have to be confused.. i know you have a boyfriend.. try talking to him about this.. incase the guy does remember what he has done..or you can talk to the two of them (both the guys) that way the situation is resolved.. :)
2007-08-13 04:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he was drunk than i wouldnt completely stop talking to him. b ut pull him aside and say "hey what you did the other night, kissing me...was suprising to me. i have a boyfriend and i am pretty sure that you only kissed me because you were drunk, but can we just forget that it happened. i love you as a friend" or sumthing like that.
2007-08-13 04:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what happened and ask if he remembers. If he says yes, tell him not to EVER do it again or you won't be able to be friends any longer. If he says he doesn't remember, just make it clear that you don't want him to do it again, but understand that it was the alcohol...
And if it ever occurs again, leave him in the dust.
2007-08-13 04:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he was so drunk, he probably had no idea what he was doing. Remain friends with him, unless he does it again.
2007-08-13 04:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kirby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right to have told your BF, but with this guy, if he remembers it, you need to make it clear that you're just friends.....next time you see him, just ask him what he think happened, then id he doesn't remember, forget it and tell your BF to, aswell
2007-08-13 04:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by lil_munchie_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋