This is a strange tale... I met a boy in college, and I fell madly in love with him from afar. He was what I always sought after in a soulmate. I studied him (we'll call him "Philip") like it was my major. I inquired about him, and I'd make friends with his friends just to get in "good" with him (Creepy, I know). One night he and I drank a little too much, and we slept together. For him, I think, it was just a one-night-stand. For me it was like a spark...I didn't know how to handle my emotions for him and the situation. So I distanced myself. He and I never really did speak again. But I yearn for this man. Years later I am MADLY in love with him. I'm in a relationship with another man. But I cannot move on from the aforementioned. In a perfect world (or in my sick mind), Philip and I would be together. But he is in a commited relationship, and I am too. And I don't want these feelings anymore. What steps can I take to move forward in my love life?
2007-08-13 03:17:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure he's not that good; you have created a fantasy in your mind bc you want things to be perfect. expect...... you think you deserve better than what you have now so you have focused all that 'better' on him. I think you should decide a. is he really worth it (contact him again, even for a talk) b. come clean with your current relationship
2007-08-13 03:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to wake up from your fantasy world and move on . What about the guy that is in your life ? He deserves a woman who loves him for who he is and not some one stuck in a fantasy world still daydreaming about a one night stand.
I suggest that you seek therapy.
2007-08-13 03:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a grip. the "relationship" you envision yourself with involving phillip is in your head only and does not include any real life experiences that would enrich a relationship - and certainly is unfair to the man you are currently with since you cannot give him your full attention and affection.
the man you are with deserves this, so you need to recognize that your fascination with phillip is a crush and has no bearing on real life
2007-08-13 03:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need personal counselling. You are in love with an idea; not a man. As soon as you were with this man you would realize he is not as perfect as you think he is.
Get the counselling.
2007-08-13 03:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not love, that's obsession. You should go to a counselor or something. He is just a fantasy.
2007-08-13 03:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by europa312 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont love him.. you dont fall in love with someone from afar. get some help you sound like you could be a typical stalker.
2007-08-13 03:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling...I can't even remember who I was with 6 years ago.
2007-08-13 03:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to all of us get out a bit more, if you have to have a one night stand with someone else and see how he rates
2007-08-13 03:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a therapist! This isn't normal, and to be honest, it's a bit crazy.
2007-08-13 03:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go find a therapist, you have issues to resolve.
2007-08-13 03:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋