Okay ladies what would you think if your guy of 6 years told someone he feels lonely? (You over heard a conversation, with him and his friend)Knowing you have done everything possible to be by his side, and backed him in every aspect of his life.
Guys, if you are really feeling your girl, is it anyway possible you could feel lonely when all she shows you is love? I'm now having the feeling, I need to leave and let him really be alone. I just need a different point of view from someone other than myself. Do any of you think I'm wasting time here? And how would this make you feel, after six years in a relationship, and three children?
2007-08-13 03:05:42 · 11 answers · asked by Red Apple Martini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he feels lonely, then despite your best efforts, you aren't meeting his emotional needs. This doesn't reflect badly on you! It just means that you need to try new things. What do you not do now, that you used to do, together when you first started dating? You mentioned 3 kids... that's a lot of distraction, and I bet it's easy for him to feel like he's lost in the shuffle. Do you have any time (like, full on days) alone together, or are the kids always around?
Maybe his 'lonely' means that he doesn't have the time for his friends that he used to, and he's lonely for that kind of social interaction (ie, not feeling alone in your relationship - feeling alone in regards to the outside world.) Have you noticed if he spends as much time these days with his friends as he used to? Maybe you could set up a time for him to have a 'guys night' at the house - send the kids to Grandma's for a sleepover, and ask him to invite his friends over to watch a game or fight or have cards night, and give them everything they need to have some fun.
2007-08-13 03:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by uncymbal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a look from his shoes and see if you can see what he means by being lonely. He's obviously not lonely for intimate companioship, he has you, and from you three children. So no he is not lonely from that. But tell me this how many friends does he have, Does he get the chance and opportunity to get out and do things with them. Or are you in anyway inisting that he always be there with you.
Here is a suggestion, find a place where they hold classes for the community, often these places will also do sports clubs etc. Suggest that the two of you take one together THEN suggest that he might want to do this one on his OWN.
This way he can get out and a) both of you can meet friends and b) He can meet some friends.
It is said that to make a relationship work really well. She needs a night out alone, He needs a night out alone, and if there are kids involved, Both need a night together each week.
2007-08-13 03:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by papa_lightning 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Stop having kids with someone you're not married to and have no lifetime commitment with.
2. Perhaps he's just having a bad week.
3. Why is your immediate reaction to leave him after 6 years? Shouldn't your reaction be to discuss it with him and try to resolve the situation? If you two can't talk after 6 years, you have bigger problems than him feeling "lonely."
4. What do you mean "wasting time here?" What is it you are waiting for? You live with him, have kids with him, play house with him....what more do you want? If you are waiting for marriage, you should have left him after 2 years and no proposal...now you are 6 years into it.....what's the point?
5. Haven't you heard the expression "why by the cow when you get the milk for free?"
2007-08-13 03:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen you and this man must have had something in common to have had three children together i would not call it quits right now. Think about these children they can feel what you are feeling. Because he feel like he is lonely isn't good enough reason to just leave and take these kids away from their dad. Maybe you need some alone time together to sit down and talk about why he feels this way. i no your hurting right now. Best of luck
2007-08-13 03:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with him about overhearing the conversation. Ask him why he is feeling the way he is. Let him know in a caring way that you are concerned about his feelings of lonliness. Love go's a long way. I think we all feel a lonliness from time to time. Whether in a relationship or not. Let him do the talking and be a good listener, he may need this. God Bless you honey.
2007-08-13 03:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Godlover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this how much quality time do u guys spend alone together , i see u have 3 children and that spend;s alot of ur time tending to them. try changing ur routine have the kids in bed before nine . think of what u guys did before the children came see lf that helps .let gramma and grand paw have the kids for the weekend and getaway. that 7 year itch is coming up so be prepared good luck.
2007-08-13 03:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Frank d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just needs more guy friends? I've felt that way myself and I've been married for several years. Maybe he feels that you take him for granted. Is yours a partnership, sharing the good and the bad? Does he feel that he is struggling by himself financially? Ask him what he means by "lonely"?
2007-08-13 03:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
purely provide it time babe, do not leap into yet another realtionship suited away the two. I had the samething ensue to me I dated a entire sweetheart yet he grew to become into VERY controlling. He made my scheduals for me and he "programed" my life out, yet at situations he grew to become into the sweetest guy ever! I broke up with him and felt so undesirable approximately it because of the fact I neglected that administration and that area of him that I enjoyed so very lots. I then dated entire sweetheart who wasnt controlling in any respect he permit me do in spite of and that i thoroughly broke his heart, i began out to regulate him and that i became the previouse guy I dated because of the fact thats what i grew to become into used to. Now this different guy that I dated is lengthy previous and so is the only that taken care of me like a queen. Take it sluggish and youll be large. It hurts for awhile yet youll sense better in time, it grew to become right into a good determination and definite youll omit him yet youll recover from it and discover somebody who will manage you suited.
2016-10-15 04:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all need our own space see if you can have a week or so break apart if there are cracks in you,r reationship i think you will soon know on the other hand his reaction to having you back after a week or so should speak volumes
2007-08-13 03:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by john s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just miss his buddies and the things he used to do. it's not personal.tell him that you are willing to give him time to hang out with his friends.
2007-08-13 03:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋