My boyfriend proposed in May and we plan to get married in 2009. My friend has just announced that she's now getting married in the same year a few months later. I know I'm being childish but I'm a bit annoyed about it. Have I turned into a crazy bride-to-be?!
2007-08-13 02:55:03 · 35 answers · asked by mair.bair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know I'm being stupid but when she told me there was a little part of me (the crazy part) that kind of felt a bit funny about it. I'd never say anything to her and it's not that I'm not happy for her. I think I just needed someone to tell me to shut up and stop being silly so... thanks!
2007-08-13 03:20:06 · update #1
Yes, you're being very silly. You can't reserve the entire year for nobody but you.
A friend of mine got married about a month before I did and set her date at least eight months after we set ours. I went to her wedding and had a great time. A couple days later her parents called and asked if I wanted her aisle runner since they didn't have another use for it. Her choice actually helped me in the longrun.
Perhaps once you manage to have a good laugh at yourself for having a moment, you can think of something you can pass on to your friend when you're done with it.
Do whatever will help you get this out of your system. Have a good pout without beating yourself up. Play a shoot 'em' up video game. Go somewhere you're entirely alone and shout in frustration. After all, just because we get hit with the ocassional inapropriate or childish emotion doesn't mean we don't have to deal with it on some level. So give yourself an hour or so to have a good sulk and then find a way to let it go.
Chances are that pretty soon you'll have some great planning tips or resources to pass on to your friend. And when you do, you'll want that smile to be sincere.
Best of luck to you and your friend. I'm sure both your weddings will be lovely, and you'll each dance at the other's.
2007-08-13 04:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The big question is have you and your friend always been competitive?
Don't worry, I had 5 really close girlfriends get engaged in 5 months. that was a lot to take in, especially because they were all asking when I was going to get engaged. Once another women hears "marriage", for some reason the thought of it spreads like a virus and people become obsessed until they get what they want! lol. I had a friend do a similar thing and I think she just didn't want to feel left out of the loop.
Look on the bright side, she can help you plan and no matter what....she could never steal your thunder the day of the wedding because it is your special day. :)
I hope you feel better
-Annie
2007-08-13 03:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by angelmisk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, if you're in your mid 20's or thereabouts, lots of your friends will be getting married around the same time. I would be a little annoyed, but it is bound to happen, and I suggest you change your thinking about this...now you have someone to talk about wedding stuff with, and go try on dresses together, etc. The truth is, even people who are really happy for you get sick of hearing about wedding this and wedding that after a while...she won't, because she's going through the same thing as you! This can be a great thing!
2007-08-13 03:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why are you annoyed about it? I could understand if she was taking all of your ideas for her own and her wedding was a week or so before or after yours. But her wedding is simply a few months later. Months are understandable. It's very possible that she's had her sights set on a certain time of the year for when she wants to get married and it just so happens that her date coincided with with your year. Just because you're getting married in '09 doesn't mean no one else can.
2007-08-13 03:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you want it to be your day, and have your little fit now and get over it. If you want me to say it: shut up and stop being silly! There....
Now, I have to say; I have 2 sister in laws.
One was married October 15th 2005. I wanted and had a very fall wedding; which hers wasn't. I was married October
14th 2006. I worked with the days I had available while looking and didn't want to go too early as I was trying to coordinate best with the changing tree leaf colors. She did not mind at all!
Now my other sister in law is getting married October 13th 2007.I don't care. My sister in law didn't care when I got married the day after her anniversary; however she's a little irritated her sister is doing it the same weekend, since she wanted to originally get married in the spring. There's more to the reason of her getting mad, but just an example!
2007-08-13 03:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Colleen Cook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your friend is getting married a few months after you (and not the same day or month as you) that is fine.
Also, you will be getting married first and before your friend, doesn't that count for something?
Last, there are always weddings taking place every weekend and every month, so we just have to accept that, ya know.
2007-08-13 04:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a chill pill to be honest. I got married two weeks after one of my friends, and a week after my best friend. Plus most of my friends are getting married this year and we have back to back weddings. I am very happy for all of them and none of my friends had any problems with whos wedding was when. It sounds like you are a little jealous of out doing your wedding since they were are so close.
They day of your wedding is all about you, noone else but you. The day of your friends wedding is all about her. Just remember that, you get a day, not a month.
2007-08-13 03:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least she's getting married after you, and not before you. Sometimes these things happen. My fiance and I started ring shopping earlier this year. Before we found the ring, my little brother got engaged, and hadn't even told anyone in the family they were talking about it. So all the sudden, we have to keep our plans on the d.l. so we didn't rain on their parade. We didn't tell people or show off my ring for awhile, so he could have the spotlight. We did schedule our wedding for two months after theirs. Just because you're engaged doesn't mean everyone else's lives will revolve around you know. Like I said, at least she put it after your wedding and not before. You may even have fun planning a wedding together.
2007-08-13 03:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit like my situation. A friend of mine announced her engagement a few months after mine and she got married this past month and my wedding is in September. I wouldn't say I was upset at it, but it made me feel like I couldn't get my act together fast enough and she beat me to the finish line. I wouldn't get upset at it. It is still after yours is so just enjoy it! Congratulations on your engagement... your day will come and all eyes will be on you too. Just be happy for your friend. I'm sure she will do the same for you :)
2007-08-13 04:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you have. there are 365 days in one year. you mean to tell me that a friend is supposed to put off a wedding an entire year so that your wedding will be the only one that year? thats a little crazy and also very childish. you're having the first wedding and the weddings are a few months apart. Really, it's gonna be okay.
2007-08-13 03:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Des 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋