this would be a problem if we ever broke up, and i dont know what to do .
i have never felt this way i miss him all the time when he isnt here and i drive myself crazy .
2007-08-13 02:46:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is not possible. You don't love someone more than you love yourself. Suppose he wanted to break up. If you truly loved him more than you love yourself, that would be perfect, because it would be what he wants. If being dumped by him would make you angry, then that is proof that you love yourself more than you love him.
2007-08-13 02:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
> i do get complemented alot on how attractive i am, but basically i'm saying that still feel empty. < This says much ...about not only how you feel, but about the 'shallowness' of 'Attractiveness' and of your boyfriends empty headed of 'Jack the lad' behaviour. In some respects, I have been in your shoes (as a guy), and myself and ex wife decided to use therapy in order to grow .....It's not a term I like as it can generate a lot of cliched centred ideas, but it is not too far removed from the truth. Cutting a long story short, we did learn, and moved apart to the point that although we still cared for each other, we had both grown up enough to no longer wanted nor needed to be together (she later became a 'White Witch'). Some who go through this kind of process become closer, less self centred and more integrated as human beings and finding in themselves a greater capacity to love than they had ever realised. Maybe you could do it 'together' ...or maybe not! Why not find yourself some help...? You sound like you deserve some. Good luck ....and take care. Sash.
2016-05-21 05:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by emelda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real talk... i would just point out all the things i dont like about him and try to distance from him, not too much tho. lIke if i wanna call him, i would wait til he calls me instead
This phase happened to me before and he left me during that same time also. My heart was shattered and i cried every night almost for a month. Sometimes you have to let things go that wasnt meant to be. I thought we were forever but it was all bull. I also wrote letters to him while he was gone and a year later i heard from him again. the feelings didnt come back but i did feel really sad. it brought the memories back.
hope this helps and he is treating u right
2007-08-13 02:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Leilani™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to love yourself first to be able to love someone else.so start finding something that you enjoy to do or friends to hang with and enjoy your time apart.you dont want another person to be your total life focus.if the two of you ever got married and you wanted him around to make you feel complete then you will end up sofficating him and he will leave.you have to find enjoyment doing something else. go to a shelter and help take care of the animals there.finding something that needs you will help you not feel so needy of him.
2007-08-13 02:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are infatuated... or have abandonment issues.
it's not normal to miss someone so much it drives you crazy all of the time.
find some things which interest YOU -- hobbies, the gym, maybe a karate class... busy-up your life so you don't have to depend upon some guy for entertainment all of the time.
there is more to life.
2007-08-13 02:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is better to love someone else more than u love ur own self. by this way u can atleast be remain protected from the evil called selfishness.as far as ur boyfriend is concerned everything will be normal as time passes.
2007-08-13 02:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Human 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure what you need to do to get over this, but you should definitely try to see yourself as more valuable. why would any man want a woman who doesn't even want herself. that is not an attractive quality. you know yourself better than anyone else, so if you don't even like yourself how could you ever expect someone else to?
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2007-08-13 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider how your life would be without him- I'm sure it would really suck but after a few weeks you'll get over him. Now consider yourself dead (which is the comparison you're making!). There's no getting over that.
2007-08-13 02:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by scheidemann2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to love yourself before loving a guy.
2007-08-13 02:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Hank S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love your boyfriend truthfully but not totally. men are strange creatures, we do not like someone clinging to our pants. but if the object of our affection is always just a little out of reach, just a little bit elusive, we would always be chasing her and wanting her. =)
2007-08-13 02:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋