HORNEY-**** SEX-FIENDS!!!?

Question

Okay, this seriously isn't even funny anymore!I'm 16 and it just about all the guys I know just care about one thing. Yupp, u guessed it:SEX!!!! It's like they don't wanna talk to u after they find out ur not promiscuous. Let me give u a few examples:
-I had been talking to this guy on msn for about a week and he seemed pretty nice and hadn't mentioned sex at all. However, one day, he was like "Don't u have a d1ck to ride. I'm horny. Do you like one-on-one contact?" I was honest and said no because I'm a virgin. Guess what? That guy never spoke to me again.
-This guy from school started IMing me and said I was cute, but he was too nervous to talk to me in school. I was so happy at first, but then he asked me if I was a freak and would I send him some sexy pics. I said no and he told me to get a life and a job. Then, he deleted me off msn and facebook and we haven't spoke since.
-I was talking to this guy on msn and like, the second thing he asked was am I a freak. I didn't answer, so he said "Can't even answer a question can u?" Then, he blocked and deleted me.
These are just a few of the example I'm talking about. The crazy thing, is that these guys go on about other ppl like me being childish and "actin stupid", but they seem to be prime example of immaturity. It's like all guys care about is sex! I decided that I'm not having sex until I'm a real relationship (which by the looks of things,will be quite sometime), but it seems like all guys care about is sex! What do u guys think about this?

Answer 1

Little lady, your problem is the guys you are attracted to. Almost all young guys are nice and are not going to hassle you about sex. However, you will not give them the time of day because you are only interested in the super good looking, sexy, bad boy types. And, because the Internet attracts all the angry and vicious creeps that cannot attract girls.

And, when it comes to marriage, regardless of what we may tell you to get into your pants, we prefer virgins. And certainly, we want to be a girl's first and only. Also, since, past the age of 19, there are not very many pretty young virgin girls, they have a big advantage in getting the best husbands.

Answer 2

First thing you need to understand - teenaged guys are like labrador retrievers. We have 3 brain cells that work, and those cells don't talk to each other about anything other than sex.

Second thing - If you drained the average teenaged boy dry, you'd get about 4-5 quarts of testosterone. That's more than the amount of blood you'd get out of them. Face it, the average teen boy is a horndog first, and a human being 2nd. Or maybe 3rd, depending on the day.

If you started IMing some of these people and you didn't know them in real life, they may have got the idea somewhere that you were promiscuous. Do you have a facebook or myspace account with some sexy or even just cute pictures of you there? That may be where they got the idea. And if you'd never talked to them before, it's even money that some of them were at least 30 years old, trolling for someone young who will maybe have a little dirty chat with them, or even more. Unless you know the person in real life, be very, very, VERY careful about what you tell them. And never give them information that might let them find you in real life. There's some real creeps out there.

Finally - if the ones that you know are only able to talk to you online, just be friendly, but a bit reserved, and ask them to talk to you in real life instead. They may grow a spine and do so, or they'll leave you alone. But they're not likely to be as rude to you face to face. This will let you weed through the chaff in a hurry, to get to know the ones worth knowing.

Answer 3

Well, when younger we had girls that did it with anyone, those that only did it with a steady b/f and those that just didn't do it at all. Funnily enough, even though most young guys will try it on, test the water so to speak, they're not all sex fiends. You can't knock 'em for trying and an old saying, if you don't ask the question, you can't get an answer. But good on you, you stick to what you want to do and don't bow to the pressure. Somewhere, you'll meet a nice genuine guy who'll appreciate the fact of what you've done. And as for the morons you've been meeting, you're well rid of them!

Answer 4

What you're running into is the courage of non-face-to-face conversations. These guys would never have the nerve to ask you that face-to-face because they couldn't run away and ignore your response the way they can on the internet. There, they can simply block and ignore you and the embarrassment/outrage they have caused you. Don't let the internet define acceptable behaviour for you.

Basically, these are just immature, cowardly boys whom you're better off without. There ARE decent, caring boys out there that will respect you and enjoy being with you because you're you.

That being said, you're at a time in your life where your hormones are running wild, the chemical balance in your body is changing daily, and it affects your moods and your thinking.

The boys are in the same situation, and a lot of what they will say/do/think right now is different from when their bodies settle down into a steady (adult) state of chemical balance. These boys simply haven't been taught the self-control they need to behave properly.

I'm not trying to excuse them, they are too immature for you to get involved with. That doesn't mean you have to look to older guys, it just means you have to keep looking. There are boys out there your age who have the control to act as they should. Just as you have your own sexual thoughts but don't act on them, they will, too. And you will have fun together, getting to know each other, and letting your relationship grow and mature the way you want it to.

Answer 5

Props to you! What happened to teenagers like you? Mostly, other girls give in. Stand your ground, you'd be so much more happier with the end results. If sex is all they want to talk about, you'll never get anything more from them and they'll never respect you if you don't have respect for yourself. Just keep saying no, and concentrate on school and more important things in life. Love and sex will come when the time is right. I'm sure you'll know.

Answer 6

The problem is that you are communicating with people on the internet, instead of in real life. People think the internet gives them some kind of animosity, so they can just behave like complete pervs and freaks. Guys do put a lot of emphasis on sex, but I think if you get offline and meet some real people, you may have some better experiences.

Answer 7

at 16 all i was worried about was sex too, you dont want to be the only 16yo virgin. and to a point alot of the females let themsevels down just so they can hang with the "kool crowd". that was 20 years ago i see nothing has changed.

so good on you and you morals, if there were more girls like you we would no be seeing all these teenage mums. so you go gal and keep your legs crossed !!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Boys are wrongly fed to believe by peers and adult media that :
1. they will be man only if they can have sex with girls, preferably like those porn stars........
2. all girls want nothing but good hard sex....
3. emotions don't matter in sex, things that matter are strength and size....
4. girl who isn't willing to sleep with you, will become an emotional liability soon.....

But more importantly, teen-aged boys lag behind girls in emotional maturity and are terrified of, even incapable of, getting emotionally involved in a relationship.

They simply don't know much about maintaining a relationship with girls without getting sexually involved. They run away from girls like you because they find them difficult to handle.

For adolescent boys sexual initiation is like an important test, or a landmark, which they must pass, sooner than their peers, to feel confident and worthy of being a man. Since hormones are working at their peek in teen years, boys read and watch pornography a lot and get unduly influenced by it, which is meant only for MEN and hardly ever present the women's side of sexuality....

Man dominated western media, to the delight of men, has thrust upon women some 'burdens' ....including of compulsion to have a boyfriend from a young age, and to have one, and keep one, she must please him, whenever he wants, however he wants...

So don't worry about what boys want... focus on what you want from boys...be confident and act intelligent and witty..soon you will have mature boys eating out of your hands...
best wishes!!

Answer 10

part of the problem is where youre meeting them. Many young guys are interesting in getting some, older guys too, and you'll find them easily on the net. Don't invest emotion in online people.