My daughters' names are Elaynne (12), Alayna (9), Elayna (7) and Alaynne(3).Recently Elaynne compains about that.She says the 4 names are too similar and she wants to have a different name so she isa different person.How can I explain her she is a different person,no matter what her name is?
2007-08-13 01:54:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A name is created by a group of letters, but a person and his or her personality is created with so much more...
2007-08-13 02:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by yahoo 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋
She sounds pretty deep for a 12 year old kid. Don't try to convince her that her feelings are wrong to have, suggest ways that she can improve the situation. She can adopt a nickname, start using her middle name, etc. Be supportive, no matter what she chooses. Your daughter is at the age where she's forming her own separate identity from her family and she needs your help to make it a positive transition.
2007-08-13 09:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Just say so - but let her do what she wants about her name. Explain to her simply that she's a different person, but don't push the issue. To be honest, I'd want a different name, too. In fact, if she's very upset about it, I'd consider letting her legally change it (because she'll probably do it when she's older anyway), or start talking to her about names she likes and if she wants to start using them. She's old enough now to know what she wants about something like this, and if you don't give her her freedom, she'll only feel resentful of you for naming all your children like you did.
By the way, she sounds like a very mature girl.
2007-08-13 09:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
12 year olds struggle between having to be exactly like everyone else and being desperate for individuality. If she has a middle name, I would use that. She will set herself apart from her sisters one way or another and a name change is the least objectionable thing she could do.
2007-08-13 09:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Elaynne and Alaynee are basically the same name honey, they only start with different letters! Same with Elayna and Alaynne, these girls are going to hate you when they become teenagers. I'm suprised ppl at school don't go around teasing them. That's a horrible thing.
2007-08-13 11:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your daughter on this one. Why did you pick names that sound so similar? I think it would cause major confusion. How on earth do they know who you're talking to? I would let her pick what she would like to be called. Maybe her middle name or some nickname. Call her "Elle". She knows she's a different person which is why she wants to be called something that doesn't sound so much like her sisters names. Maybe it's you that needs to know that there's more to it than "just a name".
2007-08-13 09:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
All of your children's name are very similiar so she probably doesn't feel like she has an identity of her own. Sit down with your oldest to have a "grown-up" chat to discuss the problem and come up with some realistic solutions. Maybe you could start addressing her by her middle name or come up with a nickname that's special and all her own. At this age it's very important to not discount her feelings and to give her her own identity.
2007-08-13 09:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she has a second name I suggest you address her on that name rather until this phase ends. She is at an age where she wants to seek her own voice and identity, just let her get over it. She will soon realise that a name doesnt define who you are.
2007-08-13 09:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Geez! It reminds me of George Foreman (the boxer) naming his kids all George Foreman including the girls! Do your daughters have middle names? If they do, let them use those or choose others. IF they don't give them some! They have a right to choose a name that makes sense for them, doesn't confuse their friends or cause trouble at their schools.
2007-08-13 09:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to have to agree with the kid on this one. Let her go by her middle name if she has one. Believe me, I hated my name when I was a kid too...it was just too long in my opinion so I went by Tina for quite a few years.
2007-08-13 09:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Harley 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with your daughter... The names are way too similar.. Maybe she could go by her middle name... Or a nick name ?
2007-08-13 09:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋