i am concered about my 16 year old daughter dating this guy he seems fishy to me what should i do
2007-08-12 22:56:50 · 16 answers · asked by OS the Radicalz KST 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Find out whether he has profiles on MySpace, Friendster, or similar sites, or a livejournal or other blog, and look at how he presents himself. Find out whether he's dated any of your daughter's friends or classmates, and ask their parents what they thought of him.
You should submit this question again, with more details. "Fishy" how? If you mean "I think he's just after her for sex," then congratulations, you're the parent of a teenage daughter. If you think he's involved in something criminal or dangerous, what makes you suspicious? And how old is he?
2007-08-12 23:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by djnightgaunt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by "fishy." Are you worried about her getting hurt? Physically? Emotionally? Is he a loser? A weirdo? a jerk? Or is he just not her type in your mind? Or do you just not like the idea of her going out with the type of guy you think he is? Are you afraid for her safety? Is he stable? Is he in her group of friends? Do they have common interests? How did she meet him? Are they in school together? Do you live in the same town? Do you know anyone who knows him at all or his family? Can you talk to your daughter openly and will she understand your concerns? Will she be likely to come to you if there is trouble? Have you talked to her about date rape and abusive relationships? Is he possessive of her? Do they spend a lot of time alone or with friends? How much is the age difference between them?
2007-08-13 06:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum thought my boyfriend was fishy when I was 16 too! BUT we are now 25 and married with two kids, so it goes to show that sometimes giving him and her the benefit of the doubt goes a long way. Get her to invite him to your place and suss him out subtly. My mum acted like such a dag. Just be cool and go with it, she'll probably end up dumping him when she gets bored!
2007-08-13 07:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't all boys dating 16 year old daughters "fishy"?? Get to know him, get to know his parents. We need more details on what you mean......fishy could mean lots of things.
2007-08-13 08:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can have a talk with him alone next time you get the chance. Try and do some minor background checks but make sure you aren't "spying" on him because if your daughter finds out it will probably make it worse.
If you can't find anything tell your daughter how you feel about him and if all else fails then I guess your dauther will have to find out herself.
2007-08-13 06:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of a 17 year old with a 1 1/2 year old baby of an ex con that never works and/or pays for his son.
I say SABOTAGE IT ANY WAY YOU CAN.
Keep her from him anyway you can.. ground her, make her get a job, Send her to a private school.
Threaten him with bodily hard if he comes near her again.
Do what you need to do now..
2007-08-13 07:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can subtly ask around and see if anyone knows this guy. As for your daughter, depending on what you are suspicious about, she may have to find out for herself. I'm sure there are some other kids or parents you could ask to see what they know about this guy. Good luck.
2007-08-13 07:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your concerned you should approach your daughter. Being her Mum, I am sure you know the best way to approach her so this will help with how subtle one feels they need to be. I hope all turns out well.
2007-08-13 06:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by *JC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share your concern with your daughter but DO NOT try to interfere with her relationships. She will be drawn even closer to him. Invite him over and get to know him. It does not sound as you are going on fact. If you interfere she will not only continue to see him and ,even if she wanted to break up, may not to spite you. Many young women become pregnant to spite parents and insure their boyfriend is always going to be around in their minds.
2007-08-13 08:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by MadMike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
develop relationships with her girlfriends and they will give you the scoop.
My youngest sister at 16 started to date a guy she met at church he seemed so nice and my family loved him. One of her friends called my mom to warn her that this guy was sexually harassing other girls and my little sister did not believe it. Another girl came forward and said that she was friends with a girl he raped.
It turned out he had 2 formal charges pending for the rape of 2 girls he was only 17 but it turns out this super nice christian boy stalked my sister a year when she finally believed everything.
2007-08-13 06:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋