a few days ago, a person who used to be in my friend's yoga class 2 years ago ran into us while we were shopping. Everything was fine until she said," My, you have put on some weight!" to my friend.
Umm, hello, this is America (that person probably has lived here for quite a long time to know the rules)?
2007-08-12 18:42:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
it ruined the whole shopping trip for my friend
2007-08-12 18:42:31 · update #1
now that I recall, that person also insulted my body structure by saying," oh, I thought you were in the 4th grade"
2007-08-12 18:49:19 · update #2
I hope you had the sense to keep your mouth shut after that person said what they did. By doing that, you would appear to be more mature than she. Even a placid smile (think Mona Lisa) and a curt nod will ensure that everyone else can read your body language as thinking she's totally mad.
The idea is that you show you are emotionally secure and able to handle yourself with a degree of style and panache (which they plainly lack). You may think what you like, putting it into words and then actually saying them - particularly to someone you have little connection with - is a gross breach of etiquette.
Walking away while they are still speaking is nice too. (It's only rude if they are talking sensibly).
2007-08-13 01:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by cornflake#1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're talking to your doctor, "whats up" or "how are you today" are just pleasantries. No one really wants to know how you are feeling and what you have really been doing today. Have something interesting to say before you ever approach him and make sure that interesting thing you want to say has nothing to do with the kind of day you had. Find out what he likes and cultivate an interest in what interests him. If he is a huge football fan, watch his favorite team and educate yourself on the players as well as the plays. Ask him if he saw the game then actually know something about it. If he likes golf, learn to play golf. The bottom line is this - if you have nothing in common, you have nothing to talk about. If you have nothing to talk about, your conversation will never last more than a few seconds before you run out of things to say.
2016-05-21 03:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on Earth?!!
Ugh! She is probably one of those b****es that feels they are simply "being honest". They are the worst!
I think the best response is no response. You two should have just turned around and walked away and left her standing there like the fool that she is.
I'm sure that she would have just thought the two of you were being rude and not recognized her own lack of social skills, but I wonder how SHE would react if someone brazenly made rude comments about HER body?
2007-08-12 19:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should say " Oh thanks! I feel the same way about you!" if you just want to get pay back real quick but what you COULD do is whisper in her ear " Oh honey i know when people make fun of other people they just feel bad about themselves so I am going to help you, I know this great laser hair remover person that can get rid of that mustache real quick !" then tell her bye and walk off then when you are about 50 feet away scream " hey ( what ever her name is ) Do you want me to make a appointment to get that mustache removed for you?!!!!!!! like you forgot to ask her earlier!
2007-08-13 02:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would very enthusiastically say "wow, it was so nice of you to notice!" Nothing surprises me anymore. My mother-in-law would have made a comment like that, despite the fact that she's 3x the size of the average person. It's kinda pathetic actually.
2007-08-12 19:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's out of control. I've never heard anyone behave that way unless they were a) drunk b) mentally retarded c) a raving B$*(
I wonder what her deal was. She should know the American rules of politeness at all costs. I hope your friend feels better.
2007-08-12 18:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh for me that is simple...I akknowledge it when people are rude by telling them..."Oh WOW that was rude." it totally catches them off guard, it is honest without going off the deep end and believe me they remember.
2007-08-13 03:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about that time your friend should of said, HUMMMMMMMMMM WHO IS YOUR PLASTIC SURGEON CAUSE YOUR FACE LIFT DIDNT WORK.... that would of put this rude person in their place... some said this to me recently about my weight, and i said right back to them, well i am on a diet and your ugly so i can lose the weight u cant lose your looks. they shut up and left me alone...
2007-08-13 01:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, some people just don't have that filter that the rest of us call manners. I would simply say"Well, be that as it may, I certainly don't need you to bring it to my attention"
2007-08-13 00:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would smile and say "Thanks!" as geniunely as possible. Seriously, anyone who would say such a thing to you is either trying to get a rise out of you or simply rude and lacking social grace.
Don't stoop to their level.
2007-08-12 19:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jeramoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋