my friends say i'm a bad girlfriend, but my boyfriend always tells me how good of one i am. they say this because i worry about my boyfriend when i dont see him or talk to him for a day, but i thought thats a good thing, it shows i care about him. i'm 14 and all my girl friends say that, that is a bad sign in a relationship. are they right? am i wrong to worry about him?
2007-08-12 17:59:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not like crazy worried or anything like that you know just idk but i dont get crazy over it.
2007-08-12 18:10:21 · update #1
he isn't my first boyfriend and he has a good history of being hurt.
2007-08-12 18:18:34 · update #2
i've been in a ralationship for 3 yrs and i still worry about my boy, and yah that's what i think too, that i care about him. and he kinda like when i worry.....
i don't think u r wrong at all. have ur boy said anything about it? has he tell u to stop worrying about him? no? then u r okay, it' not bothering him, so F ur friends... maybe they are a lil bit jealous??
2007-08-12 18:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Delilah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you would be concerned about not seeing him for a day or whatever.... some days guys just want to hang out with their guy friends just like me like t have a girl friend days. you shouldn't be worried that much about him. worrying about him makes you look like the bad guy/girl and makes you seem like you are trying to control him so that he spends all his time with you. those relationships don't do well because one is trying to live a life where s/he can balance a boy/girlfriend while being able to hang out with their friends from time to time.
One question though, is this guy your first boyfriend? if he is then maybe you should just relax and understand that at only 14 you have a lot of boys coming your way. you have so many rotten apples to pick before you pick the right one for you, so you really not worry at 14 that your friends think your are bad girlfriend but he thinks your are a good one. Just understand that at 14 you can make a lot of mistakes you wish you didn't make.
2007-08-13 01:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by ryan_ross_luvr12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a balance between worrying about him and obsessing about what he's doing, if your worried because you have a reason to worry, such as he has a history of seizures or injuries, that's one thing, but if your just worried because he hasn't talked to you in a day that's obsessing, and it could be a bad sign that maybe you either need to trust him and enjoy the time apart, or your to dependent on having him and need to find something to do with your friends or yourself that doesn't cause you to worry about what he is up to all the time. A relationship requires time together and time apart to last, if its all together it will become old and stale, if its all apart it will just disappear, a day is not much to ask for.
2007-08-13 01:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mark G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with worrying about your bf? nothing, unless ur obsessing over it and making psychotic assumptions like he is seeing someone on the side or living another life. but i think what is concerning ur friends, is the fact that ur 14 and in such a serious relationship. it's great to have a bf and all but at this age u should just be enjoying ur youth and concentrating on school, making friends, and just enjoying whatever hobbies u have. bf's are cool and all but i would save that until ur in college when ur emotions are stable and u really know what a relationship should be about. good luck though!
2007-08-13 01:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry so much if you and your boyfriend are happy enjoy your time together. From past experience girls this age can be really jealous and try to get between you and your man. Be careful with how much personal info you share with them. It usually ends with it being thrown back in your face. Its really sad that even the best of friends can become mean girls!!
2007-08-13 01:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are also 14, they don't know anything either.
Your first real relationship will not be until you are in your early 20's. For now, Hang out, do what you want. You're not married, you're not playing house. You're both kids. You're too young yet to have sex. sex is fun when you're 19, it's messy and dangerous when you're 14. Wait until it's fun. Your boyfriend does not want to pretend that he is married.
2007-08-13 01:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by matt123169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its right to worry about some one who is close to u
but to think only about him and nothing else is just sounds bad
think about ur family also they are also a part of ur life i think friends and family are the best friends who can really help u and take u out of this
take some one in ur family in ur confidence and talk to that person about this this will give u the right direction so that ur family and u r both happy
2007-08-13 01:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by VIVEK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its normal when you care for someone that you miss them when there not around or you may worry for them in some way. Continue on being you. Only you know what you feel inside. Ignore your girlfriends advise for now,
2007-08-13 01:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are jealous that you have a boyfriend that thinks you are the best girlfriend yet. I've got friends like that. Don't pay attention to them when they say that.
2007-08-13 01:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in the wrong to worry about him, but you shouldnt worry about not speaking just for one day.unless you have had an arguement the day before, relax he is still there isnt he.?
2007-08-13 01:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋