Parents very strange about sex?

Question

Im 19 (almost 20) and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Despite the odds, we have not had sex. I am a virgin. My family is strangely obsessed with my virginity. They tell me I will never marry if I have sex b4 marriage that every1 will think Im a slut, etc. When my bro wants 2 get me in trouble he will say Im having sex w/ my bf. My parents told me the only way they'll trust me is if I go to a gynecologist and have her tell them Im a virgin to prove it. This is not a cultural or religious thing, they are just very weird. I dont think I should have 2 c a doc 2 prove Im a virgin. How should i handle this and will I ever sexually be normal?

Answer 1

I really feel as if i ned to give my opinion on this, but im not sure what to say really.

Well first off i think that's great that you and your boyfriend have stayed abstinent. I just think your parent want you to stay a respectful girl. Saving yourself for the person you marry can be seen as the greatest gift, or religious, loads of different views on it.

They are going a bit over bored in my eyes, but their message stays true. You should save yourself until you get married. I think you should try to get both your parents to sit down with you and have a talk. tell them what your thoughts are on this, and let them know its your choice and you wont do anything you arnt 100% sure about.

And you have never NOT been sexualy normal. There is nothing wrong with over protective parent, and Im pretty sure it isnt going to break if you dont use it, so just enjoy getting to know your boyfriend, becasue I bet he really loves you, and when you're both married you can enjoy on of the most beautiful things a married couple does with eachother.

Answer 2

You're an adult, do what you want. If your parents really love you, they won't care if you have sex before or after you marry. People have sex all the time before getting married, that doesn't mean they are *****. I don't think your parents would be willing to call people who believe in pre-marital sex *****. It wouldn't make sense and neither does what your parents are doing to you. Besides, ***** are people that have multiple partners and you only have one.