Got an email from a guy friend asking to hang out some time alone, which we usually aren't (our mutual friends come together to watch DVDs a lot). He flirts lightly with all of his female friends, but I've been getting some 'likes me' vibes. Should I say yes? And would it be wrong to invite my other female pal along if I did?
Don't ask me of I like him, I have no idea. I choose my partners for instant attraction factor, and I didn't have that with him, but I have been thinking about him. I'm worried that I might be using him unwittingly, purely cos of the deprivation of having no one in my life for almost a year. So should I steer clear or be open to the possibilities?
2007-08-12 17:43:43 · 7 answers · asked by Lee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, my confusion about this is reflected above - here's a couple of points to clear it up. He didn't specifically say "alone time", we both like this thing and he just wanted to know if I'd want to hang out and watch it sometime. So he may not even like me at all.
I wouldn't say I'm lonely, just deprived of having fun flirty times with an eligible male who's into me and vice versa, and I'm worried I'm using, or should I say, could end up using him to fill that gap.
I know for a fact he's a commitment kind of guy and is looking for a serious relationship. I've always been the kind of girl who's sworn off dating friends and I've never been tempted to change that by someone who I wasn't initially attracted to physically. He isn't ugly or anything, just didn't have that spark.
2007-08-12 18:02:04 · update #1
So if I usually don't go after guys who are my friends and I'm initially not into, then why am I thinking about him and is it just for my own reasons (as stated above). How do you tell the difference between actual growing feelings and talking yourself into something cos you miss having a guy around?
Sorry, I'm too confused to get this out clearly : (
2007-08-12 18:05:33 · update #2
If you have fun with this guy why not hang out. Some times the best relationships come from friends first. If you find out that you do not have feelings for him be honest.
2007-08-12 17:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him a chance- but if you are not liking him and you know you aren't- you might want to avoid getting into that situation. I've been in uncomfortable situations with guys that I haven't been sure about and when I look back on it- I'm still glad I tried- good luck!
2007-08-12 17:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Me! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this guy friend asked for some "alone" time withyou....i wouldn't be inviting your friend....
ask yourself when you've been thinking bout him...what are you thinking about.?? you say you don't have an "instant attraction" with him? so is it you're connected emotionally with him??rather than physically?
If you feel you're "lonely".why not go out with him and see how that goes?? I don't see how you would be using him ?
Goodluck with that*
2007-08-12 17:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y0u wouldn't be using him unless you went out with him and you didn't like him. Think about whether or not you like him and be prepared for him to ask you out (not necessarily this time) if he doesn't then don't worry about it but if he does and you don't want to then you will know how to tell him. But hanging out with him is not using him.
2007-08-12 17:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have that guilty feeling sweetie. Do whatever you like as long as you feel good & you're not stepping on someones shoes...go ahead...
2007-08-12 17:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by ~~ rAiN & sUmMeR~~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go hang out with him who knows u may find out that you really like him!! have fun!
2007-08-12 17:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by dirt biker88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not making any sense, in what way would you be "using" him???
2007-08-12 17:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by ohmygosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋