Our relationship is so up & down. Last night he took me to a hotel for the night to spend some time and talk. He drank total about 6 beers, 2 7&7's and 2 manhatans. He brought all this stuff in a cooler but had the manhatans at the restaurant. He doesn't think he has a drinking problem. He does cuz he has to drink every day and I am tired of seeing this. How do I get him to realize his problem?
2007-08-12 15:50:58 · 23 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
send him to rehab
2007-08-12 15:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry you will never convince an alcoholic he has a problem. I feel sorry for you if you continue this relationship as he will probably never change. If he does it will be just long enough for the ink to dry on the certificate. I finally got my sister to talk to a minister in our church she is sober but she still says she wasn't an alcoholic she just drank too much. What's the difference. Doctors say any time you feel you HAVE to have a drink you are an alcoholic even if it is one drink regularly. A man went to the hospital to have surgery and the family came. The doctor said to the family I am sorry to tell you we have to cancel the surgery today. Why! they were shocked. The doctor said because he was having alcoholic withdrawal symptoms. They said he only has one drink every night when he comes home from work. The doctor said he has alcoholic withdrawal symptoms and we must wait till he is sober.
2007-08-12 16:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that carries a cooler with six beers and 2 7 & 7's has a problem. Sounds like you had the wrong talk with him.
Next time you are going to "talk" at a hotel tell his mom, dad and his friends and have a intervention.
2007-08-12 16:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by vvicked01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to confront alcoholics. It may take him hitting bottom to realize its a problem. Take a look at site below, and look at the "Is AA for you" section. There is a list of questions that you can ask, or have him answer them himself. Maybe that will give him a clue of his problem. Good Luck
I dont see anything wrong with 1 drink a day with dinner, but more than that each day is over doing it.
2007-08-12 15:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people never realize they have a problem until the problem has escalated so far they turn into different people. Violent, destructive to themselves and others around them. And even if they lose those people who mean the most to them sometimes they still don't stop. My older brother says he cannot function if he doesn't drink his pint of Southern Comfort every day. Plus he sometimes chases it with a small Corona or even adds a double shot of Myers dark rum to the mix. So if they don't listen to reason and get help either with your help or without, it is their choices and no matter what you do, they won't stop. I just hope your bf understands what he is doing to himself and others around him before it is too late.
2007-08-12 16:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he's an alcoholic, make him understand that you'll have to break off this relationship if he continues drinking. Tell him if you both get married, you don't want your kids to have an alcoholic father. This is a warning for him, and if he agrees but has trouble then he can go to lot's of local programs that help alcoholic people.
2007-08-12 15:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by PixieDust 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In chemistry, an alcohol is any organic compound in which a hydroxyl group (-OH) is bound to a carbon atom of an alkyl or substituted alkyl group. The general formula for a simple acyclic alcohol is CnH2n+1OH.
Generally, the word alcohol, when used alone, usually refers to ethanol, also known as grain alcohol or (older) spirits of wine. Ethanol is a very strong and unique smelling, colorless, volatile liquid formed by the fermentation of sugars. It also often refers to any beverage that contains ethanol (see alcoholic beverage). It is the most widely used depressant in the world, and has been for thousands of years. This sense underlies the term alcoholism (addiction to alcohol).
Other forms of alcohol are usually described with a clarifying adjective, as in isopropyl alcohol (propan-2-ol) or wood alcohol (methyl alcohol, or methanol). The suffix -ol appears in the official chemical name of all alcohols.
2007-08-12 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Josh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is the problem that you did not share in his drinking or was is there always just enough for him. Dont get me wrong...... having a drinking problem myself. Someone drinking everyday is never good. Does he maybe need to open up about some things and not hear you harp on him????
2007-08-12 15:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by SavsdadMelsbud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately he has to acknowlege this himself.
it's hard to get a person to listen in cases like this. it also holds true with drugs... AND even cigarettes...
i hear it's just as bad with compulsive eaters and foodies who are making themselves obese.
talk to him.. but expect friction and discomfort. work at it slow.. be honest but don't guilt him to death.. that makes matters worse...
if he can't stop... no matter what.. the big pain is you may have to leave so you don't watch the deterioration.... most cases end up like that unfortunately.
he sounds rather seasoned now... i may be wrong but this sounds like a big task and it can take a lot out of you so be careful.
if he does this daily he's got a problem.. he does have to trim down that drinking it's going to ruin his liver let alone simple things like his looks... relationship... see?
take it easy but know when to stop... if he will never listen you won't be able to make him. when addictive types have their mind set it's pretty much set for life.
in most cases, so don't fret... not all are like this.
unfortunately in many cases it takes a devistating blow in some way to make them slow down... let's hope this doesn't have to be the case here.
good luck and if you love him.. only take so many blows don't kill yourself over it if it's so bad he won't stop.
2007-08-12 15:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by LJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic is someone who is dependent on alcohol and drinks a whole lot of it every day. If your boyfriend drinks this much every day, then he is an alcoholic, and he needs to get help.
2007-08-12 15:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by 1111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have to drink everyday then you have a drinking problem. He needs to get help OR try to slowly keep it away with him. Like go swimming all night and maybe he wont notice that he's not even drinking or give really lonnnnngggg sex. hahah
2007-08-12 15:55:04 · answer #11 · answered by buggy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋