We are just seeing each other..haven't been anywhere but ice cream stand, fast food places...she always insists on paying, even if i offer a few times...i just let her at that point.
2007-08-12 15:38:44 · 31 answers · asked by Alex O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's either a control freak or doesn't want to feel obligated to you for anything yet. This is a bad idea in all kinds of ways because it seems like she's trying to buy you and make you hers by default. Like she owns you because of all the money she's spent on you. Is that what you want? I think not.
2007-08-12 15:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's trying not to seem like a freeloader. Next time INSIST you pay, she'll eventually get tired of paying even if she is the one saying she wants to.
Next couple of dates, you should pay, then maybe go into a you pay one time, she pays next time kind of thing. But any place that is expensive, insist you pay. It will show that you're a really great guy.
2007-08-12 22:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take the bill and insist on paying some of the times. It's obvious she likes you, but if a guy I was running around with let me pay all the time, unless I knew his financial situation, I'd start resenting him letting me pick up the tab EVEN if I initially did it on my own.
That's kind of a double standard, I know, but it's the truth.
2007-08-12 22:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She likes you.. also showing you that you really don't have to spend money on her but OBVIOUSLY would want you to insist that you take the bill. She's merely doing this to let you know that she's not high maintenance and can look out for herself.
If the guy always lets me pay the bill, then man, he's a cheapo. I would soon stop seeing him.
2007-08-12 22:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by __@__ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means she's living with the times. It's 2007, not 1957 anymore. With the feminist movement for equal pay came splitting the bill 50/50.
Though you should at least pay your half, maybe a little more.
2007-08-12 22:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Phaze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's making the invitation to go out? If you invite her, (or want to this coming weekend), maybe tell her up front it's going to be "my treat" so she knows.
If you're planning all these but she's pulling out the money then maybe she just likes to spend money (or she has it from somewhere).
Be polite and thank her, but you could offer to pick up the tab in the future so she knows you have that intention sometime.
2007-08-12 22:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rob S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she likes you but doesn't want to be obligated to you. To me if a man asks a woman out, he should pay. If the woman asks a man out she should pay. So if she is asking you out she is in the right. If you are asking her out & your not picking up the tab, well something is wrong here.
2007-08-12 22:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should start paying. i no it sounds rude, but girls really love when guys refuse to let us pay, even if we dont act like it. it also makes us feel better to offer and even isist on paying, but we really dont want to.
2007-08-12 22:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by lana s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's taking advantage of her.
I say pay your share and if you insist,she'll let you.
Just say,you're not paying,it's my turn and do so.Politely get up and go pay the bill or step in and pay when you order.
It's easy.
2007-08-12 22:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it means ur lucky! if u hav a problem with it u could just pay really fast or ask her y she won't let u pay, or perhaps hav a conversation about splitting de debts, but if homegirl is rich jus sit bak
2007-08-12 22:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by monkwistedsista 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋