is it a guys job 2 ask the girl out? other way around? OR WHAT?!?

Question

i am totally in luv with this guy and i want 2 go out with him but isnt that the guy's job? i dont wanna ask him cuz he mite not even like me and id be embarrassed. :p

i H A T E bein shy!

Answer 1

Try just being friends with him first. Let him know your alive. Once you get to know the real him you might not want him. And the best relationships start with great friendships.

Answer 2

I am a pretty shy person (at times) however, when I like someone or something I go for it. You only live once and you might as well go for what you want. If not, you will probably be wonderinf "what if" for a long time afterwards. 5 years ago I saw this guy at a bowling alley and casually sat down next to him and three of his buddies (I had a female friend with me to make it easier) I started up a conversation with this guy and by the end of the night I asked for his phone number. He called me three days later, which the entire time I cared, but it didn't bother me too much becuase I knew I did what I wanted to do. Now me and that guy have been married for a year after 4 years of dating. So go for it girl...go after what you want. Even if its friendly at first, you will never know unless you try! Good Luck :)

Answer 3

Even though that it has been known to be the responsibility of the guy to ask a girl out, I wouldn't necessarily say that it is. Especially in this day and age. I think that we forget sometimes too that guys can be just as shy as a girl. Think of the pressure that is on the guys to have to be the one to ask the girl out all the time. They risk getting rejected right and left.
I had a guy tell me once that he thought girls had it lucky. They could just sit back and wait for the guy to ask and never have to worry about feeling stupid.
It sucks, but I think you should do it. The first time I did it, I was so scared and the guy actually said no. I felt bad for about 10 minutes then got over it. What else can you do? good luck

Answer 4

Uh, job? Kiddo, we're not living in the 19th century. Gender roles, for all intents and purposes, no longer exist. It is for this reason that you are no longer confined to being a housewife, teacher or nurse. Be happy that this is the case. That said, it's no longer either sex's specific 'job' to do anything. Go do what you want.

P.S.: nobody likes somebody who is entitled or snotty, and that's exactly what women who expect men to do all the work are. Men want to be wanted also, and as such I highly doubt any of them will be anything but flattered to have somebody ask them out.

P.P.S.: "Sweetgirl" is full of ****. I can tell you that because I'M A GUY.

FINALLY: I don't understand why some of the women here think that being women makes it ok for them to not do things that they fear. In short, they say "I think it's the guy's job, because I'm shy and afraid of rejection." Uhm, ok--way to be poster children for denying women equality. If you want to be treated equally, you need to BE equal. Note that the most successful women are those who drop the gendered entitlements and just do their own thing. If you hide yourself from fear forever, you will never succeed at anything.

Answer 5

Well it can go any way doesn't neccesary have to be the guy who ask it can be the girl. Today its more who's not afraid of being let down if you don't try you won't know. What if the guy is just as shy as you? Then what you both miss out on a possible date. Give it a go

Answer 6

Yes its the guys job and if you're that interested then its your job to create the opportunities. Two shy people will have a hard time getting together unless you provide the opportunities that make him want to ask you out. That should make things easier on both of you... or just send him a note that says "if you like me check this box".

Answer 7

I have a question for you --don't you believe in equality between the sexes? If you do, then go to your love interest and ask him to go out with you ;you can use the old stand-by(movies).Some guys actually like a woman who is confident enough to take the initiative and go after what they want.If your shyness rules that out, then try a mutual friend or one of his friends to do it for you.But I think you can do it; I sense you are a confident girl even if you are shy.Go for it and good luck.

Answer 8

In my day,a young lady never,never,asks a guy for a date.If she did it meant the guy could go all the way on the first date.He would never ask her out again.Maybe for a booty call late at night after he takes the nice girl home.You don't have to be shy.You can let him know you like him,just let him do the asking.How do you let him know? Stare at him when he looks up smile and turn away quickly like you were caught checking him out.Then ever time you see him smile.He will ask if he is interested.

Answer 9

It doesn't matter. The girl can ask the guy out, or vice versa. The truth is, most guys prefer the girl to ask him out. But give him a little hint first, like playing with your hair or getting closer when you talk, or even touching his arm or something when you guys talk. Good luck : ]

Answer 10

Well, look at it this way. You are to shy to ask this guy yourself, so you're hoping that he will ask you. How do you know he isn't shy as well? Alot of girl do live their lives like a piece of meat waiting for a guy to choose them, then then try the guy out and see if hes what they want, if not they're back on the shelf waiting for the next guy to come. I'm a guy and I do approach girls I think I would like to get to know, but that doesn't mean i wouldn't like a girl to come up to me. It can be really sexy knowing a girl like me enough to come up and ask me out for once.

So think to yourself, Is it your job to sit on the shelf and hope that guy you like asks you and not someone else, or are you going to show the rest of the girl, this one is to special for me to leave to chance, and I'm taking the initiative to go and talk to him.